Hi everyone, I'm chiming in as the ex-husband.
Of course I lived almost 11 years of Becky's story (including 8 years of marriage), so I know the details. I feel her passion in her writing, but your responses to Becky's post have really moved me.
I'm not going to tell a long story. I was active on Randy's forum, then his private Delphi forum and H2O, and they served their purpose for me.
What I can tell you now is that Becky is an amazing woman, and she (like all of us) is truly finding her way on this fantastic journey of life. She is deep and caring and witty. She's a true friend to those who allow her to be--I say this because being a true friend means being open and honest even if it is painful at times.
She has been a true friend to me. We have shared the delirium of true love, the satisfaction of 'serving God' together in all earnestness, the pits of despair at the prospect of losing our faith and all our treasured relationships, the pain of looking into each other's soul and confessing our own truths....
I'm eternally grateful for the joyful result: true friendship. We share friends, family, and newsy bits--the good and the bad. We are ecstatic for each other in our new intimate relationships and expect only the best for each other.
Life truly is grand, but to have friends like Becky along our individual paths of discovery is my wish for all of you, too. It requires superlatives as yet uncoined.
