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  Ever been the victim of gossip from JW's?

  by highdose in

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  i was many times, the final bout was what drove me out of the borg altogether..... .

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  I don't think I'll apologize for being a victim, it got me out. And though a healthy person or emotionally stable person wouldn't let themselves be a victim, not everyone was able to realize that was even a possibility. Being raised in an abusive household where you were constantly verbally and physically abused, then marrying a verbally abusive spouse, I was told for my first thirty some years that I was pretty much lower than snail slime. The lessons in self esteem and self worth came later, as I learned that I have a right to be heard, I have talents, I am worthy as an individual. The gossiping came during some of the lowest, most vulnerable parts of my life. And I ended the marriage when I ended my tenure with the JWs. Its been a life long journey ever since to understand or try to, how to interact with others, how to find healthy relationships, etc.

  Thankfully we are all survivors, one way or another.

  Ada
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  Ever been the victim of gossip from JW's?

  by highdose in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i was many times, the final bout was what drove me out of the borg altogether..... .

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  This was the last straw for me too. A snarky MS wife called me and ripped me a new one for something and while doing so, she said that the (too long ago, can't remember titles) Convention Overseer? had told her blah blah about me. Now I knew of him and had met him, but I didnt' know him. I guess that translates more likely to Mrs CO, but that distinction didn't matter because by then I had it figured out. JW's didn't have the love they claimed proved they were god's people. So as a parting shot I called one of the elders and told him exactly what she had done and said. I'll give him credit, he was decent about it, I think he really cared if I came back or not. His kids, however, were the first to shun my son, who had nothing to do with anything.

  Gossip was rampant in every single congregation I was ever involved in. I never could figure out why they didn't deal with a gossiper as strongly as they did a smoker or other sin, after the warning continuing would show a pattern and unrepentance. It was just one more power trip.

  One thing I will say, from a distance of almost 20 years away now, is that with the women being powerless, this is one way they could use some sort of power and be "better" than another. The power structure inside that organization was ripe for passive aggressive power by the women. I think its the only way some very intelligent women didn't go crazy. Unfortunate, unhealthy, but understandable.

  Hope they can all get out as we did.

  Ada
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  Cooks and their ingredients. Questions.

  by compound complex in

  1. watchtower
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  hey there, cooks or chefs [outlaw]:.

  i love to cook!

  though alone, i decided long ago that i would not go the fast or packaged food route.

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  One thing that I recently learned about olive oil is that there is no labeling requirement for how MUCH olive oil it contains (in the United States). If it has ANY in it, its labeled as olive oil. I read about this because there was a push in my state to require at least a certain percentage before it can be labeled as olive oil. So I don' t know where it has to originate, though I have noticed that the "Mexican" olive oil does taste different from Spain's, and I don't remember buying an Italian. But just wanted to tell you, it's buyer beware.

  I love to cook. I think that cooking is one of my art forms, and herbs and spices are my palette. Knowing how spices/herbs combine with each other and with foods and then experimenting with combinations is truly fascinating. I need to jump in the shower and get to work right now so I can't give any recipes, but I'll bookmark this for later.

  Great thread.

  Ada
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  What Drove Me Here

  by KingDavidwasframed in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  *disclaimer* this was posted on a 2 year old thread and a friend suggested i start a new thread with it to introduce myself.. .

  i discovered this site by accident when i was actually looking for a site to date ex jw's (probably because i know that we could relate and if they were as repressed as me growing up, they would be as horny and kinky as i am if not more so - yumm!).

  i also believe that he will take care of all things in his own way.

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  Welcome to the board.

  Ada
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  I meet with my non-jw aunt today

  by doublelife in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  we meet for lunch and i told her i didn't want to be a jw anymore.

  she already suspected that this was the reason i wanted to meet with her.

  she was very supportive and even invited me to thanksgiving dinner.

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  As hard as this is, the lesson is, you will learn who your real family is and you will learn who your false family is. Real families stick with you through the tough times and support your decisions even if they don't agree with them. Real family will be there to pick you up when you fall and to listen when you hurt, and share the laughter with you when things are happy and going well. Your aunt is real family.

  I lost my false family many years ago, I mourned them for a long time, but I found new parents, and new brothers and sisters that may not share my dna but share my heart. I know you will do the same.

  Take care through these trying times, and be aware that this too will pass. You are incredibly brave.

  Ada
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  I'm 43 Today

  by cantleave in

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  and it's my first birthday.

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  Happy First Birthday!

  
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  Brilliant Talk Yesterday

  by Violet in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  just thought i would share this.........a brother who used to be a mercenary before he came into the truth gave the talk at the hall yesterday and he said that the bible was like jehovah's cv.....it told us everything about him.....so we can really know him.. he also said with all the governments and all the rules and regulations in the world, and nothing working at the moment, we should appreciate that jehovah only has 2 laws.............love him above all other things, and love our neighbours..........if only the whole world obeyed those 2 laws there would be peace without the need for armageddon................so its all down to humans why things are going wrong.. if we abandoned the planet tomorrow the earth would repair itself and there would be peace and harmony in nature.......... man has really messed up.. thank goodness we have had the chance to know jehivah and have a hope for the future!!.

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  he said that the Bible was like Jehovah's CV.....it told us everything about Him.....so we can really know Him.

  Yes, it really does allow you to know him. The bible is full of his works, genocide, hatred, jelousy, rape, incest, pillaging, all in his name. Then there is the tiny tiny segment where is says the two laws you mentioned, loving your neighbor, etc... oh yea, thats from Jesus, not jehovah. Then it goes right back to mind me or all is death and destruction.

  Nice god you worship.

  Ada
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  Obama Lifts H.I.V. Ban

  by betterdaze in

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  2. current

  obama lifts a ban on entry into u.s. by h.i.v.-positive peopleby julia preston.

  published: october 30, 2009. .

  president obama on friday announced the end of a 22-year ban on travel to the united states by people who had tested positive for the virus that causes aids, fulfilling a promise he made to gay advocates and acting to eliminate a restriction he said was rooted in fear rather than fact.. .

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  Rob do you think there will be a mass amount of people with HIV trying to come to the US to have sex with our citizens? Come on, we aren't that sexy. The problem doesn't have borders. Its here now and this is not going to increase it. For that matter, people with HIV have safe sex all the time. Its all of our responsibilities to know who we are sleeping with and to use protection.
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  According to bookstudy, it's ok to beat wife.....occassionally

  by JWinprotest in

  1. jw
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  i apologize if this has been mentioned, but i don't have the time to come on here as often.

  yesterday's bookstudy on divorce got my shorts in a bit of a knot.

  apparently, according to the god's love book, a wife could consider legal separation from her husband if she is physically abused, but (get this) only in the case of extreme physical abuse, and if the wife's life is in danger.

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  Well I can only apologize for highjacking the thread and this all makes me remember something my granny used to say. Never wrestle with a pig, you both get dirty but the pig likes it.

  Ada
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  Obama Lifts H.I.V. Ban

  by betterdaze in

  1. social
  2. current

  obama lifts a ban on entry into u.s. by h.i.v.-positive peopleby julia preston.

  published: october 30, 2009. .

  president obama on friday announced the end of a 22-year ban on travel to the united states by people who had tested positive for the virus that causes aids, fulfilling a promise he made to gay advocates and acting to eliminate a restriction he said was rooted in fear rather than fact.. .

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  This is a good thing. HIV is not contagious by incidental contact. This ban was outdated and needed to be ended.