I sent you a PM Lady Lee!!!
I really appreciate you and others listening to me. I just have been so embarrassed about this and so I have just not asked for help. Now I have to or I am going to just go crazy.
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I just had so much fun!!!
by Lady Lee ini just got back from a ride along the world's largest skateway .
a highlight of winter in ottawa is the rideau canal skateway, the worlds largest skating rink.
skate through the heart of downtown ottawa on the rideau canal, a unesco world heritage site.. the skateway is 7.8 kilometres long, and begins just steps from canadas parliament buildings.
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Got a question about disabilities? I have answers
by Lady Lee inas many of you know i suffer from a few disabilities.
i also worked for many years with people with a wide range of disabilities including deaf and hard of hearing, visually impaired and blind, mobility impairments (use crutches, walkers, scooters or wheelchairs).. having been on two sides of a disability i know a lot of people are confused.. here is something from my life that i experience regularly.
i'm in a wheelchair now and although i don't use it in the house i do use it to go out.
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Lady Lee
You have a PM from me
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Got a question about disabilities? I have answers
by Lady Lee inas many of you know i suffer from a few disabilities.
i also worked for many years with people with a wide range of disabilities including deaf and hard of hearing, visually impaired and blind, mobility impairments (use crutches, walkers, scooters or wheelchairs).. having been on two sides of a disability i know a lot of people are confused.. here is something from my life that i experience regularly.
i'm in a wheelchair now and although i don't use it in the house i do use it to go out.
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I don't know how to edit my post so I have to correct myself in another post.
Metatron the raised toilet is an handicap aid you buy to put on top of the existing toilet.........sorry when I reread what I said it seemed confusing lol
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Got a question about disabilities? I have answers
by Lady Lee inas many of you know i suffer from a few disabilities.
i also worked for many years with people with a wide range of disabilities including deaf and hard of hearing, visually impaired and blind, mobility impairments (use crutches, walkers, scooters or wheelchairs).. having been on two sides of a disability i know a lot of people are confused.. here is something from my life that i experience regularly.
i'm in a wheelchair now and although i don't use it in the house i do use it to go out.
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@Metatron
Wow that has to be really hard for your friend...... Are you talking about going to the toilet at home?? If so she/he needs to get a raised toilet with handles on each side. That way they don't have to heave themselves off and on the toilet. Also they do need a bar beside the toilet to hold on to so they can transfer to the wheelchair. I have a bar beside my toilet, I can't get up otherwise. I don't have the raised toilet right now, have to get one but it helps a lot. My Mom got brain cancer and she lost her mobility, the raised toilet made it so she could at least do her toilet stuff privately
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Got a question about disabilities? I have answers
by Lady Lee inas many of you know i suffer from a few disabilities.
i also worked for many years with people with a wide range of disabilities including deaf and hard of hearing, visually impaired and blind, mobility impairments (use crutches, walkers, scooters or wheelchairs).. having been on two sides of a disability i know a lot of people are confused.. here is something from my life that i experience regularly.
i'm in a wheelchair now and although i don't use it in the house i do use it to go out.
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Oh I was writing while you were writing Lady Lee, I thank you for your post.
I applied for ODSP last year, I can't get ANY help because my boyfriend lives with me and has a job. When I applied he made $200 a week and I have a widow's pension of $400 a month so we together make to much MONEY. I never worked for anyone (had my own business) so I can't get help from the govt for disability pension. I can't work now because I can't do much more than use my fingers for typing lol.
I want to leave my boyfriend, he is emotionally draining for me and making me sicker. (Long story).......its all very complicated but something is going to have to happen soon. I need to get away from him for my health and so I can get govt help and so I can move to a bigger town. I am on a list (just applied) for subsidized housing but I have to sell my house first.....or walk away from it to get help. I have a house (the bank owns most of it) and can't afford to pay the mortgage and utilities now but I can't get help because I own it. Go figure.........lol
I will PM you my email address Lady Lee so we can chat. I sure could use your advice and hope you don't mind me asking for it.
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Got a question about disabilities? I have answers
by Lady Lee inas many of you know i suffer from a few disabilities.
i also worked for many years with people with a wide range of disabilities including deaf and hard of hearing, visually impaired and blind, mobility impairments (use crutches, walkers, scooters or wheelchairs).. having been on two sides of a disability i know a lot of people are confused.. here is something from my life that i experience regularly.
i'm in a wheelchair now and although i don't use it in the house i do use it to go out.
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Thanks Dovey for what you said
I am finally faced with loss of independence this past year........being winter and all now I am totally isolated and just now realizing that this doesn't have to Happen. I am going to have to find HELP and make some local friends.......though it is a viscious cycle. I can't get out and so I don't make friends. My whole social life is on my computer........
I need to move, probably will very soon to a bigger town where there is more amenities. It all seems overwhelming right now though and my boyfriend is in denial about all this Still. Its a complicated story which I can't really write about in a public forum. However I see now that I don't have to be in this situation. All I need to do is find a way to get help. My boyfriend is very anti social and thinks he can do it all himself.......but he is not at all helpful. He gets ANGRY every time we go out, NOT at me but at everyone on the road or in the parking lot and I just find it so stressful that I don't want to go anywhere with him..
I just need to move to Ottawa and hang out with Lady Lee ;-) heehee
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I just had so much fun!!!
by Lady Lee ini just got back from a ride along the world's largest skateway .
a highlight of winter in ottawa is the rideau canal skateway, the worlds largest skating rink.
skate through the heart of downtown ottawa on the rideau canal, a unesco world heritage site.. the skateway is 7.8 kilometres long, and begins just steps from canadas parliament buildings.
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Hi Lady Lee
I couldn't find this thread after I posted the first time. Now I see all I had to do was go to my profile and find my latest posts lol.
Thank you for that advice. I sure could use some now. Things have really gone downhill for me quickly this past year. I was advised to get a power wheelchair but I wasn't near as bad then when so I opted for a scooter. That was 2 years ago. I have to wait another 3 years for the govt and MS society to help me get a power chair.........so I must deal with what I have. The Cape sounds interesting. I must get me something soon.
I don't live near Sudbury I am about an hour north west of Peterborough and 25 minutes North of Lindsay Ontario and #7 highway. It is a little little tourist town and its not very easy to find help here. I need to move to a bigger town soon. I moved here 5 years ago from Toronto. I was healthy then or I wouldn't have moved to a place where I didn't know a soul.
It seems I could learn a lot from you ;-)
Thanks again Lady Lee
Hugs from Deceived (My name is Paula)
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Got a question about disabilities? I have answers
by Lady Lee inas many of you know i suffer from a few disabilities.
i also worked for many years with people with a wide range of disabilities including deaf and hard of hearing, visually impaired and blind, mobility impairments (use crutches, walkers, scooters or wheelchairs).. having been on two sides of a disability i know a lot of people are confused.. here is something from my life that i experience regularly.
i'm in a wheelchair now and although i don't use it in the house i do use it to go out.
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I just found this Thread Now..........Wish I saw it earlier. I have been on this forum for a little over 2 years but it seems I don't post enough to fit in. I did at first (share and post) but now I kind of ran out of things to contribute. I was raised a JW, in the 1950's 60's......My Dad was an Elder and I had a horrible childhood. I left the "truth" in my 30's.
I have totally lost my independence this year.......but now I see it is probably because I do not have a support system. I have had countless visits from physiotherapists, social workers etc but they don't help you with outside social needs.
I have been so depressed the past months because I just can't get out especially with the Cold and snow. The last year has been horrible for me. I see by reading what is happening with others that you can deal with life happily despite health issues. I live in a really small town in Ontario Canada, have NO friends as I am new to the community and my boyfriend is my only source of getting out and about and he is so cranky about doing it I just avoid it. I hate asking people to help that I barely know in the community, in fact we have asked and they make excuses not to help.
I have always been independent and self sufficient and so this sudden problem is baffling me and is frightening also. My family is small and live about 2 hours away, they don't help me as they can't get to me. There is Community Care here but I don't qualify at the moment for govt assistance (because my boyfriend lives with me and has a low paying job)so I have to pay for the trips to doctors etc I ran out of money so I can't afford to pay drivers to take me places. Its a bit of a difficult situation right now.
I have MS, severe disc degeneration and severe osteo arthritis in my lower back. I can walk but not without a walker now. I Drag my right leg and I fall if I don't use a walker. Even with a cane I fall. I broke my arm badly last year falling so I use a walker in the house. Going out I have to have a wheelchair or scooter. I am in HUGE pain if I walk for more than 10 feet at a time. This all happened gradually over the past 3 years but now it is accelerating and I have totally lost my independence.
I feel like I am whining and complaining but I sure would like some advice from others in Ontario Canada who have info on how to get support from the community or govt.
Velvet aka Deceived
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I just had so much fun!!!
by Lady Lee ini just got back from a ride along the world's largest skateway .
a highlight of winter in ottawa is the rideau canal skateway, the worlds largest skating rink.
skate through the heart of downtown ottawa on the rideau canal, a unesco world heritage site.. the skateway is 7.8 kilometres long, and begins just steps from canadas parliament buildings.
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OH my Lady Lee, you are quite the inspiration. ME I don't go out at all in this weather and I have a scooter. Its so icy and cold and the sidewalks aren't plowed. I haven't been out of the house since before Christmas.
So if you can do it with a wheelchair I certainly can do it with a scooter. ;-) I admire you being able to maneuver your wheelchair. I don't have the strength in my arms to do the wheelchair by myself. I broke my left arm last year and its never been the same since.
I have had MS for the past 3 years and its progressing rapidly and in the last year I can't walk.........so this is still a bit new to me. Its good to hear that life is not over because we are handicapped. I have been feeling pretty down about not getting out as its so cold and snowy. I live about 4 hours straight west of you
Thankyou for sharing your story
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JW Whips 12 year old daughter to death !! This is very graphic be warned!!
by Hairyhegoat inthis is a old case but just shows what goes on behind closed doors if you are a jw family.
this arsehole needs to go to the chair!!.
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that is just HORRIBLE!!! As far as I am concerned it has a lot to do with religion and the JW religion encourages it.
I am not comparing myself to this incident but for example of JW mentality. When I was 16 my JW Dad (a elder) beat me with his belt repeatedly until I was bleeding and bruised, He tried to pull off my pants but I kept pulling them back up and that made him angrier. I was not tied down though. It was over some silly thing but it was his JW principles that inspired it. He said my Mom and I were worshipping animals because we were visiting some JW friends and we took our little dog with us. they didn't allowed dogs in the house and it was 40 below 0 outside so my Mom and I kept going out to the car to make sure the dog was OK. This infuriated my Father. That same night he threw pots and pans and my Mom and hit her too because she told me I could go to bed (3 AM). He had told me and her to look up watchtower articles on how we were worshipping animals. He hauled me out of bed by my hair and whipped me and shouted at me. If that was these days he would be in jail for sure. I did not talk to my Dad for 3 months after that. I hated him and vowed to leave home the minute I turned 18. I did and got disfellowshipped shortly after. I finally forgave my dad in the year 2000 when he said he was sorry and begged my forgiveness. He had left the JW religion by then. He died in 2001.