While the matter was trivial, the attitude bothered me even more. Having been such a trivial issue, there was no need to pull her.
This is the basis for the whole 'authority' structure. If they feel they can pull anyone back at any given time for any reason, and the sheep comply, they have nothing to ever worry about. The first thing to always ask is "To discuss what?" the second they try this shit. They don't like that one bit, as you are questioning their right to even do their back room trick. Next step is to always decline the invitiation and tell them you need a little time to pray about it, as you need to be in the right mindset. From there you can decide if you even want to proceed.
Oh, and if you have a JW wife tell her that she needs to speak with you first before any meetings will ever happen.