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  I need support please

  by AwSnap in

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  for the most part, i am able to understand how my family treats me.

  i was a jw for 20 years...since birth.

  i used to shun people.

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  EmptyInside

  Aww,congrats,to you and your husband and new daughter. Best wishes.
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  What is your standing in a congregation if you're a man of 40 and never married?

  by dgp in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  on a different thread (http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/members/private/211210/3/my-life-well-the-first-part-at-least.

  someone commented that.

  as a sister especially you are nothing when not attached to you husband.. this made me curious.

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  EmptyInside

  Well,I feel bad reading this now. As a young girl growing up in the organization,you're conditioned to only look for "spiritually qualified men". They are supposed to make the best husbands. So,that is why some would only date a brother with a position in the congregation.

  As I got older though,I observed those with privileges were no better. And I just wanted a man with a good heart,and yes I still wanted one that wanted to serve Jehovah. But,even if,the best he could do was be a good publisher,that was enough for me.

  But,there were brothers interested in me,and they were nice enough. I should have given them a chance,and I feel bad about it now. But,even just taking the time to get to know someone when you're a Witness is hard. People already consider you a couple right from the start and this puts a lot of pressure on you both.

  It's a screwed up system all around. I'm so glad to be free of that nonsense now and that mindset. It was awful and I was miserable.
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  LET'S PREDICT THE FUTURE.....

  by Mary in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  after reading the thread about remote viewing, let's make some predictions for the next 5 - 10 years and see how many we get right.

  i'll start it off by predicting things that are no-brainers.

  i predict that within the next 10 years:.

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  EmptyInside

  Flipper it sounds more like lunch,lol,but,enjoy. Because,it's 3 in the afternoon on the east coast,so it's past noon on the west.
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  Wish I Would Have Left Earlier

  by EmptyInside in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know everyone's situation is different.

  and no matter what age one is when they finally say enough of the religion,it's difficult.. but,from what i have observed among my friends,it appears that those who left in their teens/early 20's fare a bit better.. my two close friends who were disfellowshipped in their teens/early twenties,seemed to do fairly well with the transition.

  of course,i know they went through a great deal of pain to get where they are today.

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  EmptyInside

  Hi White Dove,

  Well,I'm glad you're happy now.

  Best.
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  Wish I Would Have Left Earlier

  by EmptyInside in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know everyone's situation is different.

  and no matter what age one is when they finally say enough of the religion,it's difficult.. but,from what i have observed among my friends,it appears that those who left in their teens/early 20's fare a bit better.. my two close friends who were disfellowshipped in their teens/early twenties,seemed to do fairly well with the transition.

  of course,i know they went through a great deal of pain to get where they are today.

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  EmptyInside

  Yes,ditto back to you oompa and good luck!
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  Wish I Would Have Left Earlier

  by EmptyInside in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know everyone's situation is different.

  and no matter what age one is when they finally say enough of the religion,it's difficult.. but,from what i have observed among my friends,it appears that those who left in their teens/early 20's fare a bit better.. my two close friends who were disfellowshipped in their teens/early twenties,seemed to do fairly well with the transition.

  of course,i know they went through a great deal of pain to get where they are today.

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  EmptyInside

  Blondie-Well,I haven't had to deal with half of all that you have gone through,and you're one of the posters here I greatly admire.

  Quandry-Thanks for sharing your experience. I'm happy for you for continuing with your education.
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  Wish I Would Have Left Earlier

  by EmptyInside in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know everyone's situation is different.

  and no matter what age one is when they finally say enough of the religion,it's difficult.. but,from what i have observed among my friends,it appears that those who left in their teens/early 20's fare a bit better.. my two close friends who were disfellowshipped in their teens/early twenties,seemed to do fairly well with the transition.

  of course,i know they went through a great deal of pain to get where they are today.

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  EmptyInside

  Thank you Broken Promises. I'm happy for you too.
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  Wish I Would Have Left Earlier

  by EmptyInside in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know everyone's situation is different.

  and no matter what age one is when they finally say enough of the religion,it's difficult.. but,from what i have observed among my friends,it appears that those who left in their teens/early 20's fare a bit better.. my two close friends who were disfellowshipped in their teens/early twenties,seemed to do fairly well with the transition.

  of course,i know they went through a great deal of pain to get where they are today.

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  EmptyInside

  Jamie-Thanks for the vote of confidence.

  serenitynow-You're right we can only move forward.

  Scott77-Thank you,but I hope this didn't come across as a "woe is me thread". It was more of an observation. And yes,I wish I was more ahead of the game,but things are looking up and getting better.

  Vamp-You're right,it's the present and future that is important now. But,at least,we can learn from our past,too.
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  Wish I Would Have Left Earlier

  by EmptyInside in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know everyone's situation is different.

  and no matter what age one is when they finally say enough of the religion,it's difficult.. but,from what i have observed among my friends,it appears that those who left in their teens/early 20's fare a bit better.. my two close friends who were disfellowshipped in their teens/early twenties,seemed to do fairly well with the transition.

  of course,i know they went through a great deal of pain to get where they are today.

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  EmptyInside

  Thank you both for your encouraging words.
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  Wish I Would Have Left Earlier

  by EmptyInside in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know everyone's situation is different.

  and no matter what age one is when they finally say enough of the religion,it's difficult.. but,from what i have observed among my friends,it appears that those who left in their teens/early 20's fare a bit better.. my two close friends who were disfellowshipped in their teens/early twenties,seemed to do fairly well with the transition.

  of course,i know they went through a great deal of pain to get where they are today.

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  EmptyInside

  I know everyone's situation is different. And no matter what age one is when they finally say enough of the religion,it's difficult.

  But,from what I have observed among my friends,it appears that those who left in their teens/early 20's fare a bit better.

  My two close friends who were disfellowshipped in their teens/early twenties,seemed to do fairly well with the transition. Of course,I know they went through a great deal of pain to get where they are today. I guess what I mean to say is that they had a head start.

  And I think another factor is that,they were more likely to have non-Witness friends during their school years.

  I just know that I have a long road ahead of me. And I have made great progress,but I still hit roadblocks. I'm still learning about myself and trying to find my authentic self. It's much harder when you were born into the religion.

  Plus,leaving later,I'm way behind as far as relationships and education. It can be overwhelming. Looking back,I had moments where I wanted to leave when I was in my teens and 20's but,I was too afraid. I know there is no use regretting the past.

  But,I just wish I was more ahead in the game,so to speak.