If someone is doing something they don't want to do and being somewhere they don't want to be then that pretty much fulfils my definition of not being true to yourself as you're trying to keep on the right side of other people by modifying your own behaviour. Your definition may be different.
Landy, I can't speak for any others here but I took no offense to your comment. In the end I do want to find a way to be true myself and true in my relationship with others. However, I fear that this must be embarked on very slowly. I'm a MS currently and if I just stop showing up for meetings it will be very noticeable. If I sit my wife down and have a talk about everything I'm thinking, I could be getting a divorce very soon. Even by fading away I will not really be able to be 100% truthful. I will have to come up with excuses for why I'm not attending, going out in service etc. To really be true to myself I would have to walk in and tell everyone what I really think about everything and likely be DFed. I have thought about that before. Sometimes when I am called upon to give some part (being an MS and all) I will miss the meeting on purpose. The reason being that lately I get very anxious that I will say the wrong thing on stage and give myself away. It is not an easy place to be in, if I need to fake it a little bit to get the best results then I will do it.