Posts by babygirl30

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Suddenly - JWs are coming at me out of NOWHERE!

by babygirl30 in

jw
friends

i have had 2 really nice experiences running into jws recently, and just wanted to share that even though most are still 'stuck up' and make the choice to shun me - there are still some really good ones out there that don't take the org directions on dfing seriously - and those are the ones i respect and continue to hold in high regard:.

1. my buddy that was in my circle of 'friends' when a jw texted me out the blue tues night.

i didn't remember him (saved only his 1st name in my phone) and just could not figure out who it was.

babygirl30

SixofNine

It's not about exploitation sweetie ... this is BID-NESS!!!!! -hahahahahaha. You got the money or what??

feeling good

You're so right! My gf (who is still 'in') comes to visit me or we will meet up on the LOW...and she begged me the other day to come back cause she was sick of visiting me in SECRET! I just laughed, cause it's sad. I mean we are grown ass women, we've been friends for years, but she is NOT permitted to speak to me in public or be seen with me because of a RELIGION. Doesn't make sense at all. She is a good person at heart and I love her to death, but it's just really sad...like you said.

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Emailed Talk From Governing Body Member Last Weekend

by tryingtoexit in

jw
friends

what's good a-ebody??

just thought i'd share this email with yall real quick.

it still amazes me that i was a jehovah's witness for 27 years and never thought twice about these types of talks other than i need to make sure my act is together when the end comes, and now i can't even read/hear it without getting mad.

babygirl30

In other words, he understands real life.

HOW? As part of the GB, he lives in a BUBBLE in NY where everything is taken care of FOR him! And what real life was like back in the 60s/70s is NOT how it is in 2009 - going on '10! And I don't have all the time in the world to do what HE does...nobody bends over backwards for me because I am annointed...

But you know, two years before the bottom fell out, we had a Circuit Assembly about keeping your life simple. Those who followed Jehovah's counsel have avoided so much heartache. So what about today's counsel? The "Time Left is Reduced", is our theme: Will you follow the counsel today? The way you live your life in these hard economic times, does it show you are trusting in Jehovah for your necessities? Or does it show you are trusting in yourself and your material things, and taking matters into your own hands?'

Ok...first of all, even some of those that followed Jehovah's counsel DID get caught up in that housing blowup! Had nothing to do with following a darn thing - it had to do with people living above their means!!! A lot were greedy and wanted huge homes for little money - fine. That's on THEM. But what about the everyday JW that works hard and needed a 'home' for his family...and ended up losing his JOB, so then he couldn't afford to pay for his house? Is that HIS fault? Is he accused of not listening to Jehovah's counsel? He still has to WORK...he still has to provide for his family...he can't just expect Jehovah to rain down Benjamins from the sky so he can make ends meet!! Making such a statement is actually offensive to me. I believe Jehovah supports those that support THEMSELVES...not the ones that expect him to pick up the slack.

Well, you know what, Jehovah may not LIKE the way you are.

This sounds sooooooooooooooooooo much like what the elders tell people in their JC's when they are getting DF'd (Jehovah takes his holy spirit away from you, you are dead to Jehovah, Jehovah has cleaned his house of YOU)...another 'tactic' to either suck you back IN or KEEP you where you are at. This is God he's talking about - what kind of God REALLY would say that to his people? Better yet - who made HIM Jehovah's mouthpiece??????????????????????

I saw only a glimpse of what it will probably be like at Armageddon

Really? So NO ONE knows the date when Armageddon is to come - but HE has seen what is will 'probably' be like? OOOOKKKK!! Where is the humility here - seems like he is making assumptions. What's sad is that when that assumption is dealt from the platform - it becomes 'THE word' on all...

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Suddenly - JWs are coming at me out of NOWHERE!

by babygirl30 in

jw
friends

i have had 2 really nice experiences running into jws recently, and just wanted to share that even though most are still 'stuck up' and make the choice to shun me - there are still some really good ones out there that don't take the org directions on dfing seriously - and those are the ones i respect and continue to hold in high regard:.

1. my buddy that was in my circle of 'friends' when a jw texted me out the blue tues night.

i didn't remember him (saved only his 1st name in my phone) and just could not figure out who it was.

babygirl30

Ok...well then....may I kindly have your cc#, billing address, and full name on the card? Oh - and do NOT forget the 3-digit security code on the back. Once I've processed ur cards, the pics are YOURS!!!!!

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Young People Ask - What can I wear?

by Bangalore in

jw
friends

found this interesting blog article about an awake article.

the blogger recieved a copy of awake from some witness who came to her door.

she was particularly very disgusted with the "young people ask" article.. .

babygirl30

To be honest...my mother has MAJOR emotional issues and very LOW self esteem - she is completely embarassed of HER body! The woman purposely buys clothing 2 sizes larger then what she actually wears in order to 'hide' any hint of shape (which she really doesn't have anyways). So as the daughter of someone like that - it was burned in my head that having a shape is BAD! It draws negative attention, all clothese should not 'curve' against your body, no v-necks, nothing 'fitted' is appropriate, strapless is slutty, etc. Growing up, I really believed I was 'cheap' (as my parents liked to use all the time when they didn't approve of an outfit) and that I was ugly. Still struggle with that 'voice' in my head to this day and I'm grown!!!!!

What's sad is that articles like that Awake on 'how to dress' really give JWs who already HAVE issues, an 'excuse' to judge and criticize others. It feeds a cycle of emotional abuse that takes a lot to break free from. I'm surprised my mother hasn't secretly dropped that magazine in my mailbox with that article highlighted. "Dress and Grooming" was an obsession for her.

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Suddenly - JWs are coming at me out of NOWHERE!

by babygirl30 in

jw
friends

i have had 2 really nice experiences running into jws recently, and just wanted to share that even though most are still 'stuck up' and make the choice to shun me - there are still some really good ones out there that don't take the org directions on dfing seriously - and those are the ones i respect and continue to hold in high regard:.

1. my buddy that was in my circle of 'friends' when a jw texted me out the blue tues night.

i didn't remember him (saved only his 1st name in my phone) and just could not figure out who it was.

babygirl30

AWWWW....SixofNine!

If I send pics - I am NOT responsible for where ur hands go! LMAO!!!!

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Young People Ask - What can I wear?

by Bangalore in

jw
friends

found this interesting blog article about an awake article.

the blogger recieved a copy of awake from some witness who came to her door.

she was particularly very disgusted with the "young people ask" article.. .

babygirl30

HAHAHAHAHA! The only way you get photos is if I get ur cc#....oh, and it HAS to be AMEX Black too!

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Young People Ask - What can I wear?

by Bangalore in

jw
friends

found this interesting blog article about an awake article.

the blogger recieved a copy of awake from some witness who came to her door.

she was particularly very disgusted with the "young people ask" article.. .

babygirl30

Oh thank GOD I am not part of that religion anymore...my mother ate UP articles like this!!! She loved waving that in my face - because to her - I was always 'immodest'. I have a large chest, and so no matter what I wear, it is noticeable...but in HER mind, wearing clothes that are 'curvy' or outline my shape was WRONG and she would break out article after article to try to convince me that I was dressing 'cheap'. So this latest one would've just been another weapon for her to try to use against me. UGH!!!!

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The fine art of refusing a Shepherding Call

by Open mind in

i'm pretty sure the forseeable future will include numerous attempts to "shepherd" my family.

my elder status is either already gone or soon to be gone.. .

does anyone know of specific rules when it comes to refusing a shepherding call?

babygirl30

"How long will you roll around in your vomit?"

Are u kidding me?????? Oh my God - I would've gone OFF on that man. THAT is beyond disgusting. I am sorry you were treated that way, seriously. NOBODY should feel they have the 'right' to talk to anyone like that (especially not someone you are supposed to be helping and encouraging).

I had a similar experience in a shepherding call with an elder and a CO. The elder is a nitwit...all jokes aside...dude is REALLY 'off' mentally and so him even trying to speak to me on MY level is never ever gonna happen. The CO is hard-nosed and very arrogant! So these 2 come to my house (unexpectedly might I add). The elder says that he's only seen me at the mtg once in a few mos and that he and the CO just wanted to pop by and check up on me. The FIRST thing out the CO's mouth was "when was the last time you committed a sin?" He caught me off guard and then proceeded to tell me that because of my special circumstances (the fact that I had been abused by my ex) he felt it necessary to visit me and encourage me. AS I told him about my anger about what my ex did to me and how I was DF'd but NOTHING happened to him , his exact words were "You shouldn't be concerned with what happens to your ex - you should be concerned with forming a stronger relationship with Jehovah and you need to do some research on humility. Besides, you should be angry with YOURSELF for getting involved with him (my ex) and not following the societies 'directions' in dating." Needless to say, that was the DAY I decided never to go back to a mtg EVER!!

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Suddenly - JWs are coming at me out of NOWHERE!

by babygirl30 in

jw
friends

i have had 2 really nice experiences running into jws recently, and just wanted to share that even though most are still 'stuck up' and make the choice to shun me - there are still some really good ones out there that don't take the org directions on dfing seriously - and those are the ones i respect and continue to hold in high regard:.

1. my buddy that was in my circle of 'friends' when a jw texted me out the blue tues night.

i didn't remember him (saved only his 1st name in my phone) and just could not figure out who it was.

babygirl30

I have had 2 really NICE experiences running into JWs recently, and just wanted to share that even though MOST are still 'stuck up' and make the choice to shun me - there are still some really GOOD ones out there that don't take the org directions on DFing seriously - and those are the ones I respect and continue to hold in high regard:

1. My buddy that was in my circle of 'friends' when a JW texted me out the blue Tues night. I didn't REMEMBER him (saved only his 1st name in my phone) and just could not figure out who it was. So after going back and forth for about a min, I called - and then I remembered!! Well, he asked me about how I was doing, what I was up to, my job, and the very LAST question was "are you back yet"? I don't know why - but it made me CRY!!!! I literally have not talked to this guy in a long time but started bawling when he asked me that. I just explained all that happend (with the elders, the CO, my ex fiance, his family, and then my parents) and he actually started crying on the phone (not bawling or anything...but I could hear him snifflin). He then told me about his sister (who has been DF'd for years) and that he never believed in shunning her - she is his blood, his family, and that he feels it's wrong to cut off fam. Not to mention that their parents are physically disabled, so they cannot take care of themselves at all...he and his younger sister live with the parents and care for them, and their older sister (the one tha tis DF'd) comes and helps. His point was that they are still a 'family' whether or not their sis is a JW ... and so they all still associate with her. He said he was crying because #1 he didn't know all the details of exactly what happened to me till I told him, and #2 he felt BAD that my family is treating me this way. MInd you, this guy is an MS and on his way to elder (giving public talks). Of course he tried to encourage me to just go to another Khall in another area, but I have to admit, he was NOT pressuring me nor did he make me feel bad when I told him I have no desire to go back to the 'org' anytime soon. In the end we talked for about an hour, and then he asked for pics of me...said he missed me and knows that whatever decisions I make, I will be ok.

2. Had dinner with a girl that was in my cong growing up that I was NEVER really close to...and then she got DF'd years ago. Was out for a few yrs, then got reinstated (solely for the purpose of being in her sisters wedding), then literally the day AFTER the wedding, she bailed! -hahahahaha. Never set foot in a Khall again. Of course she is not DF'd now, but is inactive and living her LIFE - dating, going out, working, in college, etc. Anyways, we ran into each other months ago when she was in town visiting her family, and exchanged numbers. Tried making plans to catch up but things never worked out. FINALLY last night it did! WE had such a good conversation...and learned a LOT about each other that I think we never knew because we didn't run in the same circles. Turns out she our stories are very similiar (in the org) and that she has been in therapy in order to get it OUT of her head - all the cult like treatment, her upbringing as a JW, not having an identity (or support) when she was DF'd, finding her way in the 'world', debating whether to come back and STAY being a JW again, etc. We talked for a good hour and then parted ways, but it was really NICE to see her and feel 'understood' by someone. Her parents are both still 'in' the org, but her brother walked away, and now her younger sister (and husband) are having major DOUBTS about the org and are struggling with leaving in a huffy or gradually fading. The ONLY 1 that has stayed in is her eldest sis, but she is married and pregnant - so her 'idea' of HAPPY life involves JWs.

Really made me feel GOOD these past few days because it just reiterates (as does this site) that I'm NOT ALONE! That others feel and agree with me...my ideas about the org are NOT 'far fetched' and out in left field as my parents would have me believe. Just a really GOOD couple nights in a row with some JWs....

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All You Apostates are EVIL READ!!

by DubR in

first off lmao, i was just joking by my title guys.

im only 24yrs old and i like to have fun!

anyway, this is my very first post on this wonderful site.

babygirl30

LOL! Dubr - ur post was OFF THE CHAIN!!!!! I was really feelin it...and welcome.

It's amazing how we all have that 'moment' when the lightbulb goes off and we realize that something is just isn't right...and it's that moment that pushes us to make the decision NOT to go back (or get reinstated). Happened to me, it happened to you, happens to almost everyone. Glad ya found ur way...