I do see where everybody is coming from. Being compatible is not just about being in love. Even though we are so close, we live in different worlds. I sat down with her father last night and he told me that in there is absolutely no way and that it is against the religion to marry, date or even befriend somebody outside of the religion. This view was shocking to me in ligh of what I have heard from other member of the religion. It seems like there is no clear cut rule. You are right in your concerns about what I am willing to accept too. I have to understand that I may not be able to accept a life with her too. I can't believe that I am in this situation. I have avioded it an hoped that it would go away. We both have. We just wanted to be honest with ourselves and those around us. We have much to think about in this difficult time to come.
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I am a non-witness in love with one. help please
by jarrod ini am a man who is in love with a witness.
we have been in a relationship for 3 years full of guilt and fear and now it seems like it may be the end.
is it possible or is there a way for me to have my own belief and marry a jw?
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I am a non-witness in love with one. help please
by jarrod ini am a man who is in love with a witness.
we have been in a relationship for 3 years full of guilt and fear and now it seems like it may be the end.
is it possible or is there a way for me to have my own belief and marry a jw?
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jarrod
Thankyou everybody for your time and helpful words. I am beginning to get a clearer picture of the religion. It is confusing to an outsider who has different but strong beliefs. I don't want to change her. I realize that she is a result of her religion and other life experiences. I like the fact that she has strong beliefs and if she decides to change those beliefs then it will be her decision. That is usually how it happens. I have never suggested it. I see what you mean by showing interest and I do have interest because I love her. You would like to believe that love is enough but in this case it may not be. Again thankyou for your advice and I will remember tonight. I just want hope.
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I am a non-witness in love with one. help please
by jarrod ini am a man who is in love with a witness.
we have been in a relationship for 3 years full of guilt and fear and now it seems like it may be the end.
is it possible or is there a way for me to have my own belief and marry a jw?
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jarrod
thankyou for your reply Larc. You are right. This is short notice. The nature of our relationship is that she still lives at home and is 22years old. I am 27 and established. She is by virtue of the fact that she lives at home, still very active and has questioned her own faith because she believes that we may not be together. I am going to talk to her father out of respect for him and his religion. I am just wondering if there is such a thing in the religion where a member can marry a non-member and it would be ok. As far as I can tell the answer is no. Tonight could be the end and I am nervous. I just want tolerance and understanding. I don't know if they have that in their religon. I have done some research but I have not seen what I want to see.
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I am a non-witness in love with one. help please
by jarrod ini am a man who is in love with a witness.
we have been in a relationship for 3 years full of guilt and fear and now it seems like it may be the end.
is it possible or is there a way for me to have my own belief and marry a jw?
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jarrod
I am a man who is in love with a witness. we have been in a relationship for 3 years full of guilt and fear and now it seems like it may be the end. Is it possible or is there a way for me to have my own belief and marry a JW? Tonight I have to go to my girlfriends house and talk with her father(a devout member). This is one of the most difficult days in my life. Can anyone help me???? I believe that he will try to convert me. I am happy with my beliefs and just want to be with her.
HELP. DOES ANYONE HAVE ANY ADVICE. icq# 37104547