Posts by raindrops

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A double life

by raindrops in

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i am usually a lurker here.

i was disfellowshipped about 3 years ago.

my relationship with my family has never been the same.

I am usually a lurker here. I was disfellowshipped about 3 years ago. My relationship with my family has never been the same. I just had a baby three months ago, and I miss my family dearly and want them to be in my baby girl's life.

Recently,I have been going to a few meetings at the kingdom hall and I see how much my relationship with my family has improved. Because they think I am returning to the "truth", they are talking to me more and I visit them more often. I feel like I should start pretending to go back to being a JW,out of desperation to be close to my family again.

I would have to live a double life, since now that I am married and have a baby,I want to celebrate holidays and not be in the JW religion. But, I have no choice right?If I want my family to be part of my life,I have to go back... I have to grit my teeth and fake it. Does anyone here live a double life? How do you manage it?

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Should I just keep my distance?

by wavvy in

jw
friends

reading other people's posts, its obvious that those of us who still have contact with our jw family are constantly bombarded with sick propaganda designed to make us feel guilty and scared.

we are all so happy to be out, yet these contacts with our family revive all the bad feelings.. my parents are always calling me to meet up with them for coffee or something.

i don't want them to be a part of this new life of mine because i don't need that kind of crap all the time.

raindrops

Hi!! Newbie here!!! Okay, I feel the same way too when I visit my parents. I have to actually sit down and emotionally prepare myself and tell myself not to feel guilty or ashamed of my decision to leave the JW lifestyle before I go over to their place. But I think you are blessed to still have them there talking to you and wanting to spend time with you. I think they really do care about you. Like the others said, just change the topic if they start with JW topics. Show them that you have unconditional love for them. Show them that no matter what religion or beliefs they choose to follow, you respect and love them. That is what I try to do when I go over to my family's house. But lately I have been calling my mom and she has not answered back in a week. I am afraid I am losing them. I wish you the best!!