i was talking to a workmate yesterday about my jw experiance and my daughters abuse , she told me that she works as a counsellor and had been discussing jws with a colleage , this person had given counselling to a jw woman who was a victim of domestic violence by her jw husband , the elders had done nothing to help the woman and simply told her to stop moaning about it !
the counseller was disgusted that in this day and age women are still treated like that !
the jw lady eventually left her husband , took the children with her and got disfellowshipped !!!!
I know of at least 6 people who will never give the JW's the time of day after our situation.
The victim advocate, Judge, Prosecutor, bailiff, court reporter and a couple of neighbors that were shocked to see the molester having more support in the courtroom then the victim! The victim advocate actually told me how back-wards it was from other molestation cases, she was blown away by it!! I'm thankful we at least had her.
Talk about a bad witness...
the official wt understanding on where to park your butt during the meeting is to move around from meeting to meeting in order to get in more association or whatever but i never really saw things that way.
the kh seating arraingment at my hall went as follows;.
if you sat in the front you were really late or wanted to seem really spiritual.. the elders and pioneers always liked the same seats every meeting.. shiftless ones and those who wanted sympathy for thier back ailments would stand in the back during the talks.. ever had a sister in your hall bring in their own chair and footstool?.
Right side 4 or 5 rows from the front.
hi there, i am pretty new to this forum, this absolutely wonderful forum and i just wanted to know what made you all leave?
what were your positions, responsibilities and at what point did you know you had to leave?
and are there any persons here from ontario, canada?.
Ruth I'm so sorry I was in tears reading your post, I couldn't imagine!
For me it was the molestation of my 9 year old daughter by a very loved and respected ex-elder that sent us over the edge. The way we were treated by our "shepherds" at a most tragic time was shocking and eye opening! We really suffered as a family for a good few years dealing with a trial and the trying to make sure our child was helped all while we were devastated was the hardest thing we ever went through.
We are currently inactive and not planning on going back.
i am a da'd dub circa 1993 (born in).
i have been an extremely successful business owner over the years but about 6 months ago augered in from about 60k feet.
my jw parents have been aware of my situation.
I think that was very loving of you dad. Maybe he's starting to question things himself or maybe he just loves you more then he cares about what others think
for those of you who missed it, my dear husband went into full cardiac arrest on 11/22/10.
he was dead for about five minutes.
our boarder, jose helped me get him out of our small downstairs bathroom out into the kitchen where he started cpr.
Good to hear he's home and resting comfortably. Hope you'll get some rest as well.
brother smart: the serious brother who thinks that he is an intellectual and believes he is "smart"sister armageddon: the sister who says "armageddon!!!
" after any little thing in the newschase: the little boy who is always running around and crawling under the seats no matter what the parents sayjohnny: the little boy who keeps on leaving his snot on the sides of the bathroom stallbrother squeaky: the one in charge of cleaning who tells everyone what to do, but just stands there and conversessister coquette: the congregation slut... or as close to a slut as she can get... flirting with every brother... oh yeah and she was raised in the "truth"brother borrow: the brother who owes everyone money... and still asks to borrow from othersgreg: the boy or girl whose parents are so restrictive that the kid can't watch anything higher than g-rated moviesstormy: the teenage boy or girl who you could bet does stuff behind the scenes, so to speaki'm just speaking from past memories.
not in all of this anymore.
Had quite a few of those in my congregation.
One to add to the list..
Brother Hug a lot : You know the one that insists on a full blown frontal hug to catch a little boob action!! Yuk... that guy gave me the creeps, I would take the long way around the KH to avoid him.
my wife's parents just can't stand that we haven't been to meetings since 2005. both are pioneers, retired, active fanatical jws.. anyway, today mil called the wife and after pleasantries, stated that we should really think about coming back to the meetings so we can better cope.
my wife answered: "cope with what?
" mil: "cope with this old system of things..." wife: "hmmm... we seem to be coping pretty well now".
They talk about how happy they are, but then begin to list all the horrible things going on in the congregation..people getting sick, dying, losing jobs and homes and how the world is at the end and thankfully so
It's really sad seeing them unable to enjoy the wonderful things in life right now! They have to convince themselves it ALL bad and horrible in order to push what they believe.
It's a sad way to live.
my daughter is in the hospital with pneumonia, and possibly a blood clot in her lung.
they'll be testing through the night...apparently, her heart is enlarged as well.
she is scared... and if her jw father catches wind of it, he will be there trying to intefere with her treatment... he lives close by to her, so i'll be flying down in the morning....to head him off at the pass.
(((Coffee)))
my daughter is in the hospital with pneumonia, and possibly a blood clot in her lung.
they'll be testing through the night...apparently, her heart is enlarged as well.
she is scared... and if her jw father catches wind of it, he will be there trying to intefere with her treatment... he lives close by to her, so i'll be flying down in the morning....to head him off at the pass.
What a great mother you are! I'm sure she will be so happy to have you at her side
I hope she has a quick recovery.
is tutoring a friend who happens to have a mother who is a jw.
i've mentioned the mother here before, she knows my mother.
well, our sons have become good friends, they go back and forth between our homes to hang out and play video games.
It's a good thing Jerry has your son and you to talk to I bet it's relief for him to know he can be open with you about how he feels. Lets be honest most kids at that age are very aware that they are being feed some BS.
My 16 year old told me he knew it was a bunch of lies when he was 14. Now, like Jerry is's all about the girls!! (oh no)
