By using hitting rather than words or other means of discipline, parents could be depriving kids of learning opportunities. "With spanking, a parent is delivering a punishment to get the child's attention and to get them to behave in a certain way," said Elizabeth Gershoff who studies childhood development at the University of Texas, Austin. "It's not fostering children's independent thinking."
This. Right here. It ain't unique to the Dubs. I do NOT understand why so many parents seem only to care about obedience. At some point, you are not going to be there when you're child has to make a choice. How are they supposed to make an informed, intelligent decision when you never taught them how? You've only taught them to do what you say. Arrggh!