When I left in 1990 I got lots of the sexier clothes. I think I had 3 or 4 bustiers back in the day to go with leggings or shorts and a jacket. For a while the dresses hung in the closet and then I guess I threw them out. I have a couple of dressier outfits these days but will be looking for some sexier clothes as my weight drops. SO far I have lost 40 pounds. Living in Florida, go for the cooler stuff. You should see my flip-flop collection!
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Did your wardrobe of clothes change when you left the JW'S
by Hairyhegoat inmine did and i have not put a suit on since escaping the cult.
the mrs has given all but 1 away to the charity shops and i have loads more room in me wardrobe now.
what items of clothing did you get rid of when you got out of the cult ?
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What 'hooked' you... and what made you leave?
by s0rt3d ini wasn't born in.
i got hooked in as a teenager.
was going through a tough time, wondered why we exist, why god wasn't doing anything to solve man's problems, if there was a true religion and, hey-presto, a jw classmate showed up with book that not only asked the questions i was asking but answered them too!.
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mamamo
Didn't have a choice, parents, grandparents, etc. My mom was physically abused by my father as was my sister and myself. For some reason I didn't think it was right that the elders told my mom she had to stay with her disfellowshipped husband because even though he hit her, he hadn't cheated on her, so we were stuck. Too many other examples of women being treated as second class citizens. I just started to fade and then the elders visited, so I quit, disassocciated myself before I did anything to get disfellowshiped for. That was 20 years ago.
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Did you ever find the meetings refreshing?
by highdose ini can remember one pompous elder asking me "how can you be depressed after sittiing through such a wonderful meeting?!!".
i only ever felt relief at getting away, what about you?.
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mamamo
My favorite were Thursday nights when LA Law was on. I had that to look forward to.
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mamamo
My mother always makes a point of telling me how it must be harder on those doing the shunning than those of us who are being shunned. Yeah, right.
I think with sites like this and the ways we have of locating each other these days, like facebook, shunning doesn't have the effects it used to. I have located quite a few family members who are DA or DF and we are planning on getting together. I go to Ex-JW group meetings about every other month and get together with people from there. Then there are all the "worldly" friends I now have that share my interests. Living without people who don't want to have anything to do with me, no problem.
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what are the rewards for not being a witness any longer
by Curtains inif the carrot and stick aspect of being jehovahs witnesses upset you how do you reclaim your desire for reward?
i'm assumng that you all agree with me that feeling rewarded is a basic human desire.
how much effort do you think we should put into trying to make our lives rewarding?
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mamamo
Where should I start? Greek festival at a Greek Orthodox Church this month. I'm talking killer greek food. Able to talk to anyone I like, go with them to the movie I want to see without worrying about the rating. Christmas, New Year's, Halloween, Easter, Groundhog Day! I find ways to celebrate them all. Yeah, I'll be 46 this year but will only be celebrating for the 21st time. I'm a junior in college. I hope to make more money once I get my degree. Not so much for the materialistic things. But things like having money in the bank, not living paycheck to paycheck. Sunday mornings were made for amusement parks!
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after 40 years I guess I am being shunned
by Giordano inwell thanks to this site i have come to realize i am being shunned........i think.
i find this really funny because my wife and i were never df or da, and we walked out in the late 1960's.
and no one in the family ever shunned us.. without making too much out of it my niece has not invited us to visit and meet our new nephew.
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mamamo
I just noticed that some people who used to be on Facebook aren't anymore. I guess they might have had something come out saying how bad it is for you?
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They talked to me!
by mamamo inmy father's memorial service was tonight at a kh.
i disassociated myself 20 years ago.
i figured no one would talk to me except anyone who wasn't a jw.
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No, the ones who talked to me knew exactly who I am and the circumstances. I think it might have been because of my father dying and having nonbelievers with me. I did move an hour away 10 years ago, so I don't see all of them most of the time
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They talked to me!
by mamamo inmy father's memorial service was tonight at a kh.
i disassociated myself 20 years ago.
i figured no one would talk to me except anyone who wasn't a jw.
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mamamo
My father's memorial service was tonight at a KH. I disassociated myself 20 years ago. I figured no one would talk to me except anyone who wasn't a JW. Some of my mother's family, my sister's brother-in-law all non-JW, yeah but lots of the JWs who knew I had left talked to me. Have things changed? I was baptized before I left but did quit by disassociating myself before I did anything to get disfellowshipped for. Maybe because a couple of friends wnet with me?
And before anyone starts sending their condolences, please don't. Yes, he was one of those abusive fathers and husbands.
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What were you doing 25 years ago today....
by Magwitch inwhen the challenger exploded?.
i was dutifully going door to door to door, when a lady came to the door crying about the cahllenger.
she invited me in and i placed a set of magazines.
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mamamo
I was watching tv wondering why they were shooting it off when it was so cold here in Florida. They had never sent one off when it was that cold. I was 20. As soon as I saw the plume in the sky, I knew something was wrong. They used to let us out of classes to watch them take off. Five years later I would stop being a JW.
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What were you doing 25 years ago today....
by Magwitch inwhen the challenger exploded?.
i was dutifully going door to door to door, when a lady came to the door crying about the cahllenger.
she invited me in and i placed a set of magazines.
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