BTWβ¦having gone through divorce and so forth, THEN a year later having gone through being shunned by everyone I knew including family, Iβm not sure a friend sleeping with my wife would automatically be a dealbreaker for either my friendship or marriage. Of course, Iβve never had that specific experience, so I canβt say for sure. But being shunning made me reevaluate things. Apart from physical violence or sexual assault,isolating someone is one of the most worst things you can do to a person.
I agree Londo 111, I think the JW's way over estimate how damaging sleeping with someone else is to a relationship.
Sure, its not good, but I for one can think of a lot worse than doing one of the 3 things we humans are programmed by nature to do (breathe, eat, procreate)as you mention violence for one, sexual or otherwise.
Edit: and isolation is TORTURE as you rightly said, its cruel. Much more unforgiveable & unnatural