I totally agree with you. And I too, have let lack of confidence in myself and my abilities to hold me back, and I've settled for less. I don't blame being raised a Witness for not reaching my full potential. It's overcoming fear of change and following through with my goals. But, good for you for putting your plans into action. It's inspiring.
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Do you think you are forever damaged by the Watchtower??
by noni1974 ini've been out since 1998 so i've had time to learn how to be normal.
i've had time to get over the pain and hurt of shunning by those who claimed to love me.
i really can't blame them because my mom was born in too.
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panty Hose at Meeting?
by hamsterbait ina friend of mine went to work in ny for a few months.. it was the middle of summer, and baking hot.. after the meeting an elder approached her and asked why wasnt she wearing panty hose at the kingdumb hell.. she said its too hot.. he said it disrespects jehoobie.. she said "so does staring at my legs during the meeting.".
i have also heard complaints that a bra strap might be visible under a blouse, so cardigans should still be worn.. how do these creeps cope when sitting on a beach?.
who was the gibbering buddy who sunbathed on the roof of beth hell showing off his packet in skimpy trunks?.
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I never wear stockings at the meetings, and it's not an issue. I know some halls where it is. But, if it ever was made an issue at my hall, that would be the final straw for me. I'm already getting to the point where it is getting too much, fading may be faster than I expected.
This reminds me of a sleazy brother asking a sister what kind of panty hose she was wearing, because he wanted his wife to get that kind.
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What kind of Witness were you?
by EmptyInside inthere always seemed to be some witnesses who seemed to be in it for the social aspect of it.
the ones who planned most of the gatherings and trips.
and the ones who got invited to the parties two states away.
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Thanks for all your responses. White Dove, I'm so sorry you were treated that way. Why did that P.O.'s wife even bother to go out in service? She's just another hypocrite. This is off topic, but they are willing to go to strangers' doors, but they can't show kindness and love to those in their own congregation.
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Talk with family
by EmptyInside inwell, my experience isn't anything extraordinary or anything, just interesting.
yesterday, i spent the evening with my brother and his family.
my brother is an elder and my nephew is grown and is a ms and pioneer.
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Sorry about any confusion Missing Link, glad it was cleared up for you.
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What kind of Witness were you?
by EmptyInside inthere always seemed to be some witnesses who seemed to be in it for the social aspect of it.
the ones who planned most of the gatherings and trips.
and the ones who got invited to the parties two states away.
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There always seemed to be some Witnesses who seemed to be in it for the social aspect of it. The ones who planned most of the gatherings and trips. And the ones who got invited to the parties two states away. And of course, there were the ones who were more hardcore and just worried about getting their pioneer hours in and doing extra research. I sort of fall into the middle.
And I wondered if the social butterflies were more likely to fall away because of hurt feelings and the scholarly more serious types leave because of issues with doctrine.
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My Dad Died Today
by cantleave inhe has been ill for some time, but it was still unexpected.
he was never a jw and i didn't really have a close relationship with him, since he remarried after my parents divorced.
i reunited with him in the mid 90's after over 10 years of not seeing him.. .
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I am so sorry for your loss.
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2010 Convention Rumor
by Hikaru inum... a witness sent me this in an email.
it's going around as the rumored program, but there's no proof.. if it is real though...is very last one symbolic?
or is it literal?
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Oh, I am so not going this year. Actually, the convention last year brought me to this site, because I was so depressed after the convention. It's exhausting, expensive, tiring, boring, lonely time for me. I'll just pretend I'm attending another week and no one at my hall will be the wiser. I am quite invisible there anyway. I've missed so many meetings, and no phone calls or questions, which is good. Fading is going to be easy for me. Family is the only obstacle now. Sorry, this thread reminded me of how miserable I was at the convention last year.
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"Jehovah has really blessed me."
by stillin ini was at dinner with witness friends last night when one of the guys started that up.
i kept my mouth shut, let him have his say for a while; it's good to feel gratitude and i'm glad for him that he feels so blessed, but never, even in my most "spiritually healthy" days have i boasted like that.
finally, i spoke up with "how do you think that makes me, almost unemployed and struggling these days, feel?
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Hi stillin, yes this in one of my pet peeves too. I can't stand it when someone makes ludicrous comments like this. And just like you, when I was still a whole-hearted believer, I didn't go for such unbalanced statements. I remember this one nutty pioneer sister saying Jehovah's spirit just isn't with me today, because she couldn't managae to thread a needle. And don't ask me why she was sewing during the meeting for field service. I have no clue. But, this other sister spoke up and said "Susan, don't be fanatical." I still have a good laugh about that to this day.
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Does Anyone Like the New Songbook?
by metatron ini'll try not to be 'knee-jerk' critical about this subject but do any witnesses like the new songbook?
ok, they got rid of some awful lyrics about molesting bees - and downsized references to the ever redundant jesus - but the music itself sounds like forced piano practice.
trying to sing these slow, pedantic tunes is awkward and painful.. i haven't seen any witness e-mails about this 'wonderful provision from jehovah' and his faithful hacks, so i wonder if the rank and file aren't enthused either.
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Hell no. My family are Witnesses and they don't like it. My brother's whole congregation doesn't like the new song book. And I still have to go to meetings, and it's miserable having to fake singing these new songs. There were some old songs that I liked but they changed them. And they are just awful.
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Talk with family
by EmptyInside inwell, my experience isn't anything extraordinary or anything, just interesting.
yesterday, i spent the evening with my brother and his family.
my brother is an elder and my nephew is grown and is a ms and pioneer.
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Yes, jwfacts, my mother is quite liberal in some things, die hard in others. But, she's been through a lot in the organization. She saw how my brother was treated when he was a teenager by the elders. And I think she feels bad that she allowed it to happen.
Just one example: This happened in the late 70's I guess, my brother is about 16 years older than me. Anyway, a lot of young people in the hall went to a concert, Joe Cocker, I believe. Well, the next Sunday after the meeting, there was an announcement. They read off all the names of the teenagers that had been to this concert. That they were to meet in the second school. They didn't tell them why. They all thought they were going to be asked to be in a part or something. No, they just got counselled about going to the concert. One sister opened the door and said my daughter went to the concert too, so do you want her to come back here too. The parents were on their kids side, because they gave their permission for them to go. It wasn't the elders business. They were on a power trip. Anyway, that is just a small examle of the craziness my family has seen in the org. But, my mother, of course, always stressed that we do not follow imperfect men. So, I let it go at that.