Posts by freddo

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Family dynamics and cult influence

by longgone in

the following incident is nothing unusual to any jw, but i wanted to add on to the list of reasons to never join, and sympathize with those stuck in it, and again a reminder that you can never get away from the mayhem when you have family still in.

in a recent conversation with my jw sister who i love very much, i was reminded how complex and abnormal relationships can become within a jehovah's witness family.families relationships can be difficult with any religion or none, but once we throw in the various labels and restrictions within the jw family it becomes really cultish.

no one outside it could begin to understand.

freddo

Hypocrite elder in our hall has contact with and welcomes into his home his son (who is baptised but who slipped out from jwland "under the radar" twenty years ago - with the Daddy elder keeping his mouth shut and playing craftily by the jw elder book "inactive" rules to what he surely knew was going on) who lives with his "partner" and has a teenage child with her.

Right across the street from said baptised "under the radar" son lives the lady who went to a works Xmas party and who was "unrepentant" and DF'd by said elder and two cronies.

So when Daddy visits son and grandchild - if DF'd lady is in the garden then Daddy will shun her like the true JW hypocrite he is.

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Lots of newbies posting! Welcome one and all!

by freddo in

jw
friends

is there something going on in jaydub land that has brought this on?

hope so!.

freddo

Is there something going on in jaydub land that has brought this on? Hope so!

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Ex JW Campaign Day

by Tight Pants Twinkle Toes in

hi folks, tight pants twinkle toes here - my first post.

i am the husband of the new poster finally left.

we both recently left, my wife after 43 years and 46 years for me.

freddo

Maybe just knock the door and hand them the leaflet. That's all dubs do now days anyway.

October 1st might be good as that is when the Gentile times ended. (Ha!)

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Begining of freedom???

by JW-AWAKED J17 in

hello every body!.

it's my thirst time here.

i'm verry glad to tell you my resignation as an elder in my local congregation.

freddo

You have to be firm about it but not giving them any "apostate" ammunition. Practice doing what The Searcher says in his post.

If they take too long for your liking just do the following -

1. Tell the elders that effective immediately you will not be doing any more platform assignments or leading field service groups. Don't turn up at the meeting on any day you are assigned.

2. Tell everyone else that you have resigned as an elder and are waiting for the elders to sort out the paperwork and the announcement.

That will hurry them along for sure.

just tell everyone you have resigned and are waiting for the elders to get the paperwork sorted so they can announce it.

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This Weekend's Watchtower Study "What You Vow, Pay" from April issue

by BluesBrother in

just some random thoughts here... theme scripture is matt.5: 33 .

we already had a thread explaining that jesus added a "but" after those words.

however, few would argue against the principle of keeping one's word.

freddo

I thought paragraph 11 was interesting ... see the bit I have put in bold? An absolute lie if you got baptised before 1985 when the question was "adjusted" to include "God's spirit-directed organization"

11. What happened on your baptism day?

11 Have you dedicated your life to Jehovah and symbolized your dedication by water baptism? If so, that is wonderful! Recall that on your baptism day, before eyewitnesses, you were asked whether you had dedicated yourself to Jehovah and understood that “your dedication and baptism identify you as one of Jehovah’s Witnesses in association with God’s spirit-directed organization.” Your affirmative answers served as a public declaration of your unreserved dedication and showed that you were qualified for baptism as an ordained minister of Jehovah. You must have made Jehovah very happy

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Breaking News, London: Van Ploughs into Pedestrians

by Simon in

3 male passengers then get out and start stabbing / shooting people according to early reports.. but it could have been anyone for any reason, who knows, possibly jehovahs witnesses or amish.. maybe we'll never know the reason but i'm sure there will be people praying for those involved and hashtags.. thus solving the problem once and for all.. just "life in a big city" according to the muslim mayor of london, sadiq khan..

freddo

I wonder where the next Islamic Peace Truck will visit?

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How do I get you to Visit my house

by I have question in

okay simply put i am not of your faith however my faith allows me to learn and study other people's beliefs and faith's.

now i believe at least from what i have seen that you people are humble and respectful, when interacting with me.

and that watchtower book thing u hand out has actually helped me in the past.... taught me that resentment only hurts me and not the person i resented, that was really needed at the time.

freddo

I have been a Watchtower follower for over 40 years and was used by them as an elder for over 25 of those years too. I would like to answer any questions you may have.

I would also tell you that however humble and respectful Jehovah's Witnesses may be or seem, they are not a healthy group to get involved with.

But that might just be me ... (shrug) - stay a while and ask away.

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How Do You Get Most of Your News?

by minimus in

jw
friends

i read that many people get their news from facebook.

i look online mostly at fox news and the drudge report.

very seldom do i look at cnn.😎.

freddo

BBC mainly. Bit of ITN and Channel 4.

Occasional online newspaper articles. Especially local or specialised stuff.

Anything I want to check out "and google is my friend" and just identify and avoid the tin hat wearers ...

Really important stuff (to me) and I'll check the writer's history and background.

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Feeling Alone. Need Emotional Support.

by Doubtfully Yours in

please chime in if you're one of my kindred spirit that happens to literally be trapped in due to strong family/friends ties, or plain fear of being abandoned in old age.. although leaving the org is my ultimate wish and desire, fear of the unknown, fear of how it would change my family dinamics, plain fear alone paralyzes me.

how do you cope in this difficult situation?

dy.

freddo

Hobbies? Especially ones you can do alone or with others. Volunteer for the local charity shop?

In England you sometimes get a free parish magazine or community newspaper delivered. They often list what's happening locally for the month ahead. For example in the one round here for June there is the following:

4 Saturday Coffee mornings at the local community hall

1st Monday evening - Free computer advice clinic - neighbouring village hall.

1st Weds evening - Table tennis - beginners welcome at 7pm - experienced 8pm

2nd Friday evening - Pub Quiz. Make a team of four or five or phone xyz678 if you'd like to be in one.

Every other Thursday 7pm - gardening tips from "Old Grumpy Gardener" at the allotments. (Weather permitting)

3rd Saturday afternoon - village tidy up - bring gardening gloves and plastic bag - meet at war memorial - 2pm.

Last Tuesday evening - meet with the local police officer to discuss concerns/initiatives for the area - bring a packet of biscuits - tea and coffee provided.

Movie Night - Saturday evening 25th June - £2.50 entry. 7pm "Dead Poet's Society" - Village Hall. Cold soft drink provided.

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How do you talk to a child that believes Jehovah/Armageddon is real

by Anony Mous in

i'm having some serious issues with my child, she is now 5 and her mother is teaching her all sorts of things regards god, jehovah is real, in heaven, pray if you're scared, etc.

the problem is the kid is scared of demons at night and also conflicted that i don't believe, she also figured out jehovah doesn't actually help her not to be scared.. i've tried explaining that i'm there for her, watching over at night.

i've tried introducing her to various churches and beliefs so she understands there is a difference in believes and she likes those churches better than kingdom hall.

freddo

Oh yeah ... Sulley ... not Scully!