Posts by darkl1ght3r

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Is it my imagination or have the wording in WT publications been altered?

by artemis.design in

jw
friends

i am fairly new on here.

i grew up as a jw but never got baptised.

i have distanced myself from jw teachings for at least 10 years.. recently i was reading dawkins "the god delusion".

darkl1ght3r

Farkel!!!! Brilliant! LLOL! (Literally Laughed Out Loud)

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SEARCHING FOR MEN

by hamsterbait in

jw
friends

the kingdumb misery for august has an item on how to attract men - into da troof.. subsection "searching for men.".

on the one hand they claim that the increases are so huge (in the mundane sense) that they desperately need men.. i took it to indicate that so many with penises are leaving, they are having trouble finding gofors to do their pedo protection work and witch hunting for apostates.. how things appear different now.. whereas before you were not to associate with unbelieving husbands, now they are suggesting helping him build a fence.

it was even suggested playing golf, or at least finding out what he is interested in so you can talk about it.. if you meet a male in the ministry you should talk about what he is really into.

darkl1ght3r

LOL... I gotta see this article for my self. Maybe they should try taking out a personal ad or eHarmony or something.

"Hot, sultry, past-her-prime Cult, seeks hardworking, clean cut, castrated male. Must be willing to be subjugated to my will, and not prone to "independant thinking". Must enjoy dull music, 'in-speak', and long walks in 110° heat. A plus if has window washing skills and 4 door sedan. First 1000 respondants will skip 'Publisher' and be promoted straight to 'Ministerial Servant'. Don't worry there's pleanty of meaningless titles to go around. Call 555-CULT, ask for Governing Body. Pedophiles OK but NO Catholics please."

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A question for the faders on here

by JWinprotest in

the other day our meeting was cancelled and we didn't even get a call from the elders to advise us.

i take that as a sign that our fade is working.

the next step i would like to implement is not turning in a field service report.

darkl1ght3r

I agree with pretty much all of the above... don't worry. They're just men. Congratulations on the fade JWinprotest!!! You won't regret it! (Duh)

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Dating in the Real World...

by darkl1ght3r in

...or, love stinks.

i am so unprepared for this.

i feel like a kid just walking into willy wonka's chocolate factory.

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Psychotic Parrot - Yeah, fucking around sounds like a great option if I could find someone to fuck around with. lol You make it sound like it's easy. Maybe for you. I'm really not the 'one-night-stand' kind of guy though. Not opposed to it... I just don't pursue it I guess.

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Dating in the Real World...

by darkl1ght3r in

...or, love stinks.

i am so unprepared for this.

i feel like a kid just walking into willy wonka's chocolate factory.

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Mr. Flipper - Ugh... Online dating. I don't know man. Thanks for the suggestion and I'll definately give it some thought. And I didn't want to admit it, but my "new" family pointed it out to me several times, that one certain things... I'm very green and naive. And THAT is a direct result of how I was raised. So, yeah, totally agree with you there. Hey, I look forward to talking again!!!

Hey SayWhat... You sure you're 22? I think you're wise beyond your years. Good post.

I don't mean to sound like I blame the Watchtower for everything I feel is wrong in my life, I look around at "worldly" people I know who never had to deal with a cult, and my circumstances are better than 90% of them. The only thing that holds me back that is directly from them are the emotional scars that are still fresh from a rough exit. But yeah, you're right, I do need to focus less on the "Woe is me" aspect of everything, and start really focusing on all the good things I've got going for me. And I've got alot, really. I know I've got a ton of potential, I guess I'm just sacred that I'm running out of time to realize it.

So I personally don't think you/I/we are *that* effed up from the Watchtower as you think you are. Inept at things others learned early in life, yes, but all those lessons you think you missed out on could be the things people would pay someone to miss out on (getting dumped over and over again, having friends involved in your relationship, dating an friend of a friend, messing with a friend's ex, who gave you crabs... I tell ya my 'wordly' friends had some good times)

That is awesome. You are so right. What exactly did I miss out on? Do I really even want that kind of "experience"? Great perspective. I'll take that with me.

You can say ,"I was in a cult for a couple of years, haven't spoken to my family in a while, and throughout it all am happier than ever- can you pass the pepper?"

And then she'll go, "REALLY? OMG I never met anyone whose been in a cult before- tell me all about that..." Make it more funny rather than a sob story and you'll look cooler. If it appears like you are still going through the painful emotional stuff of it all (and really when Aren't we going through the bs of it all with family still in it?) then she'll see you as a problem to add to your life (although some women LOVE taking care of broken guys so exeptions to every rule).

Be honest and turn your so called hinderance into an interesting fact about yourself.

Great points! Yeah, I know how depressing it can be to be around someone who can only seem to talk about how bad their life suks. It really is a state of mind thing that WE CAN actually control. You can let a situation make you depressed and sad and you can project that negativity on everyone you meet. Or you can try to find the humor in the situation and learn from it, let it make you stronger.

Own it and werk betchcakes.

Um. Yeah, sure. Whatever you say.

(What does that mean????)

Haha, yeah the best part of this whole experience is everything I've learned in the last year has really helped me grow as a person and start to come into 'my own'. I've gained more prectical experience in the last year than the last 10 in the cult. I'm thankful to be in such a good place right now, with a whole world to explore. I just want to make the most of it. I'm overall a very optimistic person when considering the whole scope of things, I just tend to get bogged down in the gritty details, and sometimes pessimism sets in.

Thanks for the words, everyone.

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Platypus = Proof God has a sense of humor or proof of evolution....what say you!

by Witness 007 in

australian marsupial which strangely lays eggs!!

looks like a cross between a duck, otter, beaver.

also rare, it is a venmous mammal with poison spikes on its hind legs.

darkl1ght3r

Ebola Virus = Proof God doesn't have a sense of humor AND is an evil sadist.

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Dating in the Real World...

by darkl1ght3r in

...or, love stinks.

i am so unprepared for this.

i feel like a kid just walking into willy wonka's chocolate factory.

darkl1ght3r

bluecanary! Exactly the kind of feedback I was looking for. Great post... some real food for thought there.

First of all... my own website? Hmmm... that takes WAY more of an attention span than I'm capable of sustaining. But I appreciate the props. Maybe a blog?

Drop my "hot-girl" obsession?!?! 'Tis easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle, than for me to... well you get the picture. You might as well ask me to not be a guy. Your ex-jw friend is a woman. It's way easier for a woman to make that kind of decision than for a guy. But I agree... who knows where things will go for me? I'm still exploring this new place I'm in.

Water seeks its own level. If you are "broken" for whatever reason, you are going to attract a girl who's in the same place. And those relationships don't usually turn out well. Get yourself fixed first. (Insert neutering joke here.)

That's deep. So true. I am broken. That's what I attracted. And that's where we ended up. I don't know how to fix myself (pun!)... Just time I guess. And effort, I don't give up easily and I'm always trying to improve myself. So yeah, just time.

Love enters a man through his eyes, a woman through her ears. Men can get away with a lot more in the looks department because, even though a woman does care what he looks like, she cares more what he acts like, what he tells her and what his reputation is to others.

YOU need a website. That's also true. And unfortunate for me.

Nice guys don't get the girls. There are generally two possible reasons for this. First, because he's not as nice as he thinks he is. A guy can be all sweetness and affection to his girl, but if he's rude to the waiter, forget it.

There's my problem! I'm nice! I've been told I'm too nice... even to a FAULT! It just takes alot to phase me and get me pissed off. I'm always nice to my waiter/waitress cuz I used to be one. I'm a big tipper.

Second, he's too nice, to too many people. Women want to be special. They like the "bad boy" because he's tough and assertive, but when he's with her and only with her, he's a teddy bear. That doesn't mean you have to join a biker gang, but confidence (not arrogance) will get you farther than being meek, self-deprecating or passive.

Hmmm... I am nice to everyone. But I also see the need to make the Woman feel special. In fact I used to over do that in the past. I would find out that a girl liked me back, and I'd smother her with attention. I figured out pretty quick to stop doing that. I wonder if I've swung back too far in the other direction? I'm much more emotionally reserved than I used to be. I keep it all bottled up.

I used to kinda be good at the "bad boy" shtick when I was growing up. Or at least I THOUGHT I was. I don't like to work on cars, watch football, or wear dirty laundry... I actually like cleaning house. But I do lot's of other 'tough guy' stuff. I rock climb and train at MMA and Muay Thai kickboxing... Alot. And I'm good at it. I even spar alot. AND I LOVE IT. I routinely show up at work with black eyes, a bruised nose, a fat lip, and limping. I'm even considering actually fighting at an amature level. That's pretty tough, right? Outside of that, I'm sooooo non-aggressive though. Am I still a "bad boy"? I'm confident, but also passive alot. I just don't like puffing myself up to appear to be more than I am... but I have noticed that guys who do that often have women following them around. Now there's something to be said about the QUALITY of those women... but... yeah.

But that reminds me of something I've noticed that frustrates the HELL outta me! Some women will pass up the perfect man of their dreams to obsess and fawn over the drunk asshole whos dumped them 5 times, cheated on them, talks down to them... ahhhhhgh! (I think that's what happened with the 20 year old actually.) Why? That makes no f*cking sense! I'm sane (shut-up, yes I am), I have a good job, I'm nice (and proud of it), I'm physically fit, and i think I have a good sense of humour? But I guess I should start taking Asshole lessons.

Please, please... more feedback of this nature.

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Dating in the Real World...

by darkl1ght3r in

...or, love stinks.

i am so unprepared for this.

i feel like a kid just walking into willy wonka's chocolate factory.

darkl1ght3r

Thanks for the feedback everyone, and thanks again for the positive reviews! Writing is certainly thereputic. I really want to be an ex-ex-jw, but I've got so much emotional baggage tied up with them that I just can't completly move on yet. Wish I could.

Spectre - True. They're so obsessed with the OT, it's actually suprising they don't condone rape in order to force a young virgin to marry. Hm. Maybe "New Light" is on the way!

Hint - I have a perspective on the rash of "chic-flicks for guys" as I call them, (like Knocked Up). Well, that's exactly what they are: Chick-ficks for guys (I thought of a good name for them that I'll just leave to your inagination). They showcase a charming average Joe who somehow despite all odds woos the gorgeous woman of his dreams. Like chick flicks, they're unrealistic. And yeah, of course it's not just a JW problem... but a JW upbringing didn't help. At all. And maybe this is unrelated, but I find myself wondering what I could've been if I hadn't wasted my youth pioneering. Ya know? Oh, and the voices in my head stopped talking to me when I got DF'd. I miss them.

FHN - Nope, I'm not one of those people.

Farkel - Wow. I didn't even see that. And no, I don't think they did either...

rocketman - Yeah, I agree the 20 year old was not my measuring stick. But it was the 'shock' that inspired the above mental gestation. That situation is not typical. But I thought it was funny. But seriously, for as bad a stereotype as some women give men... some (many) women seem determined to earn a WORSE stereotype for their own kind. Men are pigs huh? Well... never mind. Good thing I don't buy into hasty generalizations.

BabaYaga - You're too kind. Brilliant is a BIG overstatement. And I laugh at my pain too. It's how I deal.

FinallyFree - It's just that when I look at the pictures in the YPA book, I start to hear "Take On Me" in the background... it's the clashing colors, funny hair, and shoulder pads.

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Dating in the Real World...

by darkl1ght3r in

...or, love stinks.

i am so unprepared for this.

i feel like a kid just walking into willy wonka's chocolate factory.

darkl1ght3r

I also found the wording in this "experience" (if real) sorta hilarious...

***ypchap.30p.238AmIReadyforMarriage?***

One teenage bride says of her husband: “Now that we are married, the only time he acts interested in me is when he wants sex. He thinks his boyfriends are just as important to be with as I am. . . . I thought I was going to be his one and only, but was I fooled.”

Well young teenage bride... maybe you shouldn't have married a dude who apparently "plays for both teams". Just sayin.

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Dating in the Real World...

by darkl1ght3r in

...or, love stinks.

i am so unprepared for this.

i feel like a kid just walking into willy wonka's chocolate factory.

darkl1ght3r

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What am I waiting for?!?!?!