Posts by truthseekeriam

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Elder knocks on my door... couldn't see who it was and I opened it...

by Soldier77 in

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so an elder came to my door the other day in field circus.

i looked through the peephole to see who it was, but the way the door is situated against the sky in the background i couldn't see anything but a silhouette.

not to mention he was standing off to the side so to make it hard for anyone to see who was knocking.. so i open the door thinking it was my friend since he is the only jw that knows where i live.

truthseekeriam

I agree with Flipper.

Somehow people become a bit more sympathetic when they are seeing the other side to those smiling faces themselves.

Sadly for most they prefer to believe victims of the WTS are exaggerating or out right lying when we speak up about how unfairly we are treated in these situations.

I just hope what you said to this elder stays on his mind and he starts questioning, why? Who knows that letter to society and their response just might open his eyes.

I also want to say I'm sorry for him bringing it up once again I know how hard it is to get back on track after they disrupt you, yet again....

It sucks!

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Facebook makes people you don't see very often more real

by sabastious in

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social networks have their pros and cons, but overall i really enjoy them.

it lets you peer into the window of the lives of people you care about that live too far away to have a regular relationship with.

you still feel connected.. -sab.

truthseekeriam

I so agree!! Love Face book.

I reconnect with friends as far back as Jr High and family members I never get to visit.

To me the best thing is all the pictures/videos, I get to see my cousins/friends... babies from the time they come into the to the world to the first tooth and first word!! It's something we would have never had just 10 years ago :)

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untitled

by truthseekeriam in

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just read this commentary...http://www.channel3000.com/news/26164542/detail.html.

and thought to myself, i hope it doesn't take me 20 years before i'll be able to get into the holidays .

we are completely inactive at this point and have no intension of going back, however we do have all our immediate family in the org so we still are trying to avoid being disfellowshipped or da... not sure how long that will last, because i want to live my life and not have that hanging over my head forever.. i look at all the beautiful lights and trees and just want to get into it but i know if i dared the jw neighbors would turn us in.

truthseekeriam

Just read this Commentary...http://www.channel3000.com/news/26164542/detail.html

And thought to myself, I hope it doesn't take me 20 years before I'll be able to get into the holidays

We are completely inactive at this point and have no intension of going back, however we do have all our immediate family in the Org so we still are trying to avoid being disfellowshipped or DA... not sure how long that will last, because I want to live my life and not have that hanging over my head forever.

I look at all the beautiful lights and trees and just want to get into it but I know if I dared the JW neighbors would turn us in. I wish we could just move and start over!! I just hate that they still have some power over what we do!

We did do a couple of fun new things this week. I send the teenagers on a scavenger hunt with clues for presents..they loved it! We also let them take a few presents to their friends at school and they came home with some goodies... they looked so happy to be included for a change.

Baby steps...

I hope you all enjoy your Christmas

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jehovahs witnesses giving a "bad witness "

by looloo in

i was talking to a workmate yesterday about my jw experiance and my daughters abuse , she told me that she works as a counsellor and had been discussing jws with a colleage , this person had given counselling to a jw woman who was a victim of domestic violence by her jw husband , the elders had done nothing to help the woman and simply told her to stop moaning about it !

the counseller was disgusted that in this day and age women are still treated like that !

the jw lady eventually left her husband , took the children with her and got disfellowshipped !!!!

truthseekeriam

I know of at least 6 people who will never give the JW's the time of day after our situation.

The victim advocate, Judge, Prosecutor, bailiff, court reporter and a couple of neighbors that were shocked to see the molester having more support in the courtroom then the victim! The victim advocate actually told me how back-wards it was from other molestation cases, she was blown away by it!! I'm thankful we at least had her.

Talk about a bad witness...

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Where did you sit in the KH?

by Evidently Apostate in

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the official wt understanding on where to park your butt during the meeting is to move around from meeting to meeting in order to get in more association or whatever but i never really saw things that way.

the kh seating arraingment at my hall went as follows;.

if you sat in the front you were really late or wanted to seem really spiritual.. the elders and pioneers always liked the same seats every meeting.. shiftless ones and those who wanted sympathy for thier back ailments would stand in the back during the talks.. ever had a sister in your hall bring in their own chair and footstool?.

truthseekeriam

Right side 4 or 5 rows from the front.

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What made you leave?? What were your core reasons?

by safireblu64 in

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hi there, i am pretty new to this forum, this absolutely wonderful forum and i just wanted to know what made you all leave?

what were your positions, responsibilities and at what point did you know you had to leave?

and are there any persons here from ontario, canada?.

truthseekeriam

Ruth I'm so sorry I was in tears reading your post, I couldn't imagine!

For me it was the molestation of my 9 year old daughter by a very loved and respected ex-elder that sent us over the edge. The way we were treated by our "shepherds" at a most tragic time was shocking and eye opening! We really suffered as a family for a good few years dealing with a trial and the trying to make sure our child was helped all while we were devastated was the hardest thing we ever went through.

We are currently inactive and not planning on going back.

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Incredible Phone Call...Feedback Appreciated

by badcompany in

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i am a da'd dub circa 1993 (born in).

i have been an extremely successful business owner over the years but about 6 months ago augered in from about 60k feet.

my jw parents have been aware of my situation.

truthseekeriam

I think that was very loving of you dad. Maybe he's starting to question things himself or maybe he just loves you more then he cares about what others think

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Home from the Cleveland Clinic

by jamiebowers in

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for those of you who missed it, my dear husband went into full cardiac arrest on 11/22/10.

he was dead for about five minutes.

our boarder, jose helped me get him out of our small downstairs bathroom out into the kitchen where he started cpr.

truthseekeriam

Good to hear he's home and resting comfortably. Hope you'll get some rest as well.

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How many of you have had these in your congregation?

by bottleofwater in

brother smart: the serious brother who thinks that he is an intellectual and believes he is "smart"sister armageddon: the sister who says "armageddon!!!

" after any little thing in the newschase: the little boy who is always running around and crawling under the seats no matter what the parents sayjohnny: the little boy who keeps on leaving his snot on the sides of the bathroom stallbrother squeaky: the one in charge of cleaning who tells everyone what to do, but just stands there and conversessister coquette: the congregation slut... or as close to a slut as she can get... flirting with every brother... oh yeah and she was raised in the "truth"brother borrow: the brother who owes everyone money... and still asks to borrow from othersgreg: the boy or girl whose parents are so restrictive that the kid can't watch anything higher than g-rated moviesstormy: the teenage boy or girl who you could bet does stuff behind the scenes, so to speaki'm just speaking from past memories.

not in all of this anymore.

truthseekeriam

Had quite a few of those in my congregation.

One to add to the list..

Brother Hug a lot : You know the one that insists on a full blown frontal hug to catch a little boob action!! Yuk... that guy gave me the creeps, I would take the long way around the KH to avoid him.

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MIL gives advice on how to "cope"

by AggieNostic in

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my wife's parents just can't stand that we haven't been to meetings since 2005. both are pioneers, retired, active fanatical jws.. anyway, today mil called the wife and after pleasantries, stated that we should really think about coming back to the meetings so we can better cope.

my wife answered: "cope with what?

" mil: "cope with this old system of things..." wife: "hmmm... we seem to be coping pretty well now".

truthseekeriam

They talk about how happy they are, but then begin to list all the horrible things going on in the congregation..people getting sick, dying, losing jobs and homes and how the world is at the end and thankfully so

It's really sad seeing them unable to enjoy the wonderful things in life right now! They have to convince themselves it ALL bad and horrible in order to push what they believe.

It's a sad way to live.