Posts by garyneal

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Are Jehovah's Witness men good catches?

by garyneal in

i've stated this before on this message board but i was kind of curious about this and wanted to get some feedback from the group.

in particular, the ladies who are either current or former jw's.. about a year or so ago, my wife went with me to a church i was attending at the time.

we then later that morning attended a kh meeting.

garyneal

on the opposite side I think its really unfair to embark on a relationship with a 'worldly' while you are out with the intention of going back once you 'marry them' - I know people who do that, and its just like you then become a different person to the one they met.

That is precisely what has happened in my marraige. When my wife and I first met, I knew that she did not celebrate Christmas because I have an old friend who is now a former JW. So on the first holiday season that we were together, I tried to respect her wishes by asking her whether or not she wanted me to include her in my gift giving plans. Thinking she would say no, I was surprised to hear her tell me that I better not forget her during my holiday shopping. She even came to visit my family for the holidays that year and every year since until this year.

As I said before, they are not doing the 'worldly' people any favors by dating them. Either be a full fledge witness or come out completely.

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Are Jehovah's Witness men good catches?

by garyneal in

i've stated this before on this message board but i was kind of curious about this and wanted to get some feedback from the group.

in particular, the ladies who are either current or former jw's.. about a year or so ago, my wife went with me to a church i was attending at the time.

we then later that morning attended a kh meeting.

garyneal

The great man shortage.....

Curious, it makes me wonder why the Society struggles to recruit or keep more men in their flock.

I've heard that as a whole, women tend to be more religious than men. However, it would seem that the man shortage amongst the Jehovah's Witnesses are more acute. Or perhaps I am just generalizing....

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Are Jehovah's Witness men good catches?

by garyneal in

i've stated this before on this message board but i was kind of curious about this and wanted to get some feedback from the group.

in particular, the ladies who are either current or former jw's.. about a year or so ago, my wife went with me to a church i was attending at the time.

we then later that morning attended a kh meeting.

garyneal

You know, gang, I think what I find so perplexing is how my wife, her sister, and her cousin are in regards to who they date (and marry).

My wife marries a 'worldly' man.

Her sister has only been dating 'worldly' men.

Her cousin is in a relationship with a 'worldly' man.

I told my wife and her sister one time that they are not doing any favors to the 'worldly' men by dating them and marrying them if they insist on continuing to be witnesses. Her cousin, by the way, is baptized while my wife and her sister are not.

Since my wife and I are married, our relationship is what it is for better or for worse, but for the others, I think they should cut their 'worldly' men loose and keep their Jehovah's Witness ways 'in the (spiritual) family' and seek only witnesses.

So I have another question, why do Jehovah's Witnesses bother dating worldly people to start with?

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Are Jehovah's Witness men good catches?

by garyneal in

i've stated this before on this message board but i was kind of curious about this and wanted to get some feedback from the group.

in particular, the ladies who are either current or former jw's.. about a year or so ago, my wife went with me to a church i was attending at the time.

we then later that morning attended a kh meeting.

garyneal

I never entertained the 'what ifs' because I feel that is disloyal to my marriage and I take marriage very seriously.

Very commendable, I certainly wish I could've been like that but alas I wasn't. I certainly believe that Christ can change us from the inside out but I know that this is a change that someone must want. Apparently, I did not feel the need to change myself until this past summer.

Concerning my wife, as funny as it may sound, there are times when I too thought that if she only accepted the 'truth' then her shortcomings would be ironed out. But we all have shortcomings and my wife certainly reminds me of mine.

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Are Jehovah's Witness men good catches?

by garyneal in

i've stated this before on this message board but i was kind of curious about this and wanted to get some feedback from the group.

in particular, the ladies who are either current or former jw's.. about a year or so ago, my wife went with me to a church i was attending at the time.

we then later that morning attended a kh meeting.

garyneal

wantstoleave:

I can understand your feelings. During our darkest years I can remember too feeling that if this is what being in the 'truth' teaches, I wanted no part of it.

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Are Jehovah's Witness men good catches?

by garyneal in

i've stated this before on this message board but i was kind of curious about this and wanted to get some feedback from the group.

in particular, the ladies who are either current or former jw's.. about a year or so ago, my wife went with me to a church i was attending at the time.

we then later that morning attended a kh meeting.

garyneal

KidKool:

Well, my wife and I both agreed that my sister-in-laws ex-boyfriend (baby's daddy) was in no way a 'good catch.' Frankly, we could not even understand why she bothered with him to start with.

Still though I could not understand why my wife felt the same way she did concerning a JW man. I wasn't like that at all and of course I was not perfect but I figured that in all fairness, she could've gotten much worse. And yes, I could have gotten much worse also. But then again, I don't see where things were so bad between us.

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Are Jehovah's Witness men good catches?

by garyneal in

i've stated this before on this message board but i was kind of curious about this and wanted to get some feedback from the group.

in particular, the ladies who are either current or former jw's.. about a year or so ago, my wife went with me to a church i was attending at the time.

we then later that morning attended a kh meeting.

garyneal

mrsjones:

My wife and sister-in-law are both 'born-ins.'

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Are Jehovah's Witness men good catches?

by garyneal in

i've stated this before on this message board but i was kind of curious about this and wanted to get some feedback from the group.

in particular, the ladies who are either current or former jw's.. about a year or so ago, my wife went with me to a church i was attending at the time.

we then later that morning attended a kh meeting.

garyneal

yesidid:

That was the same point I was making. Seems like there are good and bad apples in and out of any religion. I guess in regards to the witnesses, there just seems to be this mindset that they are such wonderful people.

White-wash the coffins, cleaning the outside of the cups. Currently the church I attend is rather unorthodox in some of its methods of worship but I haven't really found anything unbiblical. I suppose I would rather be amongst a group of 'crazies' who are sincere in their love for the Lord and one another than a bunch of 'robots' as my sister-in-law put it.

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Are Jehovah's Witness men good catches?

by garyneal in

i've stated this before on this message board but i was kind of curious about this and wanted to get some feedback from the group.

in particular, the ladies who are either current or former jw's.. about a year or so ago, my wife went with me to a church i was attending at the time.

we then later that morning attended a kh meeting.

garyneal

Well gang, all I can say so far is if my sister-in-law does realize her dream of marrying a Jehovah's Witness man, let's hope he's a good hearted man from the start. Otherwise, I feel sorry for her and her daughter.

Currently, she has no interest in the witnesses because she is too busy doing things that witnesses would not approve of (such as smoking and going to wild parties). She told me one time that she thinks all JW's are robots and I told her that my wife probably hates that I am associating with 'apostates.' Even she got uncomfortable when I revealed that to her.

Reminds me of a thread someone else started about some chick that liked him and was fooling around and all but decided to sever her ties with him when he went 'apostate.'

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Are Jehovah's Witness men good catches?

by garyneal in

i've stated this before on this message board but i was kind of curious about this and wanted to get some feedback from the group.

in particular, the ladies who are either current or former jw's.. about a year or so ago, my wife went with me to a church i was attending at the time.

we then later that morning attended a kh meeting.

garyneal

Outlaw:

Children who've lived in and are still living in bubble, huh? What did my co-worker call people like this, sheeple?