JC's are a joke. I am ashamed I ever allowed myself to be dragged in the back room for any reason.
I remember when something first clicked in my mind. Although it wasn't neccesarily for anything odd, the brothers wanted to speak to my wife. So they asked her in the back room.
She was complying without a second thought, and at the time I was SWIMMING in kool aide. So I notice she is walking to the back and grab my bag thinking maybe we are leaving. She walks into the back room. So I didn't like the way that felt. Door closed.
I stood there for 5 seconds. Like a dummy. Then my balls dropped and I knocked on the door. They cracked it.
I said, "may I come in?"
A nervous "suuuure", came out. I sat with her and listened. Something about her time, emotional state, whatever.
At the end of it, I said, "hey guys, I'm not sure how you would feel about me asking your wife to join me in private for a conversation you weren't invited to, but it doesn't really set well with me."
After they backtracked, and said nothing was meant improper blah blah.....I just said "no problem brothers, just don't let it happen again. I am certain that is not the proceedure even though I'm not sure one exists."
I still think i let them off easy, but it opened my eyes to the unwilling control I had given strangers over my wife and myself! I never "obeyed" the elders again.