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  Being a JW kid is hell

  by JRK in

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  in therapy, i was told i should write a letter of grievances to each of my parents.

  i really do not have any for my mother, except for things that directly relate to being raised as a jehovah's witness.

  upon reflection, my childhood was hell because of the religion and its pernicious corruption of a normal childhood.

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  nbd,

  It was strange, when the therapist told me to write the letters, I thought I had no resentments towards my mother. Then I thought of the religion and it poured out. Mom was the sweetest person, but the cult messed her up.

  JK
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  Being a JW kid is hell

  by JRK in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  in therapy, i was told i should write a letter of grievances to each of my parents.

  i really do not have any for my mother, except for things that directly relate to being raised as a jehovah's witness.

  upon reflection, my childhood was hell because of the religion and its pernicious corruption of a normal childhood.

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  OTWO,

  I am glad that you were spared from the scorn in school. Since my dad was not very involved in raising us kids, mom called the shots about what to do. I am glad that your dad was a buffer for you. My resentment of my dad is more like a book instead of a letter!

  JK
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  Being a JW kid is hell

  by JRK in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  in therapy, i was told i should write a letter of grievances to each of my parents.

  i really do not have any for my mother, except for things that directly relate to being raised as a jehovah's witness.

  upon reflection, my childhood was hell because of the religion and its pernicious corruption of a normal childhood.

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  Shirley,

  Oh yeah, I hear you! As a "divided family," we miss being in a lot of cliques in the congregation. I know I missed out on some events, most of which I didn't care about. One time I got invited to an Elder's house for a Watchtower Study and Taffy Pull. He asks me to step into his den and asked me one-on-one if I was doing anything that the Elders should know about. I said, "I don't know, do you know something I don't know?" So I certainly do not miss the social aspect of the cult.

  JK
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  Being a JW kid is hell

  by JRK in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  in therapy, i was told i should write a letter of grievances to each of my parents.

  i really do not have any for my mother, except for things that directly relate to being raised as a jehovah's witness.

  upon reflection, my childhood was hell because of the religion and its pernicious corruption of a normal childhood.

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  VIII,

  I forgot all about the birthdays and holidays in my letter! How could I have done that? I guess it shows how long it has been since I was young. It sounds like your mom was not a damned pacifist like mine! I am sorry you were molested too. The person that did it to me was the Congregation Servant, and he did it when I was going to go through the 80 questions with him. Thank you fucking Jehovah. Oh yeah, I ain't going to the memorial either.

  JK
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  Being a JW kid is hell

  by JRK in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  in therapy, i was told i should write a letter of grievances to each of my parents.

  i really do not have any for my mother, except for things that directly relate to being raised as a jehovah's witness.

  upon reflection, my childhood was hell because of the religion and its pernicious corruption of a normal childhood.

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  2+2,

  When I was growing up, mom had us pray that my unbelieving father would die before Armageddon, so he would get resurrected. You are right that it is crazy making!

  JK
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  Being a JW kid is hell

  by JRK in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  in therapy, i was told i should write a letter of grievances to each of my parents.

  i really do not have any for my mother, except for things that directly relate to being raised as a jehovah's witness.

  upon reflection, my childhood was hell because of the religion and its pernicious corruption of a normal childhood.

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  dub,

  My mother got baptized right after I was born. She had no clue what it was like growing up in the religion. You are right about the priorities being messed up, that the organization came first.

  JK
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  Being a JW kid is hell

  by JRK in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  in therapy, i was told i should write a letter of grievances to each of my parents.

  i really do not have any for my mother, except for things that directly relate to being raised as a jehovah's witness.

  upon reflection, my childhood was hell because of the religion and its pernicious corruption of a normal childhood.

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  In therapy, I was told I should write a letter of grievances to each of my parents. I really do not have any for my mother, except for things that directly relate to being raised as a Jehovah's Witness. Upon reflection, my childhood was hell because of the religion and its pernicious corruption of a normal childhood.

  I am going to share the letter I wrote to my mother because it describes JW childhood in a nutshell. Please share in the comments some of your experiences growing up JW.

  Mom,

  I wish you never became a JW and wish I would have never been in a cult. It was because of that, and the idealistic viewpoint you had that got me beat up in school. I got picked on because I couldn’t say the Pledge of Allegiance in school, and not stand for the national anthem. I had to not go to sports “pep rallies” so I had to spend that time in detention.

  I got beat up a lot because you told me to “turn the other cheek” like Jesus said. Once kids knew I would not fight back, they picked on me and hit me a lot in school. Being a JW kid is pure hell. That and I was not encouraged to get a higher education. Education was of no value unless it was for the cult. That is why I never brought homework home, I always just tried to do it when I got to school in the morning, and my grades suffered. I could have really excelled in school if I just had any encouragement.

  I was very angry at you when finally remembered in therapy and told you about Elder DD molesting me when I was a child. I told you about it, and you were matter of fact about it and not angry. Then when he died, you were sad and tried to tell me how wonderful he was. That hurt me considering my history with him.

  I do appreciate all the wonderful things that you did do for me, and you were my closest person in the world. Through thick and thin I could count on you. You helped me so much when I had my crazy times and we never shunned each other. You were always there when I needed you. I am glad that is the one cult thing that you and I did not ever follow.

  I wish you were still here, but I am very happy that your suffering is over. I loved you very much! I promise that I will keep feeding your birds.

  Love,

  JK
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  Memorial.. To go or not to go

  by Emily1987 in

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  so, as some of you will know myself and my husband are in the process of fading.

  haven't been to a meeting since beginning of 2017. .

  we weren't planning on going to the memorial, but last week my mother broke down and said that we have to go to the memorial even if it's the only meeting i go to this year.

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  In my city, there are a number of venues for the memorial, including non-Kingdom Halls. Could you fib and say you went to another "celebration?"

  JK
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  Is porn really such a big problem in the wt?

  by purrpurr in

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  in the most recent circuit assembly there was a lot about porn and warning against porn.

  even warning against looking at swim wear adverts!

  so i was wondering, is porn really such an issue in the wt?.

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  Why else do they hump their pillows?

  JK
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  After leaving the JWs - Has anyone stayed with Christianity?

  by rulehayl in

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  i recently made the decision to stop studying with my study conductor, due to a situation i found myself in that led to a high possibility of my unbaptized publisher "rights" being taken away from me.

  i have since told my study conductor i have joined a new church (to which she dropped me like a hot rock, of course).... last time i posted on here, i was progressing nicely towards baptism, and was well into it.anyhoo, i like my new church, very hillsong-esqe.

  so just wondering if anyone else has stayed the course of christianity after leaving the jws, and if so - where did you go?

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  JRK

  My personal experience is no, I was done with religion after leaving the JWs.

  I know of people that left and got sucked into other cults. One went into Scientology and another became Mormon.

  Some others leave and look for a mainstream religion. One of my best friends started like that but later evolved into a total atheist.

  Just do what you want for now, and know that you are free to develop into the true "you" over time. Life is not a race!

  JK