Another quote from Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism by Trungpa. A note of explanation paraphrased from the book: The context is a discussion of "the six paramitas," which are six activities involved in the Bodhisattva path. The word Bodhisattva menas "he who is brave enough to walk on the path of the bodhi," and bodhi means "awake." Paramita means arriving at the other side or shore. This part discusses generosity, the first of the six paramitas.
Transcendental generosity is generally misunderstood in the study of Buddhist scriptures as meaning being kind to someone who is lower than you. Someone has this pain and suffering and you are in a superior position and can save them--which is a very simple minded way of looking down upon someone. But in the case of the bodhisattva, generosity is not so callous. It is something very strong and powerful; it is communication.Communication must transcend irritation, otehrwise it will be like trying to make a comfortable bed in a briar patch. The penetrating qualities of external color, energy, and light will come toward us, penetrating our attempts to communicate like a thorn pricking our skin. We will wish to subdue this intense irritation and our communication will be blocked.
Communication must be radiation and receiving and exchange. Whenever irritation is involved, then we are not able to see properly and fully and clearly the spacious quality of that which is coming toward us, that which is presenting itself as communication. The external world is immediately rejected by our irritation which says, "No, no, this irritates me, go away." Such an atittude is the complete opposite of transcendental generosity.
So the bodhisattva must experience the complete communication of generosity, transcending irritation and self-defensiveness. Otherwise, when thorns threaten to prick us, we feel that we are being attacked, that we must defend ourselves. We run away from the tremendous opportunity for communication that has been given to us, and we have not been brave enough even to look to the other shore of the river. We are looking back and trying to run away.