Diogenesister

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  Should I be mad?

  by kairos in

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  i've been df'd for about six weeks now.no one has broken the obligation to "honor the disfellowshipping decree".that's the way notorious co paul kohler describes the "loving arrangement" that is jw shunning.

  ( just "serving" napa ).

  so, my wife's family has been "loving me" ( barf ) when out of nowhere, one of them sends home homemade soup for me.... well, i got super pissed.

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  Ring her up to say thanks.Don't play their game.

  Tell her you are not ever going back so she needs to at least start treating you like a" tax collector or a man of the nations."
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  Have you ever had your oven door explode?

  by Ucantnome in

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  the other day the glass in my oven door exploded and sent glass into the next room, fortunately i wasn't peering in at the time.

  about a year go the previous oven door shattered one morning.

  the oven was cold.

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  Diogenesister

  I'm thinking, is your name Damien by any chance??😜
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  Doing the Right Thing, Making a Choice (shunning)

  by Simon in

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  continuing a topic that is dear to my heart because of my experience as both a shunner and a shunnee .... some people seem to get very agitated when i talk about the responsibility people have to make the right choices and that despite all the wrongs within the wts, people themselves have a role to play and some personal responsibility for the experience.. notice i said "some" responsibility, not "complete" - this doesn't absolve the wts for the things they do wrong in any way shape or form.

  so please don't get argumentative about possible meanings and absolutes - of course the wts has a significant role to play but we need to decide what we're trying to achieve here and why the personal choice is so important.. i'm also not talking about actual crimes that the wts should answer for.

  if they cover up child abuse for instance, they absolutely should be reported immediately.

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  Diogenesister

  It's not hard to drive a bus through the idea that elders are inspired and infallible and must always be obeyed. There are even scriptures of people rightly disobeying the divinely appointed rulers of the day who were doing the wrong thing.

  What need is there for a bible-trained conscience if they simply have to do what the elders say?

  Really good point, this threads a keeper 👍
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  ex-jw-uk

  by bigmac in

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  i'm quite new to this site, & have realised some members have a union jack symbol under their avatar.

  i don't.. could we have a "show of hands" from any uk members?

  i've already found several by reading older posts..

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  Or je.suis.oisif? When you were in Biggleswade.
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  ex-jw-uk

  by bigmac in

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  i'm quite new to this site, & have realised some members have a union jack symbol under their avatar.

  i don't.. could we have a "show of hands" from any uk members?

  i've already found several by reading older posts..

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  Munster Abu did you know the Lazenby's from Bedford cong? Dad Gordon had a nice messy beard so couldn't be missed, mum Sheila pioneer?
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  Video: "Iron Sharpens Iron"

  by wifibandit in

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  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=joehewofiba.

  is this supposed to placate the ones who have been recently fired?

  is this a sign of the aging jw leadership?

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  Diogenesister

  ps I thought Jesus was gonna give the orders in the new world - not fricking idiots like Herd & AM III.

  I cant believe the way they keep bigging up the GB - Im an older girl who hasnt been around dubs for a while - its terrible, sick!

  I'm beginning to wonder if the dubs are gonna take things into their own hands at some point in the future, say that they have revieved orders from JAH HQ to arm themselves up Wacco style & just start armaggedon themselves !
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  Video: "Iron Sharpens Iron"

  by wifibandit in

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  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=joehewofiba.

  is this supposed to placate the ones who have been recently fired?

  is this a sign of the aging jw leadership?

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  Actually, compared to many people these dudes have had a great life, got in early, all pals together we're gonna live forever yay! - thats not going to happen anymore (except a very few)

  They are just facing what many old guys do on retirement - its just a fact of getting old.

  The difference is, normally in the 'spiritual' trade surely their experience is more important than some young guys health, I mean priests dont retire do they or rabbis. Still, at least they get a stipend, more than most do.
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  What is the best debate you've ever read on this board...

  by The Rebel in

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  who won, and why?.

  the rebel..

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  Diogenesister

  Just checked out the summary of Coftys natural evil post

  Love this analogy in the 'rational arguments' ( trivializing human suffering)

  Sums up the JW veiw of God - this story is effectively what they go out and preach

  Nice one Cofty👍

  Imagine that scientists developed a pill that would eradicate all unwelcome memories and create a feeling of bliss. How would you judge a scientist who imposed the most horrific suffering on millions of people, as unwilling subjects of his experiment, but who offered some of his victims of the magic pills when it was over?
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  My mom

  by cognac in

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  i was just talking to my mom a few weeks ago.

  she said, out of all her kids, i was the only one she didn't have to worry about as far as spirituality.

  i always took a stand for jehovah.. she told when all of her kids were little, she gave us the option of not eating birthday cakes in school.

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  Diogenesister

  You know your mum best, the pros & cons of her being a witness at this stage.

  She obviously places a lot of trust in you.

  It's funny, I was always the most "spiritual" child. Always wanting to go in service, loving bible study. It would be interesting to know if there was a preponderance of people who were kids with a strongly developed conscience , the annoying ones who know all the scriptures in the meetings etc, who figure out ttatt.

  I am guessing though deep down you think everyone has a right to the dignity of making their own decision having been given all the facts. XXX
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  Stranger in my own house, Since my wife and i don't talk much anymore nor sleep in the same bed. i feel like a stranger.

  by goingthruthemotions in

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  my wife is shunning me.

  she is always in cult mode, we don't talk anymore, we don't sleep in the same bed.

  i have been sleeping on the couch.

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  So sorry 😢😢

  Is there ANY chance she will see a therapist with you?

  Could you write her a letter and tell her how much u love her (leave out the cult for now)

  Get into that family room! Be with your boys, dont hide away I am sorry for you but also for your boys! It must hurt them so much

  Could get the boys involved & ask for a compromise?? Some good family fun time in return you join her in a family worship night (no mags, just the bible jesus & love stuff, u just quietly being supportive - let the boys & your wife comment maybe u could do neutral stuff like read

  You got to share some physical contact, even just hugs something.... its a marriages (not so secret) weapon, u can express love without words when words don't work!!