Yes it was! Where I was from, the women pretty much RAN the congregation, and the only recognition we ever got, was the occasional "women are a large army" comment.
A simple occurance happened once that put things in perspective for me, and ultimately started the ball rolling in my mind. I was a grown adult. I was also engaged. One night my fiance and I went over to another couple's house for dinner and a board game. I wasn't very good at the board game, and I kept saying "man this sucks". No one said ONE thing to me. A WEEK later, my fiance approached me and said that a brother who was in attendance came to talk to him about me. He told my fiance that his wife was offended by me using the word "sucks", and thought my fiance should explain to me where the word originated from, and counsel me for using it. Man-oh-man was I pissed off. If they thought I had a foul mouth before, saying "sucks", they should have heard me then.
It was at THAT moment that I knew I could not spend the rest of my life being dominated and talked down to because of what was between my legs!