zeb,
You deserve the peace you seek. I hope that you find it.
Personally, my mother died November 8th. I had a few JW's pick up a few things that my mother wanted them to have. Other than that, there has been no interaction.
I have not been contacted by the congregation or any JW since she passed away. I was not even contacted about the Memorial. My sisters have not contacted me since the day my mother died.
My summary is: They are all pieces of shit.
JK