Congratulations NVL Now you can go on and Live your life with freedom to be yourself. When I was disfellowshipped I pushed for it as I was just fed up with the Gestapo type lifestyle. You were very brave to go to the meeting, I didn't.
Hugs from Velvet
Well all I can say is at least she can put a Avatar up!!! How do you do it Alice?
I hate my buggy alien looking avatar and have NO idea how to put a avatar up on this site never mind fill in my profile.
HELP Please!!
a friend of my sent me this cnn news story.
thought i share.. .
legendary author anne rice has announced that shes quitting christianity.. .
Good for HER!!! That woman is the most amazing writer but her books got boring when she became a Christian!! Maybe now she can write like herself again now that she is allowing herself to think freely with no Religious oppressers criticizing her.
I loved her Mayfair Witch Series, Incredibly good writing.
came out as an apostate to the wife, came out about the depression, anger at being second fiddle in her life to 9 old guys in brooklyn, came out about having turned atheist, came out about the indiscrections, the tobacco use, everything.. fuck.
me..
I just read this thread now, I don't know you well but I have met you a few times over on the "game" and I can see you are a normal healthy nice man and very likeable. You have a good friend in our Poopsie. I know Hot Chocolate and her advice is very good, she is a wonderful lady and an example of someone who survived something like you are going through.
IMO I think honesty is the best thing for you NVL, Life is to short to live a lie and pretend to believe. Your wife should be your closest friend, your soul mate, how can you be that with her if you don't agree with each other and she witholds her affection and sex from you. I am so sad about the children being in the middle of this. ((((((((((NVL))))))))))
Myself I was the one that was the woman in the marriage and the JW, my poor non believer husband had to put up with me and my JW crap. I withheld certain types of sex, he cheated on me. Told me why, begged me to give him better sex. I stayed on with the religion and we were drifting apart. I loved him and my 4 little children to much in the end to continue with the religion. I decided my family was more important and having a husband who loved me and so I faded.
I still believed I was going to die at Armageddon though and felt guilty but I decided I had to live my life on reality and not a religion and faith. Later I found out the truth thankfully. Thats my story. At least you know its not the truth so that is a positive thing.
Hugs from Velvet aka Deceived
interesting story.
this fellow needs encouragement to go to the police.
the co was later promoted to do .
He looks a lot younger Now than 34??? I was thinking early 20's.
Way back when I was a kid my parents always had the circuit overseer stay at our place for the whole visit so opportunities like this would have been common.
I can see them going to get groceries even if it was a last minute idea to invite them for suppeer. If they knew he was coming to dinner beforehand then I would wonder why they would not have dinner ingredients on hand.
interesting story.
this fellow needs encouragement to go to the police.
the co was later promoted to do .
How old was he when this happened. He looks pretty young now.
It is unbelievable how many hypocrites are out there claiming to be servants of Jehovah's Org. SHOCKING
but i guess this is my first big rant.. this last year has been the hardest year of my life.
my son tried to kill himself ( he did something pretty bad, got caught, and i guess that's the only way he thought to deal) i am also very close to actually hating my husband, and i do not hate people.
and every decision that i make lately seems to be the wrong one.
(((Tammy))) I feel for you and wish I could give you a big hug and do something to help you feel better. I don't know you well as I just met you while playing the Werewolf game. I could see what a lovely sweet girl you are.
I have been there done it myself in a relationship that was not working. Somehow I ended up in the same situation again 5 years and I am waiting for the time to be right to ask him to leave. I got really sick 3 years ago and that impeded me to make changes.I can't walk or do much for myself so I have to depend on others. My guy gets violent when things don't go his way so I just be quiet for now. My MS flares up and I go paralyzed with any stress. You are young, so don't waste your life with someone that doesn't show love to you and makes you unhappy. If you can get out of it. I would suggest first trying to talk to him and letting him know you are thinking of breaking up if he doesn't try to work things out. I have the feeling he will probably not want to talk though and just say you are the one that has to change. Its classic behaviour.
You are feeling trapped and fearful and that is just not healthy or fair. If I were you I would go and find a social worker from the community care to talk to and she might have suggestions for your optiions or better yet a family councillor who could help you think this through and to guide you to a decision that is best for YOU and your children. Ranting is "good" because you need to talk to others to help you work it through. I know you are in Canada, I am in Ontario. If you want to chat or someone to talk to I have lots of time and I would be happy to be a shoulder to cry on
I am so intriqued that you wrote a novel. That is amazing. You are a creative and special person and you do not need a person in your life that takes you down and makes you feel worthless and not good about yourself. You are experiencing emotional abuse and you are in a toxic relationship. I have a check list somewhere that is written by a expert on relationships and they list behaviours that indicate toxic relationships. I will try and find that list for you.
I am so sorry about the puppy ZeeZee, that is so sad and I just hope you can get another one for your son that doesn't shed. If you want a bigger dog that doesn't shed I hear labradoodles are very good with kids.
Hugs from Velvet aka Deceived
ah the good ol' days.
i'm sure there must be some among us that remember this.. .
http://www.britishpathe.com/record.php?id=43578.
I wasn't at the one in England since I live in Canada but I was at the 8 day assemblies in USA more often than I wanted to but was just a little girl so had no choice. I especially remember New York City at Yankee Stadium and those cafeteria trays brought back memories. My Dad usually was the "Cafeteria Servant" back in those days lol. I know after 1958 we were always at an assembly it seems.
The line ups for the ladies bathroom were horrible. I peed my pants once because my Mom said I had to wait my turn........my turn took an hour and my 9 year old bladder couldn't take it. I got a spanking for that. My Mother had no sense of humour at all when it came to a child not being a martyr for Jehovah.
All I remember is I hated all the line ups at dinner time, the horrible trays like we were in prison and having to stand to eat in tents. Those were the days.....lol
When we went to assemblies in summer in Canada we camped out in "brothers" fields like in that film. No bathrooms, no running water, it was roughing it for sure. I still remember feeling all scruffy and uncomfortable. My parents thought it was good old fun.
just so you all know.
moving june 1st... going back to an apartment... .
http://maps.google.ca/maps?hl=en&client=firefox-a&q=440+b+st+patrick+st+e+fergus+ontario+canada.n1m-1m+9&ie=utf8&hq=&hnear=440+st+patrick+st+e,+centre+wellington,+wellington+county,+ontario+n1m+1m9&gl=ca&ei=avvfs92kn8ob8gbt7osabq&ved=0cacq8gewaa&ll=43.711254,-80.3725&spn=0.011136,0.01929&z=16&layer=c&cbll=43.711178,-80.372612&panoid=ltw26lrf3zi01miizev-zg&cbp=12,326.76,,0,-16.62.
Congratulations Mouthy!!!
That place you were in sounded extremely expensive too.
Hugs from Velvet
well we are getting a new pup and i'm not set on a name yet.
it is a sweet baby girl cairn terrier (like toto).
she is wheaten, which is a blonde color.. she will be coming home to big brother jinx (meaning magic charm or spell), who is a red brindle color.. i have thought of many names but can't decide.. i really like gypsy (goes well with jinx), but don't like it for such a blonde pup.
I was actually just going to mention the Name Tessa but Tessie sounds nice too ;-) Very nice name.
Another name I like for small dogs of lighter colour is Taffy
