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Hello,
I've been lurking on this board for a while, but now something's come up and I needed to make an account for advice. So, after months of being too lazy to register, I finally have an account to post with.
My situation is I live at home with parents, although I'm way too old to be... But, that's a long story how I ended up back at home, so maybe I'll tell that one another time.
Anyway, its probably been close to a year since I've been to a meeting, excluding the memorial and any assemblies. Well, I've had, let's call him... Brother Brain-Dead... I've had Brother Brain-Dead come by with someone else from the congregation a few times (usually either waking me up or coming when I'm getting ready for work) to waste my time in an attempt to encourage me to go back to meetings. The last couple of times he's been here I've successfully ignored him because no one else was home to answer the door and so I continued sleeping. Putting up with him, (especially when he brings the newly baptized Brother Over-Righteous) is extremely annoying, but now there's a new problem.
While my dad was at the meeting, one of the biggest nut jobs in the congregation, who happens to be the PO, lets call him... Brother... no, let's just call him The Freak. (This guy is waaay out there. You can't have a normal conversation with him. Its always spiritual and how wonderful Jehovah and the truth is. The tone of his voice when he talks sounds rehearsed and phony, like his not his real voice, but he's trying to make it sound pleasant and happy. The best example I can give of why he's a freak would be when he gave the prayer at the memorial, at an auditorium full of people and throughout the whole dragged out prayer, he was crying because how touched he was that Jehovah sent his mini-me to earth to die so we can touch ourselves at night and be forgiven by Brother Knorr up in heaven).
Sorry... what was I talking about? Oh yeah! So anyway, The Freak is going to come by with someone else, apparently randomly, because no one has asked me for a time that would be convenient or even if I want his crazy-@$$ over here. I want to avoid any kind of "encouragement" they're going to try to offer. So, my question is, what is the best way to handle this? I'm not going to start going back to meetings because he comes. I'm not going to agree to go back to meetings or service while he's talking to me. Its going to be near impossible to keep my trap shut and not tell him that he's a freak in a cult while laughing in his face, so I'd like to avoid even meeting with him.
What can the elders do if they come by and I decline to meet because I'm busy when they pop by, or I decline to set up a time for them to come because there's no need for it, due to the fact that when (which is never) I start going back, will be when I make myself, not because two people came by to read scriptures at an attempt to guilt me and tell me things I've heard a million times before? I've done nothing to get DF'ed, well besides creating a few websites to resell porn subscriptions, but hey, they don't know about that. Is being inactive and resisting their efforts to suck me back into the cult grounds for them to take any kind of action against me? I'm trying to fade because, like a lot of us, I have mostly my entire family and friends in the cult. Also, a large part of my income, which comes from side-work I do, relies on JW business and their JW referrals.
Any advice or similar experiences and your outcome will be greatly appreciated :)