Posts by Confuzzled

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How do you help a girl having panic attacks?

by Cagefighter in

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i am so inlove with this woman.... we have been dating for six months and she is finally starting to let me in.

she is the portrait of sweet country feminitiy and i am a masculine little macho but smart and sweet meat head.. she called me the other night having a panic attack.

well she texted b/c she couldn't talk.

Confuzzled

OUTLAW I have a anxiety/panic disorder, AND I had a python! LOL he was very calming, actualy. RIP Topaz!

An untreated anxiety disorder is terrible. Mine has been one of the death tolls in my relationship. The best advice I can give is to be understanding of the situation as best as you can. As a matter of fact, I was told just today AGAIN when trying to explain my feelings "get over shit and move on". Bone crippling panic, overwhelming dread, and worry are hard to explain to someone who has no idea what it's like. People just think you are nuts. My best suggestion is why don't you lovingly suggest you go see the Dr. together? Sometimes a milligrams of something are all you need to get through the day. I take wellbutrin once a day and an Ambien about 2-3 times a week to ward off "night worries" and my speeding brain. Oh, and Eckhart Tolle's books ARE AMAZING to help you deal with anxiety and depression. The Power Of Now has helped me so much in that area.

He attempted to apply JW practices on My Dad/I Expect An Argument In The AM

by Confuzzled in

maybe i spoke to soon about all being quiet on the jw front in my.......ehhhhhh........ so-called relationship with my dub baby dad.

well, this doesnt come strictly from a jw doctrine, it is a practice.

the words "headship" was used numerous times, also "head of house", "man of house", and "submit".

Confuzzled

Maybe I spoke to soon about all being quiet on the JW front in my.......ehhhhhh........ so-called relationship with my Dub Baby Dad. Well, this doesnt come strictly from a JW doctrine, it is a practice. The words "headship" was used numerous times, also "head of house", "man of house", and "submit". On with the show!

My dad is a practicing Episcopalian. Mass every Sunday, sterotypical Anglican. His relationships with my mother, and his fiance were/are partnerships. They make all decisions together, if my Dad went behind my future step-mom's back and made a choice without her, she would be PISSED (she can be shrill, too, glass shatteringly shrill). Well, Humpty DuBty decided to call my Dad and ask him for something that concerned me without my knowledge, nor did he include my future-stepmother in this discussion. Man to man, so he says, he is the man of the house!

*Buries face in hands*

I told him if he wanted to do that, he shoulda waited until I was out and came over and consulted them both. Now my stepmother will assume I knew about this and it will undoubtly start a huge issue between them and I will be put in the middle. They will fight about it. I freaked when he told me what he did. He said he was respecting my father's "headship". My father, evidently was polite to him and knew from where he was coming from and I had no idea about the call until Dub-ope On A Rope informed me of it at around midnight. My step-mom ain't so understanding. She has told him before where he can stick his opinions on women. She will see this move as disrespectful and underhanded. I don't know if she knows about the call yet, but my father WILL tell her.

I need a drink. Several.

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The Fickle JW & I Update

by Confuzzled in

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friends

hello, 'tis i, sorta girlfriend to the biggest convaluted part-time dubby in the world.

all is calm on the shores of complicationville, and i have the baby at the end of june.

well now, boyfriend's family has stabilized and he is not attending meetings or study regularly anymore.

Confuzzled

Thank you very much !

Now that the Church Of Our Lady Of Field Service is out of the way (for now) I can work on bigger issues.......Like his glaring short comings. If I joined a support bulletin board for ALL our issues, I'd be online 24 hrs a day!

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The Fickle JW & I Update

by Confuzzled in

jw
friends

hello, 'tis i, sorta girlfriend to the biggest convaluted part-time dubby in the world.

all is calm on the shores of complicationville, and i have the baby at the end of june.

well now, boyfriend's family has stabilized and he is not attending meetings or study regularly anymore.

Confuzzled

I'm trying to squeeze the best out of Now, and not let every little worry about the situation cloud my peace. I do have a concern that he will suddenly want to become, his words, "humble" again and start going back after the baby is born, but if I start putting to much thought into it, or mention to him, it might become the reality. I'm thankful for my JW free moments!

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The Fickle JW & I Update

by Confuzzled in

jw
friends

hello, 'tis i, sorta girlfriend to the biggest convaluted part-time dubby in the world.

all is calm on the shores of complicationville, and i have the baby at the end of june.

well now, boyfriend's family has stabilized and he is not attending meetings or study regularly anymore.

Confuzzled

Hello, 'tis I, sorta girlfriend to the biggest convaluted part-time Dubby in the world. All is calm on the shores of complicationville, and I have the baby at the end of June. Well now, Boyfriend's family has stabilized and he is not attending meetings or study regularly anymore. It's warm out, and he just bought a new bike a few months ago. He also bought a new expensive american sports car. To quote the amazing Eckhart Tolle "Man made God in his own image." He saw something shiny and found a new idol for the time being. Besides the baby he has a zillion other projects going on, he's in a good mood, and evidently not feeling guilty enough to go to meetings unless a family member asks. No talk of religion in nearly a month. My father has been put on "Dub Patrol" for my hospital stay though. If people want to come and see my baby, thats fine, but no Watchtowers allowed. Same thing for my coming home, still doped up on meds, days. But BF knows me well enough to know to tell them back off, she's intelligent, vicious, and has stitches.

I quoted Eckhart Tolle, I've whole heartly bit into his work. He's amazing. It makes TO much sense. He's also teaching me not to resist and be tolerable of the situation. It takes work, though. I hope one day my Rubba Dub will see that God is far to concerned with other things then to be a dirty old pervert, riding a thunder cloud, peeking under bed sheets, and only conversing with a few old men in Brooklyn, NY.

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JW views on Mental Health & Counseling

by Confuzzled in

i am considering getting couples counseling for the jw boyfriend and i. he's open to it.

he got help himself for an issue recently, but it was in the short term, and it went well for him.

i want to know if we started going regularly, and his mentor got wind of it, what are the jw views on mental health help?

Confuzzled

Ahhhhh the saga of Confuzzled's boyfriend and his many hiccups. Him being a fickle JW study isn't even the biggest issue (it just puts rainbow sprinkles on everything). I hate digging up old bones again and again. Search: "Confuzzled" and my prior threads will give you (most) of the story.

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JW views on Mental Health & Counseling

by Confuzzled in

i am considering getting couples counseling for the jw boyfriend and i. he's open to it.

he got help himself for an issue recently, but it was in the short term, and it went well for him.

i want to know if we started going regularly, and his mentor got wind of it, what are the jw views on mental health help?

Confuzzled

One of our issues are most certainly going to be my lack of respect of his religion. I will surely ask shrink if JWs fall under cult status in their opinion.

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JW views on Mental Health & Counseling

by Confuzzled in

i am considering getting couples counseling for the jw boyfriend and i. he's open to it.

he got help himself for an issue recently, but it was in the short term, and it went well for him.

i want to know if we started going regularly, and his mentor got wind of it, what are the jw views on mental health help?

Confuzzled

I am considering getting couples counseling for the JW Boyfriend and I. He's open to it. He got help himself for an issue recently, but it was in the short term, and it went well for him. I want to know if we started going regularly, and his mentor got wind of it, what are the JW views on mental health help? Is there any superstitions or stigmas attached? Is there likely to be grumbling?

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What was the 5/1/10 Talk On?

by Confuzzled in

i need to be prepared.

bf was awful chipper after the meeting today..

Confuzzled

Funny I always thought it was bullshit. Oh, and if you don't know what the talk was on, it means he was lied too. He puts his glazed donut gaze on when he talks about how all KH the world over discuss the same topic every Sunday and how amazing it is they all discuss the same thing.

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What was the 5/1/10 Talk On?

by Confuzzled in

i need to be prepared.

bf was awful chipper after the meeting today..

Confuzzled

BTW ending an argument with a sarcastic "You will let me know when the new system is here right?" is never a positive way to end a conversation.