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what should I say: Niece going into rehab 3rd time

by WhereWasI in

so my 35 year old niece is going into rehab for the third time now.

this time it's a long stint, two and a half months.

she got gov't help since she is techinically homeless.

WhereWasI

cskyjw.sun: I missed your thought

But anyway I thought I would let you know that tonight we had an "interventiony thing" as my great niece called it. She didn't quite like it when she realized what was going on. But there we were in my sisters living room. All of the people who loved her and cared about her, I'll just call her Nina. She cried and balked and resisted. But it went down very loving. She thought she was just stopping in to get some money her Ma had left her before going into detox. The lady who brought her there was the sister of the divorced partner who had adopted Nina. This lady was very articulate and good and came into town to take Nina out to lunch but then realized she was needed to make the "interventiony thing" happen and delivered her to my sisters house. So anyway it was a first step. Everything is in place for this girl but it is up to her to take the help. I think she might but not quite yet.

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what should I say: Niece going into rehab 3rd time

by WhereWasI in

so my 35 year old niece is going into rehab for the third time now.

this time it's a long stint, two and a half months.

she got gov't help since she is techinically homeless.

WhereWasI

Designs: I'll be looking for the "Biker Meth King" story.

Also, just an update. Niece left yesterday for the detox part. Now my great niece, her daughter will be living with my sister. She's practically a child of the streets at the moment so my sister and I and also my brother and husband, along with the social worker who helped the niece get into this program will be confronting her to use this time without her mother to grow and gain insight. Also we hope to impart rules. Something she will not like. We are prepared to be tough. There might be some counseling too. The social worker gave us a recommendation.

Here's an odd side point. My niece was engaged to this social worker about 10 years ago. He is a fantastic guy and works with helping homeless people get back on their feet. Another odd side point, my niece has been gay except for this brief engagement period to this guy. More odd points: she is most likely adhd and who knows what else. When niece was involved with a partner, the partner legally adopted great niece and was emotionally brutal.

We'll just have to wait this one out.

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what should I say: Niece going into rehab 3rd time

by WhereWasI in

so my 35 year old niece is going into rehab for the third time now.

this time it's a long stint, two and a half months.

she got gov't help since she is techinically homeless.

WhereWasI

Wha - Just wondering what is a "chip night"?

I'm taking notes from everything you all said and I know what I'm going to say. Thanks again everyone.

I'm going to say something like: Sweetie I'm glad you are still willing to try because that means there is hope. I understand the complexities of addiction. I know this is going to be hard for you but I'm looking forward to having a relationship with the real you, the authentic person you are inside. Relapse is part of recovery. This is another chance for you. We all will be waiting.

I don't know if I will get a chance to say it quite like that but as was said it doesn't really matter what I say.

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what should I say: Niece going into rehab 3rd time

by WhereWasI in

so my 35 year old niece is going into rehab for the third time now.

this time it's a long stint, two and a half months.

she got gov't help since she is techinically homeless.

WhereWasI

Thank you very much, I really appreciate so much input. I tend to think AA can be a cult and that there are other ways to maintain sobriety. True though, it's premise is good and still can be a good start. I like the advice that not much of what I say will be heard anyway and that it all really falls back to her as to what course she will take. I feel so bad for my sister, and also my nieces daughter. They are both living with my sister now.

Thanks again.

WWI

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what should I say: Niece going into rehab 3rd time

by WhereWasI in

so my 35 year old niece is going into rehab for the third time now.

this time it's a long stint, two and a half months.

she got gov't help since she is techinically homeless.

WhereWasI

thanks wha, I think I will

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what should I say: Niece going into rehab 3rd time

by WhereWasI in

so my 35 year old niece is going into rehab for the third time now.

this time it's a long stint, two and a half months.

she got gov't help since she is techinically homeless.

WhereWasI

Band on the run: what, more precisly do you mean by giving only lip service to rehab?

I would like to mention that I have a brother who has been successful in being drug free for about 20 years. As a famly member I stepped in and gave him a new state and city to transform himself, he did have a relapse or two but is very solid now. He has a home and a good job and contributes to society. I feel he reflects a small minority of those who are successful. My father was an alcoholic, sober for 7 years then killed himself. So I am not totally ignorant of the complexities of addiction. Now here it is I'm faced with my niece's addicion and I can't help but feel blank as to what steps to take, I'm a bit numb, that is why I ask for help because I can't think clearly. So thanks for all your help.

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what should I say: Niece going into rehab 3rd time

by WhereWasI in

so my 35 year old niece is going into rehab for the third time now.

this time it's a long stint, two and a half months.

she got gov't help since she is techinically homeless.

WhereWasI

good points. I needed your help. I need to know how I can be most helpful to her. That is really what I want to do.

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what should I say: Niece going into rehab 3rd time

by WhereWasI in

so my 35 year old niece is going into rehab for the third time now.

this time it's a long stint, two and a half months.

she got gov't help since she is techinically homeless.

WhereWasI

So my 35 year old niece is going into rehab for the third time now. This time it's a long stint, two and a half months. She got gov't help since she is techinically homeless. I'm very dissapointed in her, to say the least, and I want to get that point across to her before she leaves on the 30th. I want to say something to her like: don't play around this time, don't try to make friends, do the work, figure it out. etc. She has a confused 17 year old daughter who I would like to see rescued somehow. Me and my sister have some plans for that. But what I would like to know is what should my departing words of wisdom be for this niece. How brutal should I be? Or should I be sympathetic? I want to give her some departing words. Some kind of one liner. I'd like to say " Don't try to make friends, work on yourself." Let me know if you have any thoughts. I'd appreciate it.

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Ruh roh!

by Dagney in

jw
friends

i think i just blew my former bible students mind.

she knows i'm out, and essentially she is also, except for one child that started studying and may return.. i posted "merry xmas" to all the fb friends.

i didn't think a thing about it.

WhereWasI

there comes a time when you just gotta be you. As you so eloquently put it "Ah well".

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Breaking News from Steve Unthank - Police Launch Investigation into Traralgon Congregation

by Broken Promises in

australia, breaking news: police launch investigation into the rape and molestation of a number of children with the traralgon congregation of jehovah's witnesses.

jw news can report that victoria police have launched an investigation into the rape and molestation of a number of children within the traralgon congregation of jehovah's witnesses over the past two years.

according to initial reports,... the body of elders were strictly ordered by the watchtower bible and tract society of australia to cover-up the multiple rapes of a number of children within the traralgon congregation allegedly committed by a fellow member of the jehovah's witness religion.

WhereWasI

I was thinking about Flippers dream where he dreamt that he and the Mrs. walked into a convention. He reflected when he woke up about how a complete stranger including child molesters could walk in and befriend parents to get to the children. Flip said there are no check systems in place.

So then I remembered how during the announcements they remind the flock to not leave valuables because of the unsuspecting bad element that could wander in. What about our most valuable children? No, it's all about the money. They don't care about the children.