@FayeDunaway they're probably relieved that they don't have to pay you back unless......you take them to small claims court, since you're no longer their "Brother/Sister".
I remember always being "encouraged" by the pioneers in my Congo to join them in the work. I would look at their beater car, a minimal job, all the hours spent in field circus, and I would say to myself. ...Hell No! What made it worse was when I did spend time with them as a auxiliary pioneer, I would see how MUCH they would gossip about everyone in the hall. What a bunch of judgemental, pious, egotistical, brown-nosing, back-biting, cheap wad, $##t head Mutha&#*@$#!!!