Ya know..due to the nature of my DF situation (I was assaulted, bruised, and had been abused by my JW fiance) ALL of the elders in my cong - except for the 2 that noticably wanted me DF'd and made sure of it since they were in my JC - spoke to me OUTSIDE of the Khall. They would stop by regularly to see how I was doing, encourage me, even WHEN I was going to put in my letter?! THey told me that if I needed anything (protection or just to talk) that I could call them and they would help me out...
Well, it wasn't until the CO came through, and HE informed these elders that they are NOT to have any association with me outside of the yearly visit - it all stopped! That was when the CO came by my home (dropped by) to inform me that he let ALL the elders know that I am not part of the cong anymore and so they are to have nothing to say to me unless it's an emergency and/or I submit my reinstatement letter. So NOW I see where he got that from - the article referenced above. How SICK!!!! It honestly left a bad taste in my mouth. Common sense - how does ignoring someone encourage them? How does making their 'returning to the flock' the ONLY reason you speak to them - a motivation to be a JW again? What gives them 'ordinary men' the RIGHT to decide whether someone is repentant and deserving of another visit??? LOL...just freakin ridiculous.