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  I wish all Witness men were like this ...

  by vienne in

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  my intro essay for the new book caused all sorts of off blog controversy.

  my writing partner, a retired educator and a witness, responded.

  why aren't more witness men like this?

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  cofty

  I take it your writing partner has been getting some ‘get your woman under control’ emails?

  That is very typical JW behaviour.
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  Is Being a “Manly Man” a Bad Thing?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
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  so much is said regarding men , in a negative way.

  shaving commercials are now lecturing us as to how bad we really are.

  men should be less masculine.

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  I find the extreme reactions to some of these issues interesting. Why are some men and some women extreme in their reactions to these issues. - FTS

  I haven't seen any extreme reactions in this thread. I have seen a lot of misrepresentation of what a lot of men ACTUALLY said.
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  Is Being a “Manly Man” a Bad Thing?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
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  so much is said regarding men , in a negative way.

  shaving commercials are now lecturing us as to how bad we really are.

  men should be less masculine.

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  cofty

  FTS - The genetic component in determining our personalities, talents and interests is huge. Of course culture does play a part in shaping our attitudes and beliefs - our personality not so much. Also it is true that a child can be permanently damaged by harmful parenting.

  The good news is that children will pretty much become what they were always going to be as adults as long as parenting is 'good enough'. The trend for excessive parental micromanaging of their offspring is a fool's errand.
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  Is Being a “Manly Man” a Bad Thing?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
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  so much is said regarding men , in a negative way.

  shaving commercials are now lecturing us as to how bad we really are.

  men should be less masculine.

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  FTS - The Bear Grylls programme was nothing but light entertainment. Interesting but anecdotal. The evidence that matters is from neuroscience and evolutionary psychology. Babies are not blank slates.
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  Is Being a “Manly Man” a Bad Thing?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
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  so much is said regarding men , in a negative way.

  shaving commercials are now lecturing us as to how bad we really are.

  men should be less masculine.

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  cofty

  TobyJones I agree with you but I would go further.

  Mentally they are really no different

  Boy brains and girl brains differentiate in the womb under the influence of testosterone. Even before they are old enough to be socialised baby boys and girls reliably demonstrate differences in interests and aptitudes. In his book We are our Brains the neuroscientist Dick Swaab describes numerous differences in the architecture of male and female brains.

  When babies are born who with intersex genitalia it used to be believed that doctors could decide the sex and parents raise them accordingly. In 50% of cases this is a disaster for the child. Best practice now observes the child until it can be determined how the brain was sexed and then perform surgery on the genitals.

  What I am NOT saying is that men or women are more intelligent. We are also talking about averages measured over a group which is why individual anecdotes are not useful.
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  what are the craziest or most daming watchtowers ever printed?

  by Tobyjones262 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so what is your favorite crazy or most damning watchtower?

  i can think of a few but one i went out and bought the bound vol for was the 1984 the generation that will not pass away.

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  The time they boasted about all the children they had murdered.

  
  
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  Is Being a “Manly Man” a Bad Thing?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
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  so much is said regarding men , in a negative way.

  shaving commercials are now lecturing us as to how bad we really are.

  men should be less masculine.

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  cofty

  boys are told to be strong, not to show emotion, don't cry,...

  That's not always bad advice. The ability to control feelings and emotions is not incompatible with being caring and compassionate.
  
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  Is Being a “Manly Man” a Bad Thing?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
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  so much is said regarding men , in a negative way.

  shaving commercials are now lecturing us as to how bad we really are.

  men should be less masculine.

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  cofty

  Spoletta the problem wasn't just a lack of ability but a total lack of interest in working together to even try to do the things necessary for group survival. The cliques, the gossip, the endless talking about what they all 'felt' about the experience and about others, the complete lack of leadership.

  It was stereotypical behaviour. The women focussed on people and feelings; the men focussed on solving practical problems.

  Are you really denying that men and women are wired differently above the neck from the womb? Really?
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  Anti vaccines

  by blisterfeet in

  1. jw
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  i personally feel that vaccinations are beneficial.

  there has been a modern movement that vaccinations are more harmful than beneficial to which i disagree.

  what is your stance as an ex jw on vaccinating your children?

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  cofty

  Washington Governor Declares State Of Emergency Over Measles Outbreak...

  How the case against the MMR vaccine was fixed...

  How the vaccine crisis was meant to make money...
  
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  Is Being a “Manly Man” a Bad Thing?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so much is said regarding men , in a negative way.

  shaving commercials are now lecturing us as to how bad we really are.

  men should be less masculine.

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  cofty

  There's a good reason insurance is higher for male teenage drivers than female teenage drivers

  There is. Young men take more reckless risks. Sadly EU law made discrimination in insurance illegal and now we all pay more.

  Reality trumped by ideology.