71 pages of top secret WT bull? lol. I can't wait to start reading.
Michelle365
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Anyone have the booklet "Preparing for Child Custody Cases"?
by Michelle365 inthanks in advance if you can provide a copy or link!
i'm in the middle of a custody battle with my jw ex spouse..
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Has anyone tried to prevent ex-spouse from training the kids as JWs?
by Michelle365 ini am at the point in my custody battle where i need to decide if i'm gonna "go for the gold" and bring religion into the fight.
my lawyer thinks i have a chance based on the parental alienation aspect of the religion.
i'm df'd and my kids are being raised to turn against me.
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Michelle365
James- I agree. He will do it against any court order. After all we must obey God as ruler rather than men. Sigh. I honestly don't WANT to fight this out in court. I just don't know if I can save them from such a powerful high control religious cult. I feel so inadequate to do this on my own.
For example, if you allow the kids to continue to go, how do you handle these types of issues. At this point, I roll over everytime my ex tells them "no". I don't want to force them to do something they will feel guilty about or may get in trouble for. However, that makes me feel as if I'm not making any progess at all. We wanted to watch Harry Potter but Daddy told them they can't. So, do I say "mom's house, mom's rules" or do I say ok, we'll watch Lord of the Rings because for some reason he lets them watch LOTR by not Potter. Grrrrr
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Has anyone tried to prevent ex-spouse from training the kids as JWs?
by Michelle365 ini am at the point in my custody battle where i need to decide if i'm gonna "go for the gold" and bring religion into the fight.
my lawyer thinks i have a chance based on the parental alienation aspect of the religion.
i'm df'd and my kids are being raised to turn against me.
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Michelle365
Nugget- the guilt my kids feel is enormous. That's what makes this so hard for me. Do I just not do holidays to spare them guilt? Or do I keep doing it so that eventually they won't feel guilty? In essence I am encouraging them to live the dreaded "double life" lol. Basically in a normal day I am just living my life. I spend time with the kids and try to lead by example. I don't talk bad about the religion or their Dad, but sometimes I have to make a stand. I've just started reading Divorce Poison: How to Protect Your Family from Bad-mouthing and Brainwashing by Richard Ades Warshak it's great on the times when you do have to make a stand and how to do it. I like it so far.
If you don't mind sharing-- did you ever feel compelled to limit or cut off your association with your non JW father?
PS-How did your daughter's bday party go?
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Has anyone tried to prevent ex-spouse from training the kids as JWs?
by Michelle365 ini am at the point in my custody battle where i need to decide if i'm gonna "go for the gold" and bring religion into the fight.
my lawyer thinks i have a chance based on the parental alienation aspect of the religion.
i'm df'd and my kids are being raised to turn against me.
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Michelle365
Blondie & JWoods
You guys are right. I agree and WANT to do it that way. My girls are 8 and turning 7 next month. I guess I just don't feel confident that what I'm doing is enough. It was dumb to try to do the school Mother's Day thing when we could just as easily do it at home. I didn't want them to feel left out in class, but I just created more stress. Thanks. Sometimes, I need someone to point out the obvious. It's so hard for me because I like to dicuss and analyze things but don't have anyone IRL going through the same situation. So when I don't have that "sounding board" I sometimes miss the obvious stuff by focusing on the big picture. lol.
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Has anyone tried to prevent ex-spouse from training the kids as JWs?
by Michelle365 ini am at the point in my custody battle where i need to decide if i'm gonna "go for the gold" and bring religion into the fight.
my lawyer thinks i have a chance based on the parental alienation aspect of the religion.
i'm df'd and my kids are being raised to turn against me.
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Michelle365
Great link Teel! Thank you!
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Anyone have the booklet "Preparing for Child Custody Cases"?
by Michelle365 inthanks in advance if you can provide a copy or link!
i'm in the middle of a custody battle with my jw ex spouse..
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Michelle365
Thanks Blondie & Zid! My firewall here at work won't let me open those links. Sigh. I'll download it at home. I wonder what my Elder IT guys thinks of all my apostate research? lol.
I hope to not need this booklet. I really don't want to battle "god's channel on earth" and all, but at least I'll have it if I need it.
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Anyone have the booklet "Preparing for Child Custody Cases"?
by Michelle365 inthanks in advance if you can provide a copy or link!
i'm in the middle of a custody battle with my jw ex spouse..
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Michelle365
Thanks in advance if you can provide a copy or link! I'm in the middle of a custody battle with my JW ex spouse.
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Has anyone tried to prevent ex-spouse from training the kids as JWs?
by Michelle365 ini am at the point in my custody battle where i need to decide if i'm gonna "go for the gold" and bring religion into the fight.
my lawyer thinks i have a chance based on the parental alienation aspect of the religion.
i'm df'd and my kids are being raised to turn against me.
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JWoods- I just worry if that is *enough*. I'm SO worried that they will get baptized and cut me off. Just being a normal balanced mom doesn't seem like enough to combat the cult brainwashing.
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Has anyone tried to prevent ex-spouse from training the kids as JWs?
by Michelle365 ini am at the point in my custody battle where i need to decide if i'm gonna "go for the gold" and bring religion into the fight.
my lawyer thinks i have a chance based on the parental alienation aspect of the religion.
i'm df'd and my kids are being raised to turn against me.
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Michelle365
Think About It-- my ex does whatever the f*ck he wants regardless of what I say or however it affects the children. He takes them out of school anything there is a party for a holiday. (they are in 1st & 2nd grade so they still do that) Here's a recent example, Mother's Day is coming up and the school is doing a fundraiser where I can buy little cakes for them to decorate and bring home for me. I asked the girls if they wanted to. They said yes. I sent the money in. They went to their father's for a visit. They call me crying that they can't make the cakes and that Daddy will get mad and they don't want to get in trouble and will I please not *make* them do it.
Same scenerio for every holiday or non JW sanctioned school event. Sometimes, I literally feel as if I'm losing my mind. I don't want to push them to do it or else I feel as if I'm the same as him- pushing them NOT to do it. I really don't know the best way how to handle these kinds of situations. This is the kind of stuff I'm looking for advice on and the reason for my initial question. I can't decide if it actually would be better for the kids to fight this fight for them.
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Has anyone tried to prevent ex-spouse from training the kids as JWs?
by Michelle365 ini am at the point in my custody battle where i need to decide if i'm gonna "go for the gold" and bring religion into the fight.
my lawyer thinks i have a chance based on the parental alienation aspect of the religion.
i'm df'd and my kids are being raised to turn against me.
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Michelle365
oooh thanks Teel! I do need a copy of that.