My mother in law passed away this year. She asked me to take the lead and say something at her service.
I had very heart rendering discussions with her bedside. I listened carefully, then came back to talk about it some more.
She had some specific requests.
Don't offend anybody. We have various feelings in the family, from Lutherans(her) to JW's. She wanted me to show consideration to others.
When it came to a prayer, I asked her if it was okay to have the JW say it? She was very firm, no. "He would use the occassion to preach" She was right.
After she passed away, I interviewed everyone in the family for requests. All had some nice ideas, except for the JW's. She was to have a JW service period!
I informed them of her wishes and they replied, she was gone, she wouldn't know, and the family needed it. One third of the family are ex-JW's.
They wanted to use the occassion to recruit. To recruit them back.
I shared their ideas with the other siblings. It was firmly rejected by all. The JW's said then they would not come. I told them as respectfully as I could, we wanted them there, but they were not coming to mom's service.
They reconsidered and came, but complained loudly as I was speaking on how stupid this was, the wife walked out. Yup, they was recruiting alright.
What a fine witness for their god. Did you ever hear me say how self righteous the good JW's are?