Thank you for all the welcome comments I too believe in therapy and did it for a bit but felt it did not really tell me much except that I was doing everything right so far:)
lise2468
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Did You Personally Know Any JWs That Were Sexually Molested By Other JWs?
by minimus ini knew of a handful (which is too many) that were molested by a jehovah's witness.
it was not typical in my experience.
what about you???.
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Of the sexual abuse survivors you knew. . .
by Lady Lee inhow many fit this description provided by no longer held captive?.
as a nurse, i can tell you that their lives wont go well.
usually abused females end up neurotics and suffer from personality disorders, and more often than not, anorexic.
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lise2468
wow that is not me I was into health and taking care of myself ran every day watched what I ate meaning no junk food ate tons of food when I was hungry due to needing the energy I was into cycling too . I think for me these things were life savers a way to get out and cope to relieve stress help me keep my goals and helped me to focus on getting through school . I realized at 14 I was a victim of a abuser and nothing was my fault. I was also not promiscuous and as a teen or adult I did not feel the need be loved in a way that was unhealthy or be afraid of being loved by a man when I found the right partner I got married. I equate molestation with rape that is what was done to me it was not even sex but a violation of my human spirit.
recovery for me was trying to find myself while dealing with being raised in the JW. I view myself as a person who is a self starter if I need to get something done it gets done I love life and every day is a precious wonderful gift. I always told myself just because someone did very bad things to me does not mean I am unworthy I am a very good person and just because I had horrible parents does not mean I need to turn out that way. I did not I have raised my kids with good morals and values they are almost out of school getting ready for college life, one is already out of college and is a social worker it is their passion and they are very good at helping people.
I think I did ok but my other 3 siblings that were abused all three have very disfunctional lives one ended his life due to no parental support for all his issues and his health issues he just finally could not take life. None of them had eating disorders just in my opinion very poor coping skills depression and dysfuntional behaviors in general. Some how I think they like being in the dysfuntion and it every relationship is not dysfuntional it is like they can not cope.
I personally hate it when people think women who are abused have eating disorders or they think we jump into the sack with every guy it is so not what I have done or what some of my friends who have been abused have done just my two cents. Thanks for listening
Lise
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Did You Personally Know Any JWs That Were Sexually Molested By Other JWs?
by minimus ini knew of a handful (which is too many) that were molested by a jehovah's witness.
it was not typical in my experience.
what about you???.
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lise2468
I'm not new here signed up a while back then never came back to the site until today.
I guess this is a good place to start posting. I was horribly molested for several years I like to call it rape if that is ok.
That is the word I use as I was forced to have sex at the age of 7 to 9. My siblings 3 of them were molested too and the one sibling that did tell my mother shut her ears and sent him away.
I never told out of fear my molester said my parents would think I was a bad person and send me away like my brother. I believed them so out of fear I was sillent . My molester blew his head off I was relieved to find that out because I was just getting ready to make their sin public after many years.
A few years ago I finally told my mother only because my other sibling finally came out but because they were DF"D she was not believed mom called me and started telling me how horrible my sibling was for lying At that time I had no idea any of my siblings had been molested I thought that I was the only one. I was angry she did not believe my sibling at first my mother did not believe me and then she brushed it off as just simple touching. I finallymade it clear to her that a man trying to have anal sex with a little girl was not touching she asked me to keep it quite how would it look....need I say more a typical response. They felt sorry for the molester I was now glad I did not tell as a child.
I was also touched by my friends dad who was a Elder he invited me to go on vacation with my friend he had just stepped down the week before no one knew why they gave a talk on sex people assumed it was because his wife left him for another man. No it was because he had been having full blown sex with his two young teen daughters.
While on vacation which included the summer assembly this creep touched my vaginia in the pool I moved right away and turned around he said it was a accident he thought I was his kid I assumed he had his eyes closed underwater gave him the benifit of doubt.
had I known he was a molester I would have not ever in a million years gone on a vacation with my friend the pool was full of JW kids! I had given him a filthy look because of being molested in my younger years I had a very protective additude and got out of the pool and stayed away from him. Funny my friend gave her dad a dirty look too I just thought it was her being embarrassed over her dad doing something really stupid.
I asked to go home a week later he stared at me all the time no mater what we were doing I just though he did not like me, now I know why he stared. He took us to amusment parks and would disapear for hours now I feel sick thinking about it he used us as his way into kiddy amusment parks.It was supose to be the summer I spent with them. My friends dad was glad to see me go he molested his daughter after I left.......I am most angry at the elder who had sat in on his committee meeting who had asked me what I was doing this summer one sunday after meetings.
When I told him and he gave me a worried look I thought he was wierd I was just 14 but hey how was I supose to know what he knew...why did this elder not tell my mom that this guy was a molester..I have zero respect for Elders and I believe those articles they write about protecting children are only done to protect them legally.... that's Just my two cents. After I found out many years later in my mid 20s that he was a molester I thought about that Elder and thought would he have let his child go with a known molester. How could he have not told my motherand he was a dear friend or so I thought. Today 27 years later I am happily married and have wonderful kids. Sadly this man is still a JW and he has been DF'D multiple times and let back in..it is horrible in my oppinion he is a repeat offender with no police record! so for those that are in or thinking of going back and you have small children I would say ignore all those feel good talks and articles they give on how they help you protect your children. My molester would even stick his hand down my pants if he was even alone with me for 15 seconds even when adults where around the second they could just be with me they were all over me. I live with a life sentence not to mention the guilt of not telling sooner I am sick to know my molester probably killed himself because he was going to be turned in by a worldly person for molesting their girl, I could have prevented her from that had I had the courage to step forward sooner.
Sadly my religon kept me thinking God would take care of it. Well it was not soon enough! I wonder how many others out there like me. I am doing well but my siblings who were molested all have drug problems that is how they delt with it I believe that is not uncommon. I at the age of around 14 I had a tranformation thanks to self reflection I kept reminding myself that I was the victim and that I was worth saving. Well that's my story thanks for listening. Today I am happily married and have wonderful almost grown kids.. We just walked away one day no fading we left cold turkey could not take going to a place that was supose to upbuild one when we felt it was just the oposite...
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Old friends in OR, WA - New friends in PA
by nwchick inlooking for old friends in portland, oregon or kennewick, wa.
my name was michelle west (maiden) and michelle savard (married).. i live in central pa now and would love to meet up with some exjws.
are there apostafests out here?.
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lise2468
hi michelle you use to keep a interesting blog I loved to read. I hope you are doing well