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  JW blood donors.

  by bigmac in

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  I doubt that Witnesses are even aware that today is World Blood Donor Day. It would be a good "local needs" topic for tonight's meeting!
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  This past weekend I lost my mom

  by lola28 in

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  the cancer finally got to her and now my sisters and i are left without our mother.

  we take comfort only in knowing that she is no longer in pain.

  how do people move on from such a massive loss?.

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  I'm sorry to hear of your loss, Lola. What helped when our mom died was the mutual support of my brothers and sisters. Be good to your sisters, and let time ease the pain, until only fond memories remain.
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  My dad wont make it too much longer, advise/experiences needed

  by Coffee House Girl in

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  hello all at jwn,.

  so my mom called to tell me that my dad wont be able to come back home, he has been on kidney dialysis (along with having congestive heart failure and diabetes and dimentia...) but now he is breaking down and will have to be admitted to a hospice center for the remainder of his time left (without dialysis wont be two weeks).

  most of you know my situation, faded (not dfd or dad) but most of my family treats me like i am disfellowshipped except my mom and she keeps getting warnings from elders to cut off dealings with me- my dad is inactive but as head of the household he demands that i be able to visit and take care of mom and dad (so my mom must be submissive to his wishes).

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  I see Jamie's point. And since your dad's not really lucid and has already met CSG, that tips the scale in favor of not risking a confrontation. I'm glad you and your brother have each other for mutual support.

  the only thing I want is to honor and respect my father and be there as a daughter for both of my parents- the rest of them can leave me alone

  That's the right thing to do, and I hope they show the decency to leave you in peace.
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  Religious Reform

  by Maze in

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  as a bible based organization, how do feel jehovah's organization should be reformed?

  the answer is quite simple in christendoms churches:.

  1. reject false doctrines like the trinity and 'all christians go to heaven' and use of images in worship.. .

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  you don't qualify as his “sister.” You stopped being a family member when you turned your back on the Truth.

  That, Maze, is the difference between you and us. You say rejecting non-Witness family members is a noble and appropriate thing to do, while we see it as a cold-hearted act of revenge.

  My children may be Witnesses, but they will always be my children, and I will always love them. It saddens me that the Watchtower teaches them to do otherwise.
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  Church is in session: NHL Playoffs

  by unshackled in

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  nhl playoffs start tonight.

  get your beer chilled and the wings in the oven.

  the next two months or so is my church - the grueling battle for the stanley cup.

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  On to game seven...
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  Church is in session: NHL Playoffs

  by unshackled in

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  nhl playoffs start tonight.

  get your beer chilled and the wings in the oven.

  the next two months or so is my church - the grueling battle for the stanley cup.

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  Stoopid pipe!
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  My dad wont make it too much longer, advise/experiences needed

  by Coffee House Girl in

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  hello all at jwn,.

  so my mom called to tell me that my dad wont be able to come back home, he has been on kidney dialysis (along with having congestive heart failure and diabetes and dimentia...) but now he is breaking down and will have to be admitted to a hospice center for the remainder of his time left (without dialysis wont be two weeks).

  most of you know my situation, faded (not dfd or dad) but most of my family treats me like i am disfellowshipped except my mom and she keeps getting warnings from elders to cut off dealings with me- my dad is inactive but as head of the household he demands that i be able to visit and take care of mom and dad (so my mom must be submissive to his wishes).

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  I'm sorry about your dad's condition, CHG. You, your family and especially your father have my sympathy.

  The elder that has hounded me in the past and who I have registered a "cease and desist" letter with is slated to do the funeral talk (graveside service)

  That could make it awkward for you to attend your dad's funeral. Did your dad request that, or did somebody else arrange it? If the latter, is it possible to ask him what his wishes are, so the funeral services will be as he wants them to be, or is it too late for that?

  As for bringing CoffeeShopGuy--if your dad would be able to understand who he is and you think he'd be amenable to meeting your fiance, I say that's a good reason for your dad to meet him. Put yourself in your dad's position--wouldn't you want to know about the guy who's so important in your daughter's life? Make your decisions with your Dad in mind, not the others. It ain't about them.
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  Church is in session: NHL Playoffs

  by unshackled in

  1. jw
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  nhl playoffs start tonight.

  get your beer chilled and the wings in the oven.

  the next two months or so is my church - the grueling battle for the stanley cup.

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  Boston's a penalty-killing machine!
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  Church is in session: NHL Playoffs

  by unshackled in

  1. jw
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  nhl playoffs start tonight.

  get your beer chilled and the wings in the oven.

  the next two months or so is my church - the grueling battle for the stanley cup.

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  I didn't get home on time, came in turned on the TV--and 4-0 in the first period? Something woke up the Bruin's tonight!
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  So What's the Point?

  by AllTimeJeff in

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  i am back after several months to tell you all that i am cured!

  that's right, i am no longer an ex jw.

  i can go around and pretend that i was never knocking on doors.

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  Hi Jeff, it's good to hear from you again! I hope life has been treating you well since you last checked in.

  I always felt (speaking for me) that my mistake was thinking I needed to "save" JW's. YOU don't need saving.

  It's not an easy lesson. It sinks in more and more as the years go by. As much as I'd like to, I can't unilaterally "save" my kids (or my Ex, or anybody else besides me) from this cult. They're old enough to be responsible for themselves, one already is legally an adult and the other not far from it. I cannot make their choices for them, and if I try to, that will almost certainly cause the opposite reaction. (Just like "worldly" youths, they are no longer little children and resent being treated as such)

  What I can do is to be the best, authentic version of me that I can. Not pretending just to get by, not letting anger get the better of me.

  What I can do is to be there for them if they ever have questions, or want to leave the organization, or even (especially if) they don't.

  What I can do is love them unconditionally, whether they remain Witnesses, or if they leave, even if they relapse. No strings attached, just love them for who they are--not what they believe.

  What I can do is follow the Prime Directive of Parenting: be the example I hope they will follow. In the long run, nothing will work any better than that.

  I'm here because I need people who understand me.

  That is so true, and that's why it's great to have you back here (even if only for a while).