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Online Article About JW life from Ex-JW
by TheOutSpoken1 ineach of us have experienced the aftermath of being a jw.
we can all relate.
my heart hurts for this child and what she went thru.
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JW Hypocrisy Rears It's Ugly Head...As Usual
by babygirl30 inso about last night.... i am out at a local club (not restaurant, not event venue - a club) to see a rap concert.
now, i am with some friends minding my own business, and i find that i am standing right behind 3 active jw's - one of whom used to be my best friend.
this girl is as fake as they come: 1) she used to live with me and would bring non-jw guys home all the time, 2) was living with a man when she lived down south - until he dumped her, and then she decided to go back to jw's the 1st time and got reproved, and i supported her.
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Method Man...who was singing "How High"...LOL!!!!! -
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I finally understood the final hurdle...
by The Rebel inwell the "pious" elders tuned out to be " super pious" and very good at reciting from the " very super pious" elders manuel, but actually " super pious" elders are quite harmless when ignored.. as for my former friends in the congregation, well throughout the ages there have always been people prepared to stand up for truth and friendship, sadly my " former" friends from the congregation proved not to be people of such noble character, instead only capable of giving short contrived speeches about why they missed me at meetings, snooze, and no great loss, as i have found the community outside the w.t organisation positively buzzing with unconditional friendship.. anyway i feel i have overcome all hurdles in my exit from the " w.t" except one,which is how i deal with my disrespectful father.
even when i was a witness in good standing, he had a pretty disrespectful and rude word power, now it's completely inappropriate.
i have tried pointing this out, even had long periods without contact, but i don't like doing that as it denies my mum seeing her grandson.. however what i have concluded is that this isn't w.t at fault.
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My father and mother are the same way. They can rip a person to shreds with their judgements and opinions on what is 'right' under JW doctrine, but sadly they choose to rip into ME...as their subject. No matter how many times I have confronted them both on their verbal abuse, it is always defended by their saying it's out of love...or Jehovah gave them the responsibility of raising me and that I have to honor them. TWISTED mentality if you ask me! -
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Disturbance during Memorial 2016.
by Ben131895 intwo documented disturbances during memorial 2016. type 'memorial 2016' on youtube.
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babygirl30
I have never condoned this type of behavior - as someone else said - it really does make those of us who are ex-JWs look crazy. It truly is counter productive. Shoot, even if someone goes off at a work meeting, we all look at that person like they have 'issues'...so a religious meeting disturbance by one person is no different in my mind. Fighting JWs has to be done another way, but the belligerent way is NOT gonna work. -
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Walking a thin line - Resigning Elder
by Sanchy inwarning of a long boring post ahead.
i feel like i need to vent my story out, as i feel quite helpless at the moment.. i'm 31 year old, married, father of toddler with another one on the way, due later this month.
i've been serving as elder for about 4 years now in a south florida congregation.
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babygirl30
WOW! Such a good post. You should be proud that you stood up for yourself and decided you were not going to be a follower anymore - but a true LEADER in your own right.
JW org is like a crack-house. As long as everyone IN the house is smoking crack, they are fine...but the minute one person make the decision for themselves (that crack isn't good for them), the whole house begins to turn on them. Forgetting that thinking for oneself, and stopping drugs is healthy...but the gang mentality kicks in for them.
I feel for you as you do have a long road ahead. But you have the right attitude about it and I wish you the best.
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How My Husband Helped Me See TTATT
by corruptgirl ini wanted to write my experience on how my husband helped me see the ttatt (the truth about the truth).
first, let me mention that he wrote his own experience a couple months ago under the name sanchy.
for his story please click here….. http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/5148261828526080/walking-thin-line-resigning-elder
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JW Hypocrisy Rears It's Ugly Head...As Usual
by babygirl30 inso about last night.... i am out at a local club (not restaurant, not event venue - a club) to see a rap concert.
now, i am with some friends minding my own business, and i find that i am standing right behind 3 active jw's - one of whom used to be my best friend.
this girl is as fake as they come: 1) she used to live with me and would bring non-jw guys home all the time, 2) was living with a man when she lived down south - until he dumped her, and then she decided to go back to jw's the 1st time and got reproved, and i supported her.
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So about last night...
I am out at a local club (not restaurant, not event venue - a club) to see a rap concert. Now, I am with some friends minding my own business, and I find that I am standing right behind 3 ACTIVE JW's - one of whom used to be my best friend. This girl is as fake as they come: 1) she used to live with me and would bring non-JW guys home all the time, 2) was living with a man when she lived down south - until he dumped her, and then she decided to go back to JW's the 1st time and got reproved, and I supported her. 3) she found another boyfriend and was running the streets the 2nd time she came back East and lived with me, until she again got her heart broken and that led to her running right back to JW's, once again being reproved (for the same thing she was before)...but I stuck by her. This last time, she decides she needs a fresh start and makes a major move to Atlanta - where she is involved with dating and living a full life (with non-JWs). During this time I get DF'd and am going through a lot of emotional and physical pain after being abused. And ya know what? This 'best friend' that I have always supported has the cojones to tell me that decides she wants to 'get right with Jehovah' and in doing that, will not be speaking to me anymore until I return. Mind you this time her 'getting right' did not include actually confessing her sins, but just going back to meetings and doing what she is supposed to per JWs...thus giving her NO disciplinary actions taken against her in the khall. WTF???? I have had this chicks back for YEARS - helping her out when her parents kicked her out, or she wanted to follow her own rules and felt her parents were too strict. And when I was at MY lowest - she turns her back on me. I have never forgotten that and all these years later, it doesn't hurt anymore but the hypocrisy of the whole situation is something me and my ex-JW friends will talk about here and there, and this girls name will be mentioned in those convos - as her fakeness is apparent.
Fast forward to years later to this rap concert at a CLUB I was at last night. And who is standing right in front me of, with 2 other JW's? This girl! She and these other ladies are all dancing and singing rap lyrics, and then they recognize I am right behind them. Within 5 mins of them all recognizing me, they quick scurry off the dancefloor and out the club. So my gf's I am with comment how quickly the dancefloor cleared when these ladies left, and I jokingly said "they probably shouldn't have been here anyhow" - as my gfs have no idea who these ladies were or their beliefs.
The whole scene was FUNNY to me!!! So this chick lives more of a wild (worldly) life then I have EVER lived...she walks in and out of the org like it's a revolving door - doing it on her own terms, which I respect. That I cannot be mad at her for. BUT, to be so adamant about not speaking to me or dealing with me, and yet have the nerve to be up in the CLUB at a rap concert dancing away - until you got caught. -hahahahaha. And I was in one of my FOH moods, and so I found her on FB and wrote her this snarky message as I wanted her to know that her presence there was noticed:
"I saw you at the rap concert. Hope you and your JW friends has a good time at the club... :-)"
This dumb chick waited until now to respond, but she said...
"You were my best friend for years. And I miss you everyday. But if this is some attempt to incriminate me or just saying hi, then please remember what is going on with this world, and that you still know 'the truth' and what you should do to come back"
I found her response ironic - as she purposely ignored what I said, and tried to flip it into a 'you need to come back' speech. - HAHAHAHA. JWs are the only group I know that can literally talk in circles when confronted on their own behavior or beliefs, yet, they feel they have the right to judge/convict others directly - claiming they and only they are backed by God. Right? Again....FOH!!! - LOL
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Lost on how to respond...
by babygirl30 inso an old friend of mine from the congregation hit me up today.
the story goes like this when we were jw's:.
- this guy used to be madly in love with me but i didn't see him as anything more than a friend.
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I had to take the evening just to think of a response because I wanted so badly to lash out at him. But it wouls be misplaced, as he is what I used to be - a drone. This guy has wanted to get married, have a family, and be an elder his whole life...and only the elder appointment has been whats come ti fruition. This is a very smart, kind, and decent brother - who is now in his mid 40s and still single (may/may not be a virgin) to this day.
In a way, I feel sorry for him - more then anger. Because he is stuck. I knew it back when we were friends and he proved it now...same situation. At the very least I can say Ive grown as a person, formed a persona outside the org, and have become a very independent woman and loving friend. But as was said, I have learned I dont need to give any explanations about my choices and decisions...so thank you all for cosigning my email back to him. I was conflicted for a split second, but not anymore.
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Lost on how to respond...
by babygirl30 inso an old friend of mine from the congregation hit me up today.
the story goes like this when we were jw's:.
- this guy used to be madly in love with me but i didn't see him as anything more than a friend.
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babygirl30
So after some thought, I just HAD to respond, and here is what I said....
"So let this be MY one time I speak on things...
I knew you for years. Whether I am a JW or not, whether I ever come back or not - I am still someone you called a 'friend'. If in 8yrs of not speaking or seeing each other, the ONLY thing you can say to me is not (how are you) or even (are you ok) - but telling me how I need to come back because Ive been out long enough...then I have to question the genuiness of your concern as a whole. You were a nice guy, a hard worker, and a good friend. But these passing years have shown me that a lot of familal love/friendships were conditional, and I have no need for that in my life at this age.
So thank you for 'worrying' and for the record I am doing well, Im happy, and I enjoy the life I have chosen. All in all, I appreciate the concern.... 😆"
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Lost on how to respond...
by babygirl30 inso an old friend of mine from the congregation hit me up today.
the story goes like this when we were jw's:.
- this guy used to be madly in love with me but i didn't see him as anything more than a friend.
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Now, just as it was important all those years ago for you to realize I was not into you, you need to also realize I am not into jw.org. All the same, thanks for your belated offer - but the answer is, 'No, thanks!' Best wishes, [babygirl30]!"
I'm CRYING over this one!!!! That actually sounds like something I would say to someones FACE (as I am a very blunt b*tch at times)! -hahahaha. I love it.