I agree. I was a massively stressed out child. Every morning I got sick to my stomach and would even throw up, from the stress of going to school and being 'different'. I absolutely hated school through elementary school. From being asked if I was preaching to my little friends, to having to avoid the holiday and political stuff...not to mention the homemade clothes I was forced to wear. And yes...add to that the stress of attending meetings, studying, having to do parts on the stage (oh how I hated those) and of course, field service. I still believe that raising a child as a Witness is child abuse.
xeracia
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Holiday time were you sent to the library or not?
by restrangled inthere are many generations of xjws here.
i'm curious as to what happened to you in school.. were you sent to the library during festivities, allowed to stay home, or allowed to participate?
enter the years if you can and the number of jw's with you.. mine: mid 1960's to mid 70's.
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Holiday time were you sent to the library or not?
by restrangled inthere are many generations of xjws here.
i'm curious as to what happened to you in school.. were you sent to the library during festivities, allowed to stay home, or allowed to participate?
enter the years if you can and the number of jw's with you.. mine: mid 1960's to mid 70's.
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I was one of those kids that would be sent to the office to help the secretary, or just given colouring pages and told to sit quietly and ignore everything. This was in the early 80's. Now in first grade there was another student that was a JW and when she transferred to my school and told the teacher that she had to go out in the hall during the flag salute, I got blamed and my teacher made me stand against the wall for 'influencing' the other students. My first grade teacher really hated Witnesses and from then on I would get massively stressed about going to school.
Once I got into Middle School, I had decided that JW's were b.s. and despite my mother talking to my teachers and telling them I was a JW, I would participate in anything and everything.
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Written Reviews...what did you really do during them?
by xeracia inremember these silly tests they make you take?
i don't remember how often they were, but thinking back on them, boy does it seem silly!
sitting there for half an hour trying to remember stupid stuff as if you are in school.
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xeracia
Remember these silly tests they make you take? I don't remember how often they were, but thinking back on them, boy does it seem silly! Sitting there for half an hour trying to remember stupid stuff as if you are in school. And then going back and grading it. And everyone bragging about their scores after the meeting, as if getting a perfect means you are more spiritual than the others who didn't.
Did you all really sit through them and take the silly tests? Or did you doodle or read another book? I think for awhile I actually took them seriously and tried to get good scores (I was good at school stuff so I liked tests). But after awhile I just didn't even go to the meeting that night. It seemed such a waste of time.
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UNCONDITIONAL LOVE? DID YOU EVER RECIEVE IT IN THE BORGORG? DO YOU HAVE IT IN YOUR LIFE NOW?
by freewilly01 ini always felt the lack of it in my life in the borgorg did you?.
what does unconditional love mean to you?.
how important is it to you?.
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xeracia
As has been said. No such thing as unconditional love. But I really didn't receive much love at all from the borg, conditional or otherwise. Now? I have a handfull of close friends that I regard to be more like family to me. They've been in my life for years and I hope to always have them in my life. And there are a few in my family that I feel that nice family love from...but just a few. And of course it is conditioned upon the fact that we do stay in touch, we respect on another, and we care about each other. And that is how I think it should be.
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Is there a way of saying to my family....
by wobble inis there a way of saying tactfully to my superdub family that we do not want anniversary presents this year ?.
our 39th is on saturday the 12th and my wife says that as the family only have the minimum to do with us since our fade she feels it is the height of hypocrisy to buy us presents.. she also does not like my super-smug sister (who does ?
) who will come to our place bearing gifts we do not want from persons who will not entertain our point of view.. i cannot think of away that is kind, to get out of this, heeelllpppppp !!!!!!!!!!.
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Wobble, I totally agree with your way of thinking. Course my family completely ignores our anniversary (we just celebrated our 13th last week). And congrats to you and your wife! But I hate the family gatherings that come around ever so often where I only know half of them but everyone pretends to be the closest ever! And I still have to walk around and say 'and who are you again and how am I related to you?'. I hate the fakeness of it all. So I can relate. But...as the others have said, this is your families way of trying to stay in touch and let you know they do love you, even if it is just once a year. You kinda do have to just grin and bare it...then return the gifts to the store the next day ;)
Although yknot did have a good idea of saying you guys wanted to go out of town that weekend. That might work if you wanted to get out of it, and ask them to make donations in your name instead.
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The phrase "The Truth"
by lepermessiah inso, i am curious..... how many of you have a hard time getting that phrase out of your vocabulary?.
i have been conscienciously trying not to use it at all, so now when i am in a conversation with a jw, its amazing how often they use that phrase.
i look back and wonder "god, did i say that that often?
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xeracia
I hate it too. My sister still uses it. Which I find rather ironic since she has not attended a meeting in years due to the pedophile issue. If it was "the truth" would pedophiles be walking around amongst clueless people? I keep slipping in little bits of knowledge here and there trying to get her to do some research, like the 1914 thing. Maybe she will stop using the term. I can hope at least.
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Bipolar disorder
by LunaFing init's been a long time since i've been to this site.
i just want to vent a little.
i was diagnosed with rapid cycling bipolar disorder early this year.
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xeracia
I've also been diagnosed bipolar so I can definitely sympathize. It will take awhile for them to find the right medication that works for you, and just a warning, some of them might even make you worse. But hang in there. Once they find one that is right for you it is absolutely worth the trouble. Don't ever quit taking something because it seems to be making you too sleepy all the time or because you don't like what it is doing to you without notifying your doctor.
As far as your mother goes. My advice would be to be honest with her. Tell her you appreciate her concern and helping with your children. And that you love her very much and want her to be apart of your life and the lives of your kids, but that you are going through a rough time right now, have no plans to return to that religion and her hounding you about it is making things more difficult for you. Ask her to please stop. Do it nicely, don't attack her. If she still gets angry about it then that is her problem. But any logical person should take the request to heart and back off on the matter. Hopefully that will work in this case and you can still have your mother in your life. If not, at least the hounding will stop and you can stop ignoring her.
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Realization I had today
by xeracia intoday i attended my aunt's graduation.
she went through the adult education program and got her ged.
we were supposed to do this program together and due to family issues, i had to back out and could not finish.
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Today I attended my aunt's graduation. She went through the adult education program and got her GED. We were supposed to do this program together and due to family issues, I had to back out and could not finish. So while I was sitting there today listening to the program, the speaker was talking about how these students had gone through hard times. They had dropped out of highschool to go to work to support their families, or they had had rough childhoods and gone through hardships and then realized the importance of an education later on in life. And then different graduates came up and gave their stories. It was all quite inspiring. And it pissed me off! Because I realized that I did the work!
See, I was one of those kids that was homeschooled. I was forced into homeschool in ninth grade. I continued my education and I have the knowledge. I just don't have the piece of paper. So now I have to fit the time in to go down and do the freaking testing because my parents were dumb and didn't take me down to do it when I was a teenager because they thought it wasn't important back then. They thought I was just going to be a little housewife to some elder and be a pioneer so it wouldn't matter. And this is why I am finding it so difficult to go down there and do this. As much as I try not to be resentful towards my parents, because I know they thought they were doing what was best for me...this is the issue I cannot get around.
Yay to my aunt for graduating!!!!!
Thanks for listening to me rant!
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xeracia
"In 1619, Virginia colonists formed the House of Burgesses."
From my daughter's Social Studies book.
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Holy Bibble
by xeracia inthis is a hilarious web comic that unfortunately the authors stopped writing due to real life issues.
it takes a very satiracal look at the bible.. http://holybibble.net/latest.php?id=1.
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xeracia
This is a hilarious web comic that unfortunately the authors stopped writing due to real life issues. It takes a very satiracal look at the bible.