Emily Nobody who's actually contemplating suicide says that other people have made them suicidal, or that if other people don't change their behaviour and do what they want then they'll kill themselves. They don't threaten it or use it to shame other people. He's harming genuine sufferers by doing that, because now people will associate a suicidal person seeking treatment with this narcissistic abuse tactic, and depressed people who already second-guess ourselves will think "am I being like that if I ask for help?
I'll second that. People who feel suicidal will usually keep it really close to their chest. So much so that it can be a real shock when it happens. Some people go to extraordinary lengths to mask how they're feeling so as not to worry anyone. I lost a friend in 2016 and it shook me to my core I didn't see it coming. I should have.... divorce, Job losses😔. Even when you can clearly see they are depressed what will often prevent them from voicing it will be the effect it will have on others. (In fact the only people I've seen regularly voice it were people with certain serious mental illnesses, such as schizophrenia).I briefly worked in an emergency in-patient psych unit and I never heard anyone suicidal blame another. If anything they are usually horribly hard on themselves.
The problem is that people don't voice it. We should always encourage people to talk about it.
Emily I'm so sorry to hear how you've suffered. Thank you for your insight.