Apostate Chick--I, too, watched 6 minutes of said video, but having drank deeply of the dark side, I was content to be fascinated by your mind rather than merely your beauty (though, I just had this thought of Wonder Woman all of a sudden). I only stopped watching to conserve bandwidth, I shall have to catch the rest of it later.
Anyway, you nearly made me cry. What you said really is at the heart of why we're so concerned about these kinds of talks being given at convention programs.
This brings to mind an unpleasant discussion I recall having with my JW wife (you can read my story, it's all over this site on my threads, just click on my username and 'Topics Started' (the judicial committee threads called 'Borg Court' [on page 5 or 6 of my Topics Started] were particularly action-packed)) about this sort of thing. She couldn't understand why I was having trouble separating her from her beliefs. And it's because of this--she is literally being trained to view me, her husband that she has vowed to love and cherish, as Satan's MasterChef, to put it simply, and somehow I should be completely unaffected by it? I should sit there at programs with our children and subject my very nature to absolute character assassination with slurs, innuendos, name-calling and straw men offered up as proof?
See, she doesn't have the right to disagree with that assessment; no matter what kindnesses I perform as a husband and a father, she must view me as this monster because that's what came down from the platform and blared out of the speakers to 6,000 people. That's what's in the literature (a lot of that talk was cut-and-pasted, word for word, from last year's Watchtower article and the Reasoning book). Whereas I have the option to view her differently based on how she treats me and the way she cares for our kids and our home. It's hard, but I have that option. That's where we differ.
It's hard to respect beliefs that require intolerance and this sort of vitriol towards people. And honestly, it's hard to respect people who cling to this sort of reasoning and fail to see the emotional impact of it on the objects of such vitriol. It's worse still to know that they actually view such hateful speech as "a form of discipline" that will hopefully "bring us to our senses". So it's not just tacit approval by one's family--it's participation in it on their part.
But I'm glad this video is out there. Just hearing part of the talk gave me the phobias all over again, like I was sitting there in the midst of it. I can usually stomach reading the literature but not so much the talks.
Anyway, glad you're fighting the good fight. Thank you!
--sd-7