i also try and remind myself her story she confine to me. she says she had ADD when she was in school. i think it passed into adult hood and that is what keeps me from not holding her manners to personal. yet sometimes i think about what her younger sister said, " likes to out shine ppl". the younger sister i thi k would understand but she also likes to gossip and that's why i didn't want to ask for advice from her. so thanks again for your guys help. :)
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Irritated with my sister in law who is trying to claim my baby girls clothes
by Butterflyleia85 inirritated with my sister in law.
ok so i'm really happy and excited about having my baby girl january 31st!
the same week i learned my sister in law is having a baby due in october but will be having it delivered september.
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Irritated with my sister in law who is trying to claim my baby girls clothes
by Butterflyleia85 inirritated with my sister in law.
ok so i'm really happy and excited about having my baby girl january 31st!
the same week i learned my sister in law is having a baby due in october but will be having it delivered september.
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Thanks again! Yeah I'm a mommy bear lol my hubby will help I bet. he just the type that don't wanna get involved but if i explain it this way he will back me on that. i asked him and told him about his sister and he just said "she can think what she wants". meaning it's our stuff. but he doesn't say or do anything either he wants me to handle it. says it's up to me. :/ gee i don't wanna face the prego sister lol (she's over emotional as it is).
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Irritated with my sister in law who is trying to claim my baby girls clothes
by Butterflyleia85 inirritated with my sister in law.
ok so i'm really happy and excited about having my baby girl january 31st!
the same week i learned my sister in law is having a baby due in october but will be having it delivered september.
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wow everyone here is really smart. ok i will try it just gives me anxiety thinking about it. i don't want her to turning the family from me! it the only thing i have and when we had confertation the last time, her mom got involved, she really hurt my feelings, and she's like the head of the family in a sence. my huband's mom is like a mother bear she decribed herself and she will stand up and take care of her cubs no matter what! Sweet but scary too i'm thinking... i hope she looks to me as one of her cubs but if not she will choice her side no matter who's right or wrong. :( ok time to step up ahhhhhh :/
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Irritated with my sister in law who is trying to claim my baby girls clothes
by Butterflyleia85 inirritated with my sister in law.
ok so i'm really happy and excited about having my baby girl january 31st!
the same week i learned my sister in law is having a baby due in october but will be having it delivered september.
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maybe i should add to she got my baby a few outfits and a cute dress as a gift. she hasn't had a baby for 6 years being that her oldest is 9 and the other boy is 6. great kids! anywho i almost feel like giving it all back to her too! again i don't want to hurt her feelings though or mine. we get along well just sometimes i feel stomped on by her. like during my babyshower she was the attention and over talking me and it hurt my feelings! maybe it's me being to sensitive but seriously some ppl i just can't be around or it really puts me down yet she's so close to our family and i just have to deal with it.
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Irritated with my sister in law who is trying to claim my baby girls clothes
by Butterflyleia85 inirritated with my sister in law.
ok so i'm really happy and excited about having my baby girl january 31st!
the same week i learned my sister in law is having a baby due in october but will be having it delivered september.
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aww jgnat that's a good post too :) (you read people well and we don't even know each other)
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Irritated with my sister in law who is trying to claim my baby girls clothes
by Butterflyleia85 inirritated with my sister in law.
ok so i'm really happy and excited about having my baby girl january 31st!
the same week i learned my sister in law is having a baby due in october but will be having it delivered september.
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thanks qcmbr! best advice! :) i will do that!
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Irritated with my sister in law who is trying to claim my baby girls clothes
by Butterflyleia85 inirritated with my sister in law.
ok so i'm really happy and excited about having my baby girl january 31st!
the same week i learned my sister in law is having a baby due in october but will be having it delivered september.
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Irritated with my sister in law
Ok so I'm really happy and excited about having my baby girl January 31st! The same week I learned my sister in law is having a baby due in October but will be having it delivered September. So she is a nice loving person but I hate to say somehow I always get the feeling it's out of "I did this for you so I expect you to do this for me" type feeling. I have family and friends who are giving and loving but they never expect anything in return and they never ask for anything either. Like for example my husband's step sister, she's wonderful, she gave up all her son's baby clothes for my boy who is now 2 and never asked for anything. She just had a boy last week and I gladly gave the baby clothes back!
Ok so the sister in law that is close to our family that is seriously irritating because she keeps claiming my baby girl's clothes!, like in med conversation says "and since you got all the clothes for her (my baby girl) I won't need to get that just a few more big items..." It irritates the heck out of me! I was willing to give her baby clothes because she's family (or anyone of our family and friends) but it's like every visit she just makes claims on her (my baby girl's) clothes!!! I'm too nice and just nod my head and smile but part of me is devastated and wants to cry. I know it's just clothes but it's hard for me to part with stuff so easily. For one I'm a stay at home mom, I make no money, seeing how she handled losing stuff, breaking stuff, or loosing stuff I let her use kinda brakes my heart... I'm am super OC about keeping things in order and I'm weird about letting people like her borrow stuff (She kinda just automatically just asks for stuff and I reluctantly let her borrow stuff even when I want to say no cause I'm afraid I won't ever see it again but I wanna trust her and be friendly to her). But she's kinda care free about stuff and well I don't think she realizes how much it means to me when she does that. (I wish my husband's step sister had a girl I would love to have gave it to her and then be like oh sorry I give all the clothes away to his other sister she needed them.)
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Questions and matters I wish I could get my Jehovah's Witness Family to think about
by Butterflyleia85 inso in the beginning there was a man named charles taze russell who was influenced by other religions, but yet concerned the teaching of main stream christian religion... he used egyptian pyramids (now looked at as pagan) as a method of calculation of dates that he felt had an effect of christian and human culture.. in avoiding pagan ideas now, there was so much to begin with, where was the change and whose idea was this?
(compare now to holidays in how their traditions affect them> does it better a person or worsen them, distract them, or offend god> is god more offended that you changed a different view of looking at him, then, it is to judge another believers way with their traditions, in bringing something evil to something loving and fun?
have you looked at how they view their traditions?
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yeah ding that's in short what it comes down to.
did i ever mention you were a great help for me thanks! ;)
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Questions and matters I wish I could get my Jehovah's Witness Family to think about
by Butterflyleia85 inso in the beginning there was a man named charles taze russell who was influenced by other religions, but yet concerned the teaching of main stream christian religion... he used egyptian pyramids (now looked at as pagan) as a method of calculation of dates that he felt had an effect of christian and human culture.. in avoiding pagan ideas now, there was so much to begin with, where was the change and whose idea was this?
(compare now to holidays in how their traditions affect them> does it better a person or worsen them, distract them, or offend god> is god more offended that you changed a different view of looking at him, then, it is to judge another believers way with their traditions, in bringing something evil to something loving and fun?
have you looked at how they view their traditions?
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That would be great moshe! ;)
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Questions and matters I wish I could get my Jehovah's Witness Family to think about
by Butterflyleia85 inso in the beginning there was a man named charles taze russell who was influenced by other religions, but yet concerned the teaching of main stream christian religion... he used egyptian pyramids (now looked at as pagan) as a method of calculation of dates that he felt had an effect of christian and human culture.. in avoiding pagan ideas now, there was so much to begin with, where was the change and whose idea was this?
(compare now to holidays in how their traditions affect them> does it better a person or worsen them, distract them, or offend god> is god more offended that you changed a different view of looking at him, then, it is to judge another believers way with their traditions, in bringing something evil to something loving and fun?
have you looked at how they view their traditions?
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Taking a second look at this and the lack of comments, maybe it might be a bet to condescending to send (I wasn't really going to send it anyways). I really wish though I could get them to look at their logic... shune the sinner to make them come to their senses and come back to the truth. Well I already knew my sins needed to be paid for that is why the elders found out about my sin in the first place... what I was trying to figure out was what was wrong with me in acting in a sinful way, why wasn't what the elders telling me working and just making me go crazy. Then when I was 'casted out to the world' what was their logic to their actions? What gave christians in the world their peace and understanding, and it had to work, no BS, with my understanding of what I grow up knowing about ther 'truth'. Well it turns out their logic was like another match to reaching God.... so now I had to compare, where JW the only truth, were they imperfect, and then the research began. I find that most christians were open to their imperfection maybe for some a bet to soft about things but their logic made since, 'it's between you and God' not 'you man and God' as the final judge, that's why he gave us free will, 'as you judge others the same will also be upon you' judged by God. So do I though continue with my course in life as a DF, more research had to be done, does God or Jesus forgive or is it a course of punishment and isolation that will humble me and then I will be forgiven. I had no encouragement that's for sure, going to the meetings was suppose to be my encouragement but yet it made me feel more like a sinner and evil, them talking about the faithful ones and all... well what about the sinners, even after research in the Watchtower and Awakes as well as other liture I found no encouragement, just your doomed to distruction and that's it... that family and friends needs to shun you inorder to protect their flock. I had alot of DFed friends who were trying to get back in but we were all on different pages dealing with the same thing yet we all were handing it to our own self distruction and I honestly didn't want to be around that any longer... alone again. I even looked up stricked heart I think it was or something like that that the Watchtower pubished online about those who have sinned and 'can turn from their bad ways'.... It still was not enough to read that over and over. I went to counseling and well the only thing I found is that my past was coming forward and the battle with disfellowshipment we couldn't really decuse because she had other JW patients and she wanted to respect our beleif so.... it never really helped. I wanted to feel ok again (I was even put on antidepressiates to just cope through the days)... I wanted encouragement, wither it was to just live life normal or to face the JW whole heartedly. Who was really there to help me but of one day coming on here and tons of ppl leaving me with comments of encouragement!!! And homework! ;) I did my research and after my findings, I see it wasn't about living up to 'God's Standards' it was about living and learning.... God will guide you no matter what. Using scriptures, using lifes experiences, and sorrounding yourself with people who support you and love you know matter what the changes!... Make life worth living in!!
Yes I may not be asking family really to save me because I feel I already been 'saved'. But I am asking them if they truely care... and love me and what it means to me to prove that. Because I know for sure I care about them or I wouldn't be still pondering about this Jehovah's Witness stuff and leaving with it with just a life experience.... it still haunts me that my family are Jehovah's Witnesses and there is nothing in my power to change that. All I can do is not be afraid of offending and not be afraid of rejection. I love them dearly... and all I want is them to see it from my side of the story.