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  The show must go on..

  by outofthebox in

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  i was reading in the spanish forum (http://www.extj.com/foro/showthread.php?t=15396) that an old sister died from a heart atack during the memorial, but that didn't stop the ritual.

  i remember a lonley very sick sister calling for help to the kh during an emergency, and the elders told her, they were busy in an elder's meeting.

  she almost died and was rushed into the hospital by 'worldy' people.

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  I just remember all the D.A.'s at the Vet Stadium in Philadelphia, PA - and how people would literally pass out in their chairs and in the hallways. I recall one year where it was hot as HADES!!!!!!! They continually made the announcement to 'stay out of the hallways as it's a safety hazard' and the brothers would police people who would flat out SIT along the wall in the hallway because at least there was a breeze going through. i vividly remember people just fallin out over the extreme heat...of course nothing stopped and even when ambulances were called in to assist those that were suffering -
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  Who officiates JW weddings?

  by greenie in

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  if two jws were in great standing and getting married in a kingdom hall, who would officiate their wedding?

  could an elder do the whole thing, or would a justice of the peace have to do part with the talk from the elder?.

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  Usually a plumber or a window washer.

  Now THAT was funny!!!! (because it's soooo true)
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  To tell my parents or not to tell my parents...unfortunately that is a question

  by feenx in

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  i could use some perspective on something i'm struggling with.

  first off, a little background info.

  i am an only child and my parents, in addition to quite difficult circumstances we've all experienced, both personally and as a family while i was growing up, remain devout.

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  I agree with what everyone here has said - invite your parents and let the cards fall where they may!! I firmly believe that the BEST way to show these JW's that life outside the org is not going to kill you...is to be HAPPY! You're getting married, you found someone you love and adore, you are goign to start a family - show your parents that no matter what they say or how their shunning has affected you - you are 'ok' and that your life is happy without the org behind you. Better yet, stick a pic of the 2 of you IN their invitation....so they can SEE your happiness.

  On another note...your parents sound similar to mine. About 3 mos ago, after having dealings with me for 10mos straight, my parents forbid me to come to their home any longer, took back my key, and told me NOT to call unless it's a life or death matter. apparently both of them going into the hospital (my dad for a mini stroke and my mom for knee surgery) was not important enough for them to contact me and let me KNOW...guess they figure that it would go against their 'shunning' policy. But I know my parents, they are the most UNHAPPY people I've ever met - and what's ironic is that despite being DF'd and NOT having family support or association - I am STILL happy!
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  Did You WANT To Talk To Disfellowshipped People?

  by minimus in

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  did you at least want to say "hi"?

  or did you avoid them like the plague?.

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  Sadly, I used to IGNORE people that were DF'd and I was very haughty about it too! Like someone else said - I would figure to myself "Well THEY obviously had a bad attitude and were unrepentant - so they brought it on themselves!" Huh.........................such a ridiculous frame of mind I was in!! Cause after my own DFing i now understand that it's not always 'by choice' that the decision is made.
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  I met the perfect man.....

  by dearone in

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  but he was worldly.

  i am 38 and single because i was waiting on jehovah to provide a husband for me.

  a few years ago i met the man of my dreams.

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  dearone

  My mother used to tell me this saying that burned in my HEAD and to this day still haunts me - she would say "Satan will give you your hearts desire for 1 act of worship". Now she would say that because I would always tell her that I would NEVER leave Jehovah's org, and that the only way that would happen is if I snagged an 'athlete' and was set for life! -hahahahaha.

  I've never had an issue meeting JW brothers, but they were NEVER really what I wanted...they were either boring, or mamma's boys, or way too straight laced for me, or just NOT my type physically. In amongst my 'career' as a JW I have dated 2 non-JWS, and to this day I regret how I treated them and how things ended. Neither one of these men EVER hurt me - neither one ever disrespected me, never treated me as a 'lesser vessel', never made me feel as if I was spiritually weak for being independent. One of those guys I fell madly in love with...and thankfully he and I are together today (reunited AFTER I was DF'd but remained friends throughout my years of being a JW).

  My point is that you cannot change the past - you did what you did (letting the non JW go) because THAT was what you believed back then! That's what you were supposed to do...so you shouldn't be upset over that. I think it's really cruel that we have it burned in our heads that if we just PRAY and ask Jehovah for a mate, he will bless us with one - because I've seen sisters get married without effort while others prayed and traveled all over the place looking for Mr Right in the org. So you're telling me that Jehovah chose HER over YOU to get a mate? Do you really believe that?
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  I have decided to let the world know my real name - With Pics

  by Elsewhere in

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  president dwayne elizondo mountain dew herbert camacho, porn super-star.

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  You been to Philly??? That looks like a PHILLY laced-wig! -hahahahahaha.
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  Do you like unexpected visitors?

  by highdose in

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  i fall into the sad bracket of not likiing them.

  sorry but i spend my whole working day being unrelentingly polite and charming ... when i get home i want to switch off and slob out.

  i do not want the doorbell to ring and have to play host!

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  Friends and family I don't mind...the elders just 'popping' by to see what I'm up to, well that's HELL NO!
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  Did you ever think you would end up here?

  by highdose in

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  meaning... on this website, no longer a jw or at least no longer beliving anymore?

  i never did, even 18 months ago it would have seemed impossible, unthinkable.

  even though looking back the seeds of doubt had been sown for some time, i just never allowed myself to think about them... vvv dangerous thing to do!.

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  I agree with everyone else...I felt SO guilty about coming to this site. But after my last mtg with the C.O. and a nitwit elder, I just couldn't HELP but start trying to understand WHY the treatment I received was ok...whether other JWs had dealt with it before...and so I fell onto this site. All I did was read for awhile because I was too frightened to post, thinking that I was becoming the ULTIMATE 'apostate' by saying anything on here - but have now come to understand the real deal of JW org.
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  I'm already starting to feel normal

  by doublelife in

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  for the first time today, when my boss asked what i'm going to be doing for thanksgiving, i didn't have to go into this awkward explaination of why i don't celebrate it.

  i simply said that i'm going over my aunt's.

  it may sound trivial but it feels great!

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  babygirl30

  Today was my 1st time EVER saying

  HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

  That is a small step, but it just makes me feel like I'm OK...not getting struck by lightening or anything. -hahahaha
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  What are you Thankful for this year?

  by lovelylil2 in

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  in the spirit of thanksgiving, thought i ask what everyone is thankful for.. i am thankful for my family's good health and happiness, for the great friends i have, for my job that i absolutely love, for celebrating my 7th year of freedom this month from the wt publishing cult.. anyone else?.

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  I am thankful that I found the strength to say 'enough' and RUN away from that abusive, self righteous, can't hold a job, living with his parents in the attic at 31, never had any money, blew what lil money he DID have on E&J VSOP, didn't realize what he had in 'me' - NUT that I almost married.

  I'm thankful - NOT for being DF'd - but for what being DF'd woke up IN me...cause it gave me the sense to start researching JWs and opening my eyes to how things are done (right or wrong). Finally started seeing the org for what it is.

  Thankful for the REAL friends that I have made and the opportunity to get to know my non-JW family closer then ever before. Their support has gotten me through a year that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.

  I'm grateful that I have a good job that allows me to support myself comfortably and not depend on anyone!