i am going to put together a page of short experiences of how shunning has affected exjws.
you do not have to be disfellowshipped, even if you were shunned after being marked or after fading.
all comments are welcome, such as who shunned you, how long since family have spoken to you, what your situation is, why you are being shunned and how it has made you feel.
To Boyzone,
I'm so sorry for what shunning has done to your son. They are B#ST#RDS. I've faded and have been shunned and I didn't realise how much effect it has on you. I don't even want to meet ex-jws, sometimes I just want to stay in a cacoon and not move. Again I feel for you and your family boyzone and hope you find true friends as you and all of us deserve.
Etna
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Desi, I feel for you and Hadit, I'm sorry for what you've been through and what you will be through. I was lucky, cause my wife just didn't believe anymore of their rubbish, but I did. What has helped me is this site and advice from others and reading crisis of conscience and search of christian freedom and then also reading awakening of a jehovahs witness and realising why I couldn't let go. (I was born into the "truth").
Careful what you say and who you say it to. Its a shame we can't speak up and be true to ourselves, but eventually you will.
Etna
i just finished all 3 days of the dc and, for what it's worth, wanted to get down some of the highlights i enjoyed.
i went with family and i only did it for them, and hope to never attend another assembly ever again.. .
the whole thing was pretty boring and uncomfortable due to the stadium style seating which doesn't favour my long legs and ac being blasted too high.. .
Bane, you really sound like a cult member.
Gutted, I feel for you, the last assembly I went to, 3 years ago, opened my eyes. The main talk, the speaker was saying how all interested and newbies should research there own religions and ask lots of questions and if they are not answered, it was a false religion. (They shouldv'e been talking about their own religion). Then he went on to say how everyone not a witness would be destroyed, and the whole audeince just clapped and clapped, I couldn't stomach it and that was it, no more for me. Another thing, I was asking my daughter (who was brought up in the "truth") about the "new generation" and she just didn't understand or could be even bothered to get it. Hang in there Gutted, things only get better.
Etna
i don't know if anyone has this or if its available yet, but does anyone have the numbers of the partakers of the memorial this year?.
etna.
ok, when is that coming out?
Etna
i don't know if anyone has this or if its available yet, but does anyone have the numbers of the partakers of the memorial this year?.
etna.
I don't know if anyone has this or if its available yet, but does anyone have the numbers of the partakers of the memorial this year?
Etna
since it was learned that ray franz went to the hospital and then passed away, most threads have in my opinion, correctly tried to give some honor and respect to a courageous, honest, and principled man.. some borderline trolls, who know many former jw's are easily upset (and they know this.
i know this...) try to take advantage by hitting on a hot button.
in this case, its to call you a follower of ray franz.. we all know that isn't true.. but i think that a legitimate discussion on this is in order.
I was out of the religon when I read his 2 books and I wrote to him and he kindly replied. I thought, back in the 80's that he must have done some terrible things to leave the organization. Thankfully I realise that he was just a humble, decent christian (in the real sense of the word). I am saddened about his death and his books will be a reference for me forever.
Etna
food was passed from one side and if you were #10 you may not get too much to eat!
when i finally did, she was not at all interested.
but i was lucky it didnt work out, for she never would have left the watchtower.
Look forward to reading more.
Etna
the associated press is sending out on the news wire the information about the death of ray franz.
this story will be picked up across the world by all major newpapers, tv and radio.. fyi, there will be a tribute to raymond franz, saturday, june 12th, at 7 p.m. est on the phone conferencing dialogue program.
call.
Thanks for that. Do you know if it will be covered in Australia? I hope so, if anyone knows, please let me know.
Thanks Etna
i just received word that ray franz passed away today at 1:37 pm eastern daylight time.
the cause of death is stated as head trauma, likely due to falling to the ground, and a stroke could have also been part of the cause or a result of the fall.
he died at emory university hospital in atlanta about 17 minutes after being taken off life support.
Thank you Jim. Very sad from over here in Australia.
Etna
as jws, we would have seen the adolation the governing body received.
even as far away as australia, we thought and spoke of them with reverence.
after all, they were figuratively at gods right hand, with the prospect of one day being in heaven with him.
So well said Broken Promises. I too am from Australia and feel exactly as you do.
Etna
