I just need to vent about something. As I've mentioned before, my dad was DA'd when he died so he's not allowed to have a witnesses funeral. So what does my family decide to do without even asking me? They appoint my uncle, the only elder in our family, to give the funeral talk. It makes me so mad. I know that they think it's the truth but my dad would not have wanted a witness funeral. Why do they assume that my dad's mental problems is what caused him to DA? Mental illness does not equal stupid. He was very smart. The more I think about it, the more I realize that he did have reasons for not wanting to be a witness. I just cut him off whenever he tried to talk about it. This is so like my family to do something like this. Whenever someone in my family isn't in good standing and they have a funeral or wedding, they still get to have a witness one by having an elder relative do it. My cousin was under public reproof when she got married. She had her stepfather, who was an elder at the time, give the wedding talk. And what really pisses me off is that when my dad was first DA'd, he told my elder uncle over the phone and guess what my uncle did. He hung up the phone. He didn't even say bye or anything, he just hung up. And now he's giving my dad's funeral talk. What a hypocrite! Sunday, I was talking to my aunt over the phone and she went on and on about the resurrection hope and how, in the new system, we'll be joking with my dad about how stupid he was to do this to himself. Why would we be joking about this? Even if the WTS's doctrine about paradise was true, I don't see myself joking about this with my dad. So, anyways, this Saturday I get to listen to my uncle give a talk about seeing my dad in paradise.
doublelife
JoinedPosts by doublelife
-
9
My dad's funeral is this Saturday
by doublelife ini just need to vent about something.
as i've mentioned before, my dad was da'd when he died so he's not allowed to have a witnesses funeral.
so what does my family decide to do without even asking me?
-
-
-
29
Are you a blood donor?
by GLTirebiter inin another thread, creativhoney said:.
the bible says there is no greater gift than you lay down your life for another, the bible refers to blood as life.
i conclude we should all give blood.. and chalam replied:.
-
-
doublelife
wantstoleave: I would LOVE to be one, but due to having an autoimmune disease, can't
I have Hoshimoto's Thyroiditis which is also an autoimmune disease. Does that mean I can't give?
-
62
Dec. 15th WT - WT Society REALLY Minimizes Earning a Decent Living
by flipper init's ridiculous.
i saw this so much in my 44 years in the jehovah's witness cult.
whether it was elders, pioneers, or other people in the cult criticizing others for working too much at their employment or missing some service or meetings due to employment.
-
-
doublelife
When I was a kid, my mom made that same deal with me. Pioneer and you can live here rent free. When I did pioneer she changed her mind and still expected me to pay her rent. I ended up losing my job to go to pioneer school and couldn't find another one til a year later. Two years after that, I decided to stop pioneering so I could find a better job and move out. I was 22 and getting tired of living with my mom. One of my elders gave me a big guilt trip. He was one of my friends but I still always resented him for making feel like crap. Looking back, it was all a waste of time. I could've had a B.A. by now and making more money.
-
25
Hello from me!
by Gonefullcircle inhello everyone.. after many months of lurking through my the worst time in my life and then not reading any posts since the website changed hands, i just wanted to say hello!.
all the stalwarts on here helped me so much through the worst times (born in, left when i was 34) i was too emotional to ever comment, but now i am ready to help others start to rebuild their worlds.. i just want to give all those doubters of that religion hope and help now that i have gone full circle- hence my user name.
there is lots to say, but i will join in and you will get to know me.. for anyone that is in turmoil with worry over whether to leave or not, i can empathise, but it will be the best decision you ever make!.
-
-
doublelife
Hello and welcome!
-
35
They "can give gifts on any day of the year"... But do they?
by Albert Einstein inhow many times we had heard from jw (commenting on christmass, mothers day or bithdays) "they dont need a pecial day set to give gifts, because the can give it on any day" .... but whats your experience if you compare jw and non jw ... are they really giving?.
my sons (7) example:.
he has non jw grandparents: gets all kinds of gifts all the time, sweets, magazines, toys,.
-
-
doublelife
Never got wrapped presents either. Every once in a while, my dad would save some money and take me and my brother to Toys'r'Us and let us pick out something. I only remember that happening three times. I don't have any kids but my brother has two. My mom always buys them presents. Last year, around Mother's Day, my boss asked what I was going to do for my mom. I had to go through the whole embarrassing explaination of why we don't celebrate and I gave him the line about giving gifts anytime of the year. Then he asked if I do that. He pretty much called me out and I got embarrassed and lied and said yes. I felt bad but it still didn't hit me at the time that gift giving is not in the whole jw mentality. I always thought that it was because we were poor. I now see the real reason behind it.
-
9
untitled
by dgp inas some of you might know by now, i am not a jehovah's witness, and never have been.
and, never will be, thanks to you and other people like you who have opened my eyes to what the society really is.
as someone who never crossed the fence, quite often i feel that i can't contribute with anything to the people who left, or who are at the fence, or who are very deep into the society and seem unreachable.
-
-
doublelife
"As I saw the celebration about the tearing down of the Berlin wall, I could but hope that some day, in the near future, we might see this wall torn down, too."
It's interesting you mentioned that. Yesterday, I was over my aunt and uncle's house preparing for my dad's funeral and news clips of the celebration came on tv. My uncle looked at it and said, "You know, that's all for nothing. None of that even matters." I didn't ask him to elaborate since I already knew what he meant. But, I was thinking, "How is this for nothing?" The news showed a guy who was able to buy bananas at a market that he wouldn't have been able to do before. How does that not matter?
Sorry, I know it's off subject.
Thanks.
-
40
Did You Have Any Weirdo JWs In Your Hall?
by minimus inin the 2 halls i was in, there were a few.
but the most memorable one was an elderly pioneer who would ask the householder if they wanted to hear about "the truth".
when they quite naturally said ,"no", he responded with, "if you don't believe in jesus, jesus will turn you into a pig"!.
-
-
doublelife
There were several crazy people at my old hall but the worst one was the schizophrenic lady who never bathed. One time, my friend had to spray her down with febreeze when she got stuck in the same car group as her. It got so bad that the elders had to tell her she could no longer go out in service.
-
17
JWs just came to my door and didn't even knock
by hemp lover ini was working in the back room of my house, transcribing an interview with lara logan (she's fascinating), when my dogs started barking at the front door.
i ignored it for 30 seconds, because that's just what they do.
figured it was a cat or the mailman.
-
-
doublelife
I wish I'd have thought of that too. But I wouldn't have been able to do it. Everyone I went out in service with was a better witness than me. Even when I was pioneering, I'd always hope nobody would answer when it was my turn. I used to get so nervous in the ministry that I would have to pee every 15 minutes. A lot of people were annoyed with me.
-
35
Ever been the victim of gossip from JW's?
by highdose ini was many times, the final bout was what drove me out of the borg altogether..... .
-
-
doublelife
Wow. I didn't realize there were so many jw gossipers. I thought it was just my congregation. I grew up in a small town cong. that consisted mainly of older, single sisters. As soon as a got baptized at 17, a new elder with his family moved in. Their daughter was a couple of years younger than me but she had everyone wrapped around her finger and made my life miserable. I genuinely tried to befriend her and that was the thanks I got. There were 3 other girls a little older than us who weren't any better. It got so bad that at one point(I was around 21), I tried to plan different ways that I could kill myself. Looking back, I don't see how I managed to stay in that religion for so long. I guess that's why it hasn't been too much of a struggle to start fading. I never considered any jw a close friend. They were only people I would hang around when I wanted to have fun. I never trusted any of them.
-
-
-
doublelife
I usually like Fridays because I get off work earlier. But, today my doctor worked in two emergencies so I probably won't get out of here til after 6pm.