What a beautiful story! Your husband did it the right way...congratulations!!!
babygirl30
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How My Husband Helped Me See TTATT
by corruptgirl ini wanted to write my experience on how my husband helped me see the ttatt (the truth about the truth).
first, let me mention that he wrote his own experience a couple months ago under the name sanchy.
for his story please click here….. http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/5148261828526080/walking-thin-line-resigning-elder
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JW Hypocrisy Rears It's Ugly Head...As Usual
by babygirl30 inso about last night.... i am out at a local club (not restaurant, not event venue - a club) to see a rap concert.
now, i am with some friends minding my own business, and i find that i am standing right behind 3 active jw's - one of whom used to be my best friend.
this girl is as fake as they come: 1) she used to live with me and would bring non-jw guys home all the time, 2) was living with a man when she lived down south - until he dumped her, and then she decided to go back to jw's the 1st time and got reproved, and i supported her.
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babygirl30
So about last night...
I am out at a local club (not restaurant, not event venue - a club) to see a rap concert. Now, I am with some friends minding my own business, and I find that I am standing right behind 3 ACTIVE JW's - one of whom used to be my best friend. This girl is as fake as they come: 1) she used to live with me and would bring non-JW guys home all the time, 2) was living with a man when she lived down south - until he dumped her, and then she decided to go back to JW's the 1st time and got reproved, and I supported her. 3) she found another boyfriend and was running the streets the 2nd time she came back East and lived with me, until she again got her heart broken and that led to her running right back to JW's, once again being reproved (for the same thing she was before)...but I stuck by her. This last time, she decides she needs a fresh start and makes a major move to Atlanta - where she is involved with dating and living a full life (with non-JWs). During this time I get DF'd and am going through a lot of emotional and physical pain after being abused. And ya know what? This 'best friend' that I have always supported has the cojones to tell me that decides she wants to 'get right with Jehovah' and in doing that, will not be speaking to me anymore until I return. Mind you this time her 'getting right' did not include actually confessing her sins, but just going back to meetings and doing what she is supposed to per JWs...thus giving her NO disciplinary actions taken against her in the khall. WTF???? I have had this chicks back for YEARS - helping her out when her parents kicked her out, or she wanted to follow her own rules and felt her parents were too strict. And when I was at MY lowest - she turns her back on me. I have never forgotten that and all these years later, it doesn't hurt anymore but the hypocrisy of the whole situation is something me and my ex-JW friends will talk about here and there, and this girls name will be mentioned in those convos - as her fakeness is apparent.
Fast forward to years later to this rap concert at a CLUB I was at last night. And who is standing right in front me of, with 2 other JW's? This girl! She and these other ladies are all dancing and singing rap lyrics, and then they recognize I am right behind them. Within 5 mins of them all recognizing me, they quick scurry off the dancefloor and out the club. So my gf's I am with comment how quickly the dancefloor cleared when these ladies left, and I jokingly said "they probably shouldn't have been here anyhow" - as my gfs have no idea who these ladies were or their beliefs.
The whole scene was FUNNY to me!!! So this chick lives more of a wild (worldly) life then I have EVER lived...she walks in and out of the org like it's a revolving door - doing it on her own terms, which I respect. That I cannot be mad at her for. BUT, to be so adamant about not speaking to me or dealing with me, and yet have the nerve to be up in the CLUB at a rap concert dancing away - until you got caught. -hahahahaha. And I was in one of my FOH moods, and so I found her on FB and wrote her this snarky message as I wanted her to know that her presence there was noticed:
"I saw you at the rap concert. Hope you and your JW friends has a good time at the club... :-)"
This dumb chick waited until now to respond, but she said...
"You were my best friend for years. And I miss you everyday. But if this is some attempt to incriminate me or just saying hi, then please remember what is going on with this world, and that you still know 'the truth' and what you should do to come back"
I found her response ironic - as she purposely ignored what I said, and tried to flip it into a 'you need to come back' speech. - HAHAHAHA. JWs are the only group I know that can literally talk in circles when confronted on their own behavior or beliefs, yet, they feel they have the right to judge/convict others directly - claiming they and only they are backed by God. Right? Again....FOH!!! - LOL
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Lost on how to respond...
by babygirl30 inso an old friend of mine from the congregation hit me up today.
the story goes like this when we were jw's:.
- this guy used to be madly in love with me but i didn't see him as anything more than a friend.
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babygirl30
I had to take the evening just to think of a response because I wanted so badly to lash out at him. But it wouls be misplaced, as he is what I used to be - a drone. This guy has wanted to get married, have a family, and be an elder his whole life...and only the elder appointment has been whats come ti fruition. This is a very smart, kind, and decent brother - who is now in his mid 40s and still single (may/may not be a virgin) to this day.
In a way, I feel sorry for him - more then anger. Because he is stuck. I knew it back when we were friends and he proved it now...same situation. At the very least I can say Ive grown as a person, formed a persona outside the org, and have become a very independent woman and loving friend. But as was said, I have learned I dont need to give any explanations about my choices and decisions...so thank you all for cosigning my email back to him. I was conflicted for a split second, but not anymore.
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Lost on how to respond...
by babygirl30 inso an old friend of mine from the congregation hit me up today.
the story goes like this when we were jw's:.
- this guy used to be madly in love with me but i didn't see him as anything more than a friend.
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babygirl30
So after some thought, I just HAD to respond, and here is what I said....
"So let this be MY one time I speak on things...
I knew you for years. Whether I am a JW or not, whether I ever come back or not - I am still someone you called a 'friend'. If in 8yrs of not speaking or seeing each other, the ONLY thing you can say to me is not (how are you) or even (are you ok) - but telling me how I need to come back because Ive been out long enough...then I have to question the genuiness of your concern as a whole. You were a nice guy, a hard worker, and a good friend. But these passing years have shown me that a lot of familal love/friendships were conditional, and I have no need for that in my life at this age.
So thank you for 'worrying' and for the record I am doing well, Im happy, and I enjoy the life I have chosen. All in all, I appreciate the concern.... 😆"
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Lost on how to respond...
by babygirl30 inso an old friend of mine from the congregation hit me up today.
the story goes like this when we were jw's:.
- this guy used to be madly in love with me but i didn't see him as anything more than a friend.
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babygirl30
Now, just as it was important all those years ago for you to realize I was not into you, you need to also realize I am not into jw.org. All the same, thanks for your belated offer - but the answer is, 'No, thanks!' Best wishes, [babygirl30]!"
I'm CRYING over this one!!!! That actually sounds like something I would say to someones FACE (as I am a very blunt b*tch at times)! -hahahaha. I love it.
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Lost on how to respond...
by babygirl30 inso an old friend of mine from the congregation hit me up today.
the story goes like this when we were jw's:.
- this guy used to be madly in love with me but i didn't see him as anything more than a friend.
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babygirl30
He liked my tail lights WAY too much for me to throw that in his face! -hahahaha. -
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Lost on how to respond...
by babygirl30 inso an old friend of mine from the congregation hit me up today.
the story goes like this when we were jw's:.
- this guy used to be madly in love with me but i didn't see him as anything more than a friend.
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babygirl30
I think the part that bothers me the most is the "I worry about you"...I want to respond "FOH...how worried have you been that you have not once reached out to see if I'm ALIVE in 8yrs?" I don't think they hear themselves when they write this mess. Common sense should apply. But it's seriously lacking...
And using my family as a ploy also does not work. My own father ignored me right in front of our entire extended family at our summer reunion - do you think HE cares about me? NOPE! So trying to manipulate me by throwing their 'love' in the mix will only do the opposite for drawing me back. - hahahaha
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Lost on how to respond...
by babygirl30 inso an old friend of mine from the congregation hit me up today.
the story goes like this when we were jw's:.
- this guy used to be madly in love with me but i didn't see him as anything more than a friend.
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babygirl30
That's where I am STUCK - he really did throw in a lil emotional 'hook' and I am the type that just cannot let that slide! I HAVE to respond...but I want to be smart about it, instead of my usual snarky ass self! And that's why I'm posting...to get some ideas on how how to respond yet get my point across. -
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Lost on how to respond...
by babygirl30 inso an old friend of mine from the congregation hit me up today.
the story goes like this when we were jw's:.
- this guy used to be madly in love with me but i didn't see him as anything more than a friend.
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babygirl30
I like that...but this guy is a born-in like myself, who doesn't understand that kind of frank speech! -hahaha -
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Lost on how to respond...
by babygirl30 inso an old friend of mine from the congregation hit me up today.
the story goes like this when we were jw's:.
- this guy used to be madly in love with me but i didn't see him as anything more than a friend.
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babygirl30
So an old friend of mine from the congregation hit me up today. The story goes like this when we were JW's:
- this guy used to be madly in love with me but I didn't see him as anything more than a friend
- we tried 'dating' but I quickly ended it after about 3wks, again, because I wasn't into him like that
- he continued to pursue me and/or stay a close friend years later
- when I was DF'd he cried...
Now I've been out for 8yrs now and have never heard from this guy. I found out that one of his siblings had passed and I sent him an email a year ago to offer my condolences. He responded TODAY like this:
Just opened this email I haven't looked at it in 3 years. This will be the one time, that I will speak about it. But I worry about you. You have been gone a long time. If I bumped into you out somewhere... I would say the same thing.
Don't you think its time to come back? I know it wont be easy, but face it this world is getting worse and worse and you have family and friends and Jehovah that still cares what happens to you. Seriously take that into consideration. No matter what you have done Jehovah has the ability to forgive you.I am at a loss for words - oddly enough. Typically when any of my old JW friends hit me up with this malarky, I will respond with a short explanation of WHY I won't come back. But with this one, he is now an elder (was gunning for it back when we were hanging out) and so I know my usual response will NOT be well received. What can I say 'in kind' that won't be too preachy, but will get my point across that I am GOOD?????