Posts by CrimsonBleu

I am not out to control anything, and yes Mom has a right to her say over her own money. Sister A doesn't think so. If you want to get all legal (as you should) then she (sister A) has no legal right to declare she is Mom's spokesman and is the one in charge of Mom's Money. Mom and I talked about this at great length yesterday, and today some additions and changes will begin to take place. Mom is on my lease. Mom recieves her SSA statements here. Mom's Medical Alert system is tied to this address. We don't need a sole outside banker, especially one who chastises me for a decision Mom made to loan her grandsons a few bucks.

My problem with all this is within myself, and the feelings of hatered I was developing. Those are very alien feelings to me. I was taken aback by my own emotions...that my own sister could possibly invoke that much rage....it had been building up. Carrying that secret about her conversation with Sister B was very difficult for me. I don't like hiding things and carrying dark thoughts.

I told God I can't love her right now and I need Him to do it for me till I found peace. That is the best I can do for my own peace of mind.

Thank you for your input. And above and beyond all that, may you be blessed with peace as well.

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I Hate My Sister and Am Becoming "Seething and Hateful" Like She Says! Help!

by CrimsonBleu in

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friends

this isnt the first time i have posted about problems with one or more of my sisters.

but i need resolve:.

i am disassociated, and have been free for over 25 years.

CrimsonBleu

I feel so much better tonight than I did when I woke up this morning...thanks to all who have helped me sort this out from a 3rd party perspective.

I talked with Mom tonight. Her ID still has her old address on it from where she lived before she lived here with me, and I have to get that changed. I did not know. My sister A said she was going to take Mom to get her address changed last year when we moved here, and it never happened, I have Moms Social Security statement and the lease, which show Mom lives with me, and can take that to the bank. Mom wants to tell them to add me to her account. I told Mom I just want equality, and she agrees, and this nonsense needs to stop. Once SA knows she cannot pull my strings, maybe this will all go away...until the next wave...and God only knows what and when that will be.

I am going to draw that line Grandma Jones! Thank you all. May you be blessed in abundance of Peace and conentment, health and wellbeing for paying mind to my pain. It has diminished substantially, and I can look forward to making my stand to be a good daughter and allow Mom her peace and space to be herself.

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I Hate My Sister and Am Becoming "Seething and Hateful" Like She Says! Help!

by CrimsonBleu in

jw
friends

this isnt the first time i have posted about problems with one or more of my sisters.

but i need resolve:.

i am disassociated, and have been free for over 25 years.

CrimsonBleu

"do NOT use this to transfer control of your mother's money to YOU, because that would appear to be malicious and conniving on your part."

I don't intend to take control...I would like equal access. In fact, now that I think of it, I believe my name may still be on her account from years ago. I will have to see. But should Mom go ahead and have her staements sent to this address?

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I Hate My Sister and Am Becoming "Seething and Hateful" Like She Says! Help!

by CrimsonBleu in

jw
friends

this isnt the first time i have posted about problems with one or more of my sisters.

but i need resolve:.

i am disassociated, and have been free for over 25 years.

CrimsonBleu

Scully, thank you! I think a trip to the bank is indeed in order.

I am concerned that the folks at the bank may think I am the one coercing her if I take her to the bank. I think Mom can handle this emotionally because it would settle an issue.

Would it be right if I simply put in a Change of Address request with the post office? And can I get a Power of Attorney without my sisters involvement?

Thank you, and thank all who have helped me here. This is taking an enormous load off me and Ifeel lighter. I have also prayed, asked God to take this burden away, told him that right now I cannot love my sister, and asked him to do it for me until I can regain my own peace of mind again.