Your fight isn't with your wife nor with Jehovah. It may sound strange but that's how it seems to me--I've had so many arguments with my wife about the WT hierarchy!
Realizing that my wife is being mentally controlled isn't easy. I realize too that until a few years ago I was too.
The WT uses Jehovah as a strawman, a scapegoat to deflect blame for itself. I believe that in order to fight this battle one needs to see who the real enemy is. Not to be throwing punches at the air, but make each blow stick and find its target.
The real target is the people who control and support the WT.
Jehovah doesn't feel the pain when you strike out. What is really going to hurt the WT beast is to make it easier for people to wake up and stop supporting the WT with contributions and with free labor.
I hope you find some relief and peace. Don't blame or accuse your wife, she's been made to protect the WT through mind control, give her space and treat her like the victim of this cult that she really is.