So sorry I have been there and the casual way they announce the cutting off of family and friends is a disgrace. Your arguments are logical and clear but I feel they will not swerve from their decision thee is no god in this process. Will be thinking of you and yours.
Posts by nugget
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35Prelude to a disfellowshipping: An open letter.
by rory-ks inan open letter to the body of elders, .
sudbury (suffolk) congregation of jehovah's witnesses.. .
on wednesday, april 4, 2012, the decision will be carried out to announce to the congregation that, rory sullivan is no longer one of jehovah's witnesses.. .
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And down comes the house of cards
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nugget
In the past the sign of Jehovah's backing was always supposed to be how everything was expanding. They needed new buildings, new accommodation to cope with the increase, more and more literature and more and more people to produce it. In the last few years everything has been shrinking. They call it consolidation but that is just a name for downsizing. Fewer Bethels, smaller and fewer magazines, fewer meetings. However the burden on the members remains just as high with a book study of 1 hour being replaced with family worship night. Field service is pushed as never before and aux pioneer hours are only reduced in memorial season to provide extra guilt if you don't do it and to boost the end of the year report.
They are reducing their outgoings so they remain just as wealthy. The faithful will forget the scriptures that talk of God speeding up the work and the implication of growth and focus on the nearness to the end. How long can they keep up the deception?
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REAL life of a JW!
by Silent_Scream inborn into jw family.
5 years old - you are told celebrations and gifts on those days are from satan.
therefore, in school, your an weird outcast.
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nugget
The cult is driving me nuts this week. As you pointed out the conditioning starts young. For girls things are a little different. At 16 you enter the race for a husband and for the next 5 to 7 years try to get noticed by a brother. If you hit 25 unmarried you are an old maid with no hope all.
You are told that spiritual qualities count for more than physical appearance and yet young and pretty always gets married first.
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JW World Record - Youngest Baptism
by soiledumpling inplease let me know the age of the youngest child getting baptised.. i knew of a girl of 11 years.. .
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Getting baptised at 6 is a travesty, how can you truly know the consequences of your actions or understand what you are getting into.
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Happy 12th birthday to JWD / JWN (us !)
by Simon inomg, today is the forum's 12th birthday !.
omg x 2 - i said the word 'birthday' and no-one was beheaded !
lol.
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nugget
My daughter was 12 yesterday too. Happy 12th birthday JWN some things are worth celebrating.
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In Love with a JW but he dumped me
by Ranavalona inso i just broke up with my jw boyfriend of over two years, nearly three.
when i met him he was disfellowshipped and i didn't find out he was a jehovah's witness unitl 4 months into the relationship.
six month into he was reinstated with the caution of getting rid of me, but he didnt.
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nugget
So sorry for you it is always a shock when the religion comes before what is important. The fact that he never fully committed to you is a good indicator of what your life would have been like. The fact that he wanted to continue seeing you without any commitment shows that he wasn't true to either you or his faith. He betrayed both.
As a witness he could never give you his heart or feel free to be with you. Even if he had chosen you, the sad truth is you would never have his heart. You could devote yourself to him but he would never do the same for you. Out there is someone who can give you his heart and love, who will take pride in being seen with you and will not put you lower in his life that his beliefs. You deserve a healthy happy relationship and in some ways you have had a lucky escape. When you get into a non dysfunctional relationship you will realise what you have been missing and wonder why you spent so much time with this man.
Good luck in your future relationships.
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Be Honest---Describe your most prevalent feeling as a witness in ONE WORD!
by MsGrowingGirl20 inlets's go!!.
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suffocating.
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stressed
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Memorial - Why do i keep going?
by maisha inevery year i attend, missing only 5 in 50 years.. i do not attend meetings nor active in anyway, my family shun me,(all devote believers) but i do feel drawn to attend each year.
i am out for sure, but i no longer have faith, or a belief in any religous body as being approved by god.. i am so screwed up now i not sure if i believe in a creator!, let alone who or what that may be.. i was born into the truth, married into the truth and my ex is devote.. i could never return to the cult now seeing it for what it is.. i served, donated, slaved for years happy to do so as has all my family.. i went out of my way to get df, sort of a wanting to die act, of rejecting the society.. i used to sit in a movie in my youth and think, wow i am so lucky, all these people are going to die and i will live forever.. even just typing this gives release to my emotions,, lol,,, yea i have many emotions,,, many regrets, basically the organisation i followed and the instructions destroyed my life in every possible way.. the power plays that i witnessed within are what first woke me up,,,at first i let it go, forgiving those involved as brothers do.
but again and again power and position is and was the thing to have, you got the power you got everything.
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nugget
eggnogg leave your agenda aside for a moment you owe someone an apology.
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Remarrying, then paradise =problem?
by Inisc inthis is a question i always wondered about and never got an answer to.. its also another reason why i'm finding it harder to believe in an 'afterlife'.. th idea that humans can live forever, now seems so scientificly impossible.. so i wanted to ask all the great minds on here,.
if someone's spouse dies, and then they remarry,then armageddon comes and goes then the deceased is resurrected,.
how,is that ever gonna work?
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it is seeking to make sense of nonsense. The witness paradigm is flawed in so many ways. The paradise could be a living hell for those who lost loved ones but are condemned to be forever appart since the resurrected one is no longer their spouse and will not marry. It would be torture for those who gave up children but died before the end still will never have them. It will be misery for everyone with judmental elders still being judgemental and controlling everyone.
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Memorial - Why do i keep going?
by maisha inevery year i attend, missing only 5 in 50 years.. i do not attend meetings nor active in anyway, my family shun me,(all devote believers) but i do feel drawn to attend each year.
i am out for sure, but i no longer have faith, or a belief in any religous body as being approved by god.. i am so screwed up now i not sure if i believe in a creator!, let alone who or what that may be.. i was born into the truth, married into the truth and my ex is devote.. i could never return to the cult now seeing it for what it is.. i served, donated, slaved for years happy to do so as has all my family.. i went out of my way to get df, sort of a wanting to die act, of rejecting the society.. i used to sit in a movie in my youth and think, wow i am so lucky, all these people are going to die and i will live forever.. even just typing this gives release to my emotions,, lol,,, yea i have many emotions,,, many regrets, basically the organisation i followed and the instructions destroyed my life in every possible way.. the power plays that i witnessed within are what first woke me up,,,at first i let it go, forgiving those involved as brothers do.
but again and again power and position is and was the thing to have, you got the power you got everything.
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@djeggnogg I am concerned that some of your comments can be seen as offensive to other posters. I would say that you are demonstrating the very judgemental, superior attitude that drove the OP from the organisation in the first place. I am also concerned that you are offering advice and opinion in the guise of an elder in good standing. If the society knew that you regularly posted here there may be some reprecussions since sites such as this one are disapproved of. How can members of this board trust you advice regarding acceptance within the congregation when you don't follow the rules laid down by those congregations? In the same way if you knew an elder was committing immorality would you go to that person for spiritual guidance.
I appreciate that you may feel that you are a lone voice here but perhaps you need to investigate your own compulsion for attention first and your addiction to apostacy before you have freeness of speech to preach to anyone here.