ProbablyShouldRun Like your friend, his character isn't suited to being a JW so then it becomes A cycle of "I'm broken and unworthy, the JW are the only ones that understand me." And then they make him feel like crap and he wants to leave.
This is the classic sad life of the P.O.M.i. (physically out mentally in). Cults know you will 'mess up'(read: be a normal human) and once they do members are programmed to be wracked with guilt. Indoctrinated with Fear and obligation, they come crawling back to the cult. It's an abusive relationship; with Watchtower effectively saying to its victim "you're nothing without me!" And so the cycle of abuse continues.
P.S.R. I don't believe in missionary (position) dating and converting people soooooo,,,,
This is a brilliant new exjw term for our cultural list "missionary dating"!!! It's bang on and what so many lonely jws do....date worldlies and tell themselves their partner will study and convert. This rarely happens because of a little thing called the internet.