Having children doesn't make a woman more worthy or important than a woman who chooses not to have children. After all there are many women who have had children and been abusive parents or just horrible people generally.
Being a mother does not transform you overnight into some domestic godess, what it does is allow total strangers to judge your parenting style.
Don't let other people judge your choices, you sound like a level headed sensible wonan who would be a great role model for other girls and women.
