ApagaLaLuz

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  Being a JW Woman - Was It Really That Bad?

  by eljefe in

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  i have seen quite a few posts from many ex-jw women about how unhappy they were about male domination in congregation.

  was it really that bad?

  when i was still a jw, no one ever told me anything to that effect.

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  ApagaLaLuz

  My JW mother was a single parent... that caused all sorts of problems in the organization. She spoke her mind and she had no "head" for the elders to tell to reign in your wife... she was the head of the household being the single mother. She got into hot water all the time for being outspoken.

  Amen to that! Single mothers, were kind of looked down on in our congregation for that reason. There was no MAN for teh elders to run to if her or her kids got in trouble. Most single mothers in my hall were outspoken, and for that constantly counseled. God Forbid, an intelligent woman should speak her mind. None of that! Get back in teh kitchen and make me some PIE!
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  Being a JW Woman - Was It Really That Bad?

  by eljefe in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have seen quite a few posts from many ex-jw women about how unhappy they were about male domination in congregation.

  was it really that bad?

  when i was still a jw, no one ever told me anything to that effect.

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  ApagaLaLuz

  Yes it was! Where I was from, the women pretty much RAN the congregation, and the only recognition we ever got, was the occasional "women are a large army" comment.

  A simple occurance happened once that put things in perspective for me, and ultimately started the ball rolling in my mind. I was a grown adult. I was also engaged. One night my fiance and I went over to another couple's house for dinner and a board game. I wasn't very good at the board game, and I kept saying "man this sucks". No one said ONE thing to me. A WEEK later, my fiance approached me and said that a brother who was in attendance came to talk to him about me. He told my fiance that his wife was offended by me using the word "sucks", and thought my fiance should explain to me where the word originated from, and counsel me for using it. Man-oh-man was I pissed off. If they thought I had a foul mouth before, saying "sucks", they should have heard me then.

  It was at THAT moment that I knew I could not spend the rest of my life being dominated and talked down to because of what was between my legs!
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  I went to the memorial service for Talia Balletti.

  by hubert in

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  2. child-abuse

  i sent a pm to one of the forum assistants telling him this, and he said i should post and let everyone know how it went.. i didn't want to do this until mario posted first, because it's about his daughter, not mine.

  but, i know all you wonderful people out there are waiting for some news on the memorial service, and i think mario is too grief stricken to be able to write right now.

  sometimes these things hit you harder after it's all over, because now you have more time to think about it.

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  ApagaLaLuz

  Thank you for the post Hubert! And thank YOU for going to teh services and offering support where some of us were not physically able to. :)
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  what is the purpose of this site, anyway?

  by xochsi in

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  ApagaLaLuz

  Well Yeah Mini, I'd expect YOU of all people to pick up on it immediately. Unfortunately I'm not nearly as bright. And unfortunately also, not everyone else picked up on the "joke".
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  what is the purpose of this site, anyway?

  by xochsi in

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  ApagaLaLuz

  Brummie! You're such a spoil sport!

  Actually I think it's a shame that someone would play upon the genuine emotions of others. Only to make the rest of us even more skeptical when a newbie who needs genuine support joins.

  ApagaLaLuz of the, 'where did my sense of humor go, cause I'm not laughing,' class
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  ATTENTION ALL! RE: Talia Balleta Memorial Info.

  by Valis in

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  2. friends

  i assume simon is still bringing the site down for upgrade and since it would be good to keep everyone informed i have taken the liberty of hosting the lates infor that mario gave us and ldh has for the florist.

  please make a copy and pass it along to people if jwd is not operating.

  http://www.sassquatch.com/balleta.

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  ApagaLaLuz

  Thanks for the INFO! Good looking out. I've added it to my favorites.
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  Your body is a temple.

  by kwintestal in

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  so don't do anything to it.. leaving a high-control group such as the wts can leave you with an internal desire to rebel against the teachings you once held to.. did you do anything previously forbidden soon after you left the borg?

  tattoos?

  peircings?

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  ApagaLaLuz

  You are the church, I am the Steeple, when we fuck, we're all God's people.
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  If you were Disfellowshipped for Apostasy - would you tell us the details?

  by confusedjw in

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  2. experiences

  how you got nabbed?

  who turned you in - family / friend?

  how they handled the jc?

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  ApagaLaLuz

  I will share via PM
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  WHAT DO YOU SEE IN THE MIRROR?

  by Terry in

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  i see everything falling apart.

  i have to suck it in; strike the right pose and choose the best angle to keep from grossing myself out.. what do you see?.

  i'm 58 years old; what do i expect to see?.

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  ApagaLaLuz

  Scarlett is beautiful. And will most certainly be one of those really cute pregnant gals, who every hates because they're jealous ;)
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  curries ummmmmmmmmm--------

  by vitty in

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  as a british family our favorite food is curry, but lately this has got out of hand, were eating about 3 a week .

  either home made or takeaway.

  when the kids were small i would always make a dinner with meat and veg, but now its gone ridiculous we are addicted.. i hate thinking about what im going to make for the evening meal, its so boring.

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  ApagaLaLuz

  MMMMMM Curry! One of my favorite staples :)

  I love to make chicken curry salad. Instead of using mayo like most normal folks I mix white chicken breast with curry and eat it with sticky white bread. Yummy!!!

  I'm off to lunch now ;)